Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:26     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:I do believe the adult who rents the hotel room can be civilly and criminally liable for any illegal activities that occur in the room. Underage drinking, drugs, sexual assault, nuisance, etc., if t happens in the hotel room then it’s on the OP. Just like parents that allow drinking and parties by teenagers in their house.

No way, don’t be this dumb. What 16 year old is dying to spend an entire weekend in Colonial Williamsburg? Wake up.


Geez, it's like you people have never met a geek. I would have loved that when I was 16! The most I would have done is maybe watched a R-rated movie on HBO. And I also can't believe you folks never leave a teenager unattended in a hotel room. Really? For the record, I am always one that is firmly opposed to these dumb "senior weeks" and such where the kids all go off to the beach with a lot of random kids you don't know. I think this is totally different. It's one night, with a close friend, at a place where they have a geeky interest. When I was a year older than that, I was touring colleges by myself.
Although, OP, if your kid is not a history geek and it seems surprising to you that she would want to hang out in C.W. for 2 days for legit historical research, then I would totally change my opinion, as in those circumstances I would agree that they are probably going to a party at W&M.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:22     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
I went to college in Williamsburg at 16.
Gasp. Alone.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:21     Subject: Re:16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:If we were parents of one of the other girls and we found out you did this, we probably would report you to law enforcement or CPS. My husband and I would be very angry with you. It is one thing for you to do this to your kid (it is wrong but it is your choice to make); it is entirely another thing to do it to someone else's kid.


On what grounds? CPS wouldn't care. 16 year olds are allowed to be left alone; they are even allowed to be the responsible person watching younger kids. And as for the cops, violating hotel rules isn't criminal offense and this is hardly kidnapping.


No hotel policy would allow for minor children to be left alone in a hotel room like that. Sorry.

If the hotel deactivates the room key and will not reactivate it until the ADULT who actually rented the room shows up....that'll be a problem for those kids. Even if another parent drives there in the middle of the night to get their kid they probably won't be able to get their kid's stuff out of the room. They'll have to wait around for the "host parent" to finally show up and by that point I would imagine that the kids and the other parents will be furious at the host parent for being such a careless jackazz and putting them all in that situation.

This night 'o fun could so easily turn nightmarish. Suppose the kids "only" wind up getting drunk and shacking up with guys they met at a party? So much could go wrong there, too.

This is a hard no, Op. They'll be college age before you know it, don't rush it. Let them enjoy being 16.


Nothing you said remotely answers my question. The PP I was responding to (maybe you, maybe someone else) said she would call CPS or the cops. I asked on what grounds and pointed out that violating hotel policies isn't illegal or something CPS would address.

You post about hotel policies and potential negative outcomes from letting kids do this is an entirely different issue.


Contributing to the delinquency of minors might indeed matter to CPS and the police, Op.


I am not OP, and probably wouldn't do what OP is contemplating. But letting kids stay alone in a hotel room is not contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

As I pointed out in my first post, 16 year old kids are allowed to be alone. They are allowed to babysit and watch other, younger kids. Most would not bat an eye at two kids that age being left alone in a house. Being in a hotel room changes nothing. That the kids might do something problematic - boys, booze, etc - doesn't change anything because that could just as easily happen at a house. Assuming the mother is not giving the kids the booze or setting up her daughter with much older men (and that assume we are in a place where 16 yr olds aren't at the age of consent), there is no basis for the cops or CPS to get involved.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:20     Subject: Re:16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:If we were parents of one of the other girls and we found out you did this, we probably would report you to law enforcement or CPS. My husband and I would be very angry with you. It is one thing for you to do this to your kid (it is wrong but it is your choice to make); it is entirely another thing to do it to someone else's kid.


On what grounds? CPS wouldn't care. 16 year olds are allowed to be left alone; they are even allowed to be the responsible person watching younger kids. And as for the cops, violating hotel rules isn't criminal offense and this is hardly kidnapping.


No hotel policy would allow for minor children to be left alone in a hotel room like that. Sorry.

If the hotel deactivates the room key and will not reactivate it until the ADULT who actually rented the room shows up....that'll be a problem for those kids. Even if another parent drives there in the middle of the night to get their kid they probably won't be able to get their kid's stuff out of the room. They'll have to wait around for the "host parent" to finally show up and by that point I would imagine that the kids and the other parents will be furious at the host parent for being such a careless jackazz and putting them all in that situation.

This night 'o fun could so easily turn nightmarish. Suppose the kids "only" wind up getting drunk and shacking up with guys they met at a party? So much could go wrong there, too.

This is a hard no, Op. They'll be college age before you know it, don't rush it. Let them enjoy being 16.


Nothing you said remotely answers my question. The PP I was responding to (maybe you, maybe someone else) said she would call CPS or the cops. I asked on what grounds and pointed out that violating hotel policies isn't illegal or something CPS would address.

You post about hotel policies and potential negative outcomes from letting kids do this is an entirely different issue.


Contributing to the delinquency of minors might indeed matter to CPS and the police, Op.

DP. What kind of world do you live in? Or do you actually live in a drone where you watch your kids non stop, helicopter parents have nothing on you. BTW, my then 16 year old went to plenty of sport games on his own. Stayed in B&Bs, with friends, never caused any trouble, never had police called. I leave house for couple of hours, my DD throws a party. Do you ever leave your teens alone, ever? Kids will be kids, they get in trouble, they get in trouble, you droning over them will just make you insane and them incapable of living on their own. Rules that many hotels have for 18 years old not allowing them to stay alone are probably illegal. I bet you I sue them for discrimination, I might win.


Purposely driving your kid 3 hours away, checking them into a hotel under your name and then taking off while they......?? Go to frat parties? Tailgate at football games?? Shack up with hot college guys?

Come on...let's not play dumb.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:18     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
I do believe the adult who rents the hotel room can be civilly and criminally liable for any illegal activities that occur in the room. Underage drinking, drugs, sexual assault, nuisance, etc., if t happens in the hotel room then it’s on the OP. Just like parents that allow drinking and parties by teenagers in their house.

No way, don’t be this dumb. What 16 year old is dying to spend an entire weekend in Colonial Williamsburg? Wake up.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:17     Subject: Re:16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If we were parents of one of the other girls and we found out you did this, we probably would report you to law enforcement or CPS. My husband and I would be very angry with you. It is one thing for you to do this to your kid (it is wrong but it is your choice to make); it is entirely another thing to do it to someone else's kid.


On what grounds? CPS wouldn't care. 16 year olds are allowed to be left alone; they are even allowed to be the responsible person watching younger kids. And as for the cops, violating hotel rules isn't criminal offense and this is hardly kidnapping.


No hotel policy would allow for minor children to be left alone in a hotel room like that. Sorry.

If the hotel deactivates the room key and will not reactivate it until the ADULT who actually rented the room shows up....that'll be a problem for those kids. Even if another parent drives there in the middle of the night to get their kid they probably won't be able to get their kid's stuff out of the room. They'll have to wait around for the "host parent" to finally show up and by that point I would imagine that the kids and the other parents will be furious at the host parent for being such a careless jackazz and putting them all in that situation.

This night 'o fun could so easily turn nightmarish. Suppose the kids "only" wind up getting drunk and shacking up with guys they met at a party? So much could go wrong there, too.

This is a hard no, Op. They'll be college age before you know it, don't rush it. Let them enjoy being 16.


Nothing you said remotely answers my question. The PP I was responding to (maybe you, maybe someone else) said she would call CPS or the cops. I asked on what grounds and pointed out that violating hotel policies isn't illegal or something CPS would address.

You post about hotel policies and potential negative outcomes from letting kids do this is an entirely different issue.


Contributing to the delinquency of minors might indeed matter to CPS and the police, Op.

DP. What kind of world do you live in? Or do you actually live in a drone where you watch your kids non stop, helicopter parents have nothing on you. BTW, my then 16 year old went to plenty of sport games on his own. Stayed in B&Bs, with friends, never caused any trouble, never had police called. I leave house for couple of hours, my DD throws a party. Do you ever leave your teens alone, ever? Kids will be kids, they get in trouble, they get in trouble, you droning over them will just make you insane and them incapable of living on their own. Rules that many hotels have for 18 years old not allowing them to stay alone are probably illegal. I bet you I sue them for discrimination, I might win.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:16     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
Nope, nope, nope.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:14     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
If people could get away with this, you would see unaccompanied children being dumped off in hotel rooms ALL The Time. Parents need their me time, right?

Sadly, hotels don't want their hallways filled with unsupervised children.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:10     Subject: Re:16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If we were parents of one of the other girls and we found out you did this, we probably would report you to law enforcement or CPS. My husband and I would be very angry with you. It is one thing for you to do this to your kid (it is wrong but it is your choice to make); it is entirely another thing to do it to someone else's kid.


On what grounds? CPS wouldn't care. 16 year olds are allowed to be left alone; they are even allowed to be the responsible person watching younger kids. And as for the cops, violating hotel rules isn't criminal offense and this is hardly kidnapping.


No hotel policy would allow for minor children to be left alone in a hotel room like that. Sorry.

If the hotel deactivates the room key and will not reactivate it until the ADULT who actually rented the room shows up....that'll be a problem for those kids. Even if another parent drives there in the middle of the night to get their kid they probably won't be able to get their kid's stuff out of the room. They'll have to wait around for the "host parent" to finally show up and by that point I would imagine that the kids and the other parents will be furious at the host parent for being such a careless jackazz and putting them all in that situation.

This night 'o fun could so easily turn nightmarish. Suppose the kids "only" wind up getting drunk and shacking up with guys they met at a party? So much could go wrong there, too.

This is a hard no, Op. They'll be college age before you know it, don't rush it. Let them enjoy being 16.


Nothing you said remotely answers my question. The PP I was responding to (maybe you, maybe someone else) said she would call CPS or the cops. I asked on what grounds and pointed out that violating hotel policies isn't illegal or something CPS would address.

You post about hotel policies and potential negative outcomes from letting kids do this is an entirely different issue.


Contributing to the delinquency of minors might indeed matter to CPS and the police, Op.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:05     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
You've got to be nuts, OP.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 11:01     Subject: Re:16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If we were parents of one of the other girls and we found out you did this, we probably would report you to law enforcement or CPS. My husband and I would be very angry with you. It is one thing for you to do this to your kid (it is wrong but it is your choice to make); it is entirely another thing to do it to someone else's kid.


On what grounds? CPS wouldn't care. 16 year olds are allowed to be left alone; they are even allowed to be the responsible person watching younger kids. And as for the cops, violating hotel rules isn't criminal offense and this is hardly kidnapping.


No hotel policy would allow for minor children to be left alone in a hotel room like that. Sorry.

If the hotel deactivates the room key and will not reactivate it until the ADULT who actually rented the room shows up....that'll be a problem for those kids. Even if another parent drives there in the middle of the night to get their kid they probably won't be able to get their kid's stuff out of the room. They'll have to wait around for the "host parent" to finally show up and by that point I would imagine that the kids and the other parents will be furious at the host parent for being such a careless jackazz and putting them all in that situation.

This night 'o fun could so easily turn nightmarish. Suppose the kids "only" wind up getting drunk and shacking up with guys they met at a party? So much could go wrong there, too.

This is a hard no, Op. They'll be college age before you know it, don't rush it. Let them enjoy being 16.


Nothing you said remotely answers my question. The PP I was responding to (maybe you, maybe someone else) said she would call CPS or the cops. I asked on what grounds and pointed out that violating hotel policies isn't illegal or something CPS would address.

You post about hotel policies and potential negative outcomes from letting kids do this is an entirely different issue.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 10:59     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:Congrats on all the sex your 16 year old is going to have


Who are you and what is your problem? You are in every thread like this nasty crow preaching and judging. I tend to think you are one person, but maybe there are few of you, evil, never been young, despot parents. Were you raised by Brigham Young? Do you ever smile? What is wrong with sex? What is wrong with you? Why do you project some insecure puritan agenda to all the threads?
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 10:53     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
No, no and no. And not even at 18 at most places. Call B&B, they allow it.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 10:48     Subject: Re:16 year old in hotel alone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If we were parents of one of the other girls and we found out you did this, we probably would report you to law enforcement or CPS. My husband and I would be very angry with you. It is one thing for you to do this to your kid (it is wrong but it is your choice to make); it is entirely another thing to do it to someone else's kid.


On what grounds? CPS wouldn't care. 16 year olds are allowed to be left alone; they are even allowed to be the responsible person watching younger kids. And as for the cops, violating hotel rules isn't criminal offense and this is hardly kidnapping.


No hotel policy would allow for minor children to be left alone in a hotel room like that. Sorry.

If the hotel deactivates the room key and will not reactivate it until the ADULT who actually rented the room shows up....that'll be a problem for those kids. Even if another parent drives there in the middle of the night to get their kid they probably won't be able to get their kid's stuff out of the room. They'll have to wait around for the "host parent" to finally show up and by that point I would imagine that the kids and the other parents will be furious at the host parent for being such a careless jackazz and putting them all in that situation.

This night 'o fun could so easily turn nightmarish. Suppose the kids "only" wind up getting drunk and shacking up with guys they met at a party? So much could go wrong there, too.

This is a hard no, Op. They'll be college age before you know it, don't rush it. Let them enjoy being 16.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2018 10:28     Subject: 16 year old in hotel alone?
No. Pick another weekend you can go with them. Or go along and work from the hotel while they are out for the day.