Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is something that does not add up about that freshman with the transgender roommate.

If the roommate now identifies as a male, wouldn't they give him a male roommate? No school that I know of gives freshmen roommates of the opposite sex. That would not be respectful of either student.

Sounds fishy to me. What school are they claiming that happened at?

Pp here. The roommate is biologically female, and all paperwork still has a female name on it. However, he goes by a male name and lives as a male.

Then they’re actually being dismissive of his feelings he is now be a male. So offensive.

I work on a college campus.

What there is a lot of is teens still experimenting with sexual orientation and gender identity. Society is very accepting now (at least on my campus) of no one being sure of who they are and finding yourself / figuring yourself out. There are some 'true' transgender kids, and then lots who just want to use gender neutral pronouns, or who are gender fluid, or who are trying on different hats.

To the OP with the daughter who has a guy as a roommate who is male. Unless coed rooms are typical or were requested, she should speak to her RA to say she wasn't aware she might be living with a man. She doesn't need to mention the transgender aspect. Just that she isn't comfortable sharing a room with a guy (assuming he is out)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

I feel sorry for your daughter. She should not have been put in this situation. I understand she doesn’t want to appear discriminatory, but if it were me, I would request a change. Not because it is a “guy,” but because I would worry about the mental stability of this person. Seems to me that a person who cannot make up their mind what they “are” has issues.

Two wonderful examples of ignorance and discrimination at its best. Idiots.

If there were mental issues or safety issues involved in this situation the college would have put this other kid in a single room.

Yes because colleges always do the right thing and look out for our kids’ inteeest.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

Lol. The powerful gay lobby...

Yeah the powerful gay lobby who was actually able to get the DNC to include the term "non-binary" in its party's platform. A term that would have been considered science fiction ten years ago.

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

Lol. The powerful gay lobby...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

I feel sorry for your daughter. She should not have been put in this situation. I understand she doesn’t want to appear discriminatory, but if it were me, I would request a change. Not because it is a “guy,” but because I would worry about the mental stability of this person. Seems to me that a person who cannot make up their mind what they “are” has issues.

Two wonderful examples of ignorance and discrimination at its best. Idiots.

If there were mental issues or safety issues involved in this situation the college would have put this other kid in a single room.

I strongly disagree. Trans people have very high rates of suicide and other mental issues. I feel very bad for your daughter. Why can’t people just be normal? Changing your gender is NOT normal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

Your lack of knowledge is stunning. Gender and physical sex are two different things. One is driven by our brain and the other is physical. Although the vast majority of the time the two agree sometimes they don't. This is why you have young children present as transgender. Given how complex our brain is I'm always amazed that people don't understand the relatively simple concept that not all brains work alike.

I'm fully aware of the positions you espouse. There is actually no publishable science that shows this kind of variation in the human brain. I had a colleague who transitioned from male to female 15 years ago. He went to Belgium as no doctors in the US would perform the surgery. The term transgender wasn't commonly used or understood at that time. Search the term now and you'll be flooded with ads from U.S. medical practices eager to give you hormones, perform surgeries. Very profitable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

I feel sorry for your daughter. She should not have been put in this situation. I understand she doesn’t want to appear discriminatory, but if it were me, I would request a change. Not because it is a “guy,” but because I would worry about the mental stability of this person. Seems to me that a person who cannot make up their mind what they “are” has issues.

Two wonderful examples of ignorance and discrimination at its best. Idiots.

If there were mental issues or safety issues involved in this situation the college would have put this other kid in a single room.

Anonymous wrote:I recently saw a tweet about how Franklin and Marshall College has updated their housing forms so that students can select what gender they identify as and what gender they’d be comfortable rooming with. I think this is a smart strategy to make sure everyone is comfortable with their living situation.

Yeah but colleges don't allow boys and girls to room together even if they are comfortable with it. Isn't allowing two male identified or female identified people to room together kind of the same thing?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

If the roommate is identifying as a male why is he in a female dorm?

The roommate could be gender fluid and only be identifying as a male temporarily. This is a big thing now. In fact, being non binary or gender fluid seems to be the new popular way of being trans

Anonymous wrote:I recently saw a tweet about how Franklin and Marshall College has updated their housing forms so that students can select what gender they identify as and what gender they’d be comfortable rooming with. I think this is a smart strategy to make sure everyone is comfortable with their living situation.

Vast majority of schools have done this. But if all students don't share this information for whatever reason, you will have issues.

My sibling is trans. Trust me, it’s not a trend, it’s not a “choice” and it’s not fun and cool for her. She’s harassed constantly. She was fired from her job this spring. She’s ostracized all the time. There is a reason why the trans population (in particular MTF) has the HIGHEST suicide rate of anyone else, and highest by a very wide margin.

The comments on here are repulsive.

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

Your lack of knowledge is stunning. Gender and physical sex are two different things. One is driven by our brain and the other is physical. Although the vast majority of the time the two agree sometimes they don't. This is why you have young children present as transgender. Given how complex our brain is I'm always amazed that people don't understand the relatively simple concept that not all brains work alike.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

I feel sorry for your daughter. She should not have been put in this situation. I understand she doesn’t want to appear discriminatory, but if it were me, I would request a change. Not because it is a “guy,” but because I would worry about the mental stability of this person. Seems to me that a person who cannot make up their mind what they “are” has issues.

Yeah, and other reasons too

I recently saw a tweet about how Franklin and Marshall College has updated their housing forms so that students can select what gender they identify as and what gender they’d be comfortable rooming with. I think this is a smart strategy to make sure everyone is comfortable with their living situation.