Anonymous wrote:Nope, you and DH should be together as a unit.. all go, or no one goes. This sets a precedent and will become a slippery slope later in your marriage. Also it will make DH seem selfish by leaving you at home with young children.

This approach sounds suffocating to me.

Anonymous wrote:DH took our 2 (ages 5 and 2) to vacation with his family (5 days) and it was glorious. He arranged for his sister to give him a hand and everyone had a great time without me.
They are very nice people. But loud, teasing and nosy. Traveling with them makes me want to pull my hair out.

+1

What a nice sister your DH has!

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I did NOT make the pedophile comment. DH's family is full of great people. Quirky, dive me nuts, a really big group, good hearts. I was talking wit hsome friends today about their inlaws, reminded me I would have it so much worse (though I still don't want to go on this vacation).

Sorry for calling you a troll. Other person is a troll though bc wtf.

Can you go for just part of the time? We often just go for part of a family trip as my SN gets overwhelmed off schedule so it’s just best all around.

DH took our 2 (ages 5 and 2) to vacation with his family (5 days) and it was glorious. He arranged for his sister to give him a hand and everyone had a great time without me.
They are very nice people. But loud, teasing and nosy. Traveling with them makes me want to pull my hair out.

This is OP. I did NOT make the pedophile comment. DH's family is full of great people. Quirky, dive me nuts, a really big group, good hearts. I was talking wit hsome friends today about their inlaws, reminded me I would have it so much worse (though I still don't want to go on this vacation).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would totally let my husband take the kids for a week with his family with out me. I would even plan a mini staycation and spa day. Have drinks with friends, go to the 730 pm fitness class, eat what I want. I would love it.

Op, do you work?

. There’s a pedophile in his family that no one will admit. Otherwise I’d be happy for the children to go too.

Troll

I might agree as a normal person would have lead with this reasoning. Just pushing this out there makes me agree

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would totally let my husband take the kids for a week with his family with out me. I would even plan a mini staycation and spa day. Have drinks with friends, go to the 730 pm fitness class, eat what I want. I would love it.

Op, do you work?

. There’s a pedophile in his family that no one will admit. Otherwise I’d be happy for the children to go too.

Troll

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would totally let my husband take the kids for a week with his family with out me. I would even plan a mini staycation and spa day. Have drinks with friends, go to the 730 pm fitness class, eat what I want. I would love it.

Op, do you work?

. There’s a pedophile in his family that no one will admit. Otherwise I’d be happy for the children to go too.

No one goes on this vacation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would totally let my husband take the kids for a week with his family with out me. I would even plan a mini staycation and spa day. Have drinks with friends, go to the 730 pm fitness class, eat what I want. I would love it.

Op, do you work?

. There’s a pedophile in his family that no one will admit. Otherwise I’d be happy for the children to go too.

Ummmm then maybe the kids don’t go until they’re adults or never. Seriously no way Jose if I was you.

Anonymous wrote:I would totally let my husband take the kids for a week with his family with out me. I would even plan a mini staycation and spa day. Have drinks with friends, go to the 730 pm fitness class, eat what I want. I would love it.

Op, do you work?

. There’s a pedophile in his family that no one will admit. Otherwise I’d be happy for the children to go too.

Op here. Yes, I work. I'd miss the kids if DH took them, but would feel like a jerk keeping them from cousins and grandparents if I insisted they stay here (at least the oldest one). I do worry about safety with a large group and DH (who is a good guy) thinking someone else is keeping an eye on things. Nice to hear other people's experiences. Maybe we'll try having DH go by himself this year, then taking the oldest when they're 7 or 8.

I would totally let my husband take the kids for a week with his family with out me. I would even plan a mini staycation and spa day. Have drinks with friends, go to the 730 pm fitness class, eat what I want. I would love it.

Op, do you work?

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read responses but I’d kick my heals and say oh happy day. I don’t consider spending time w my in laws a vacation. I’d be happy if he went with me, and I don’t want my kids there without me.

without me

I haven’t read responses but I’d kick my heals and say oh happy day. I don’t consider spending time w my in laws a vacation. I’d be happy if he went with me, and I don’t want my kids there without me.

Anonymous wrote:I would definitely try it and see how it goes. You aren't signing up to do it every year. I would also consider having him go for a shorter time vs. the full week of the vacation. He can make his appearance, get in some good quality time and then get back to you and the kids.

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I like this idea, OP. DH only wants to see 1/12 of his birth family members on "vacation", and if that particular family member attends, DH is happy he went.