Anonymous
09/07/2018 21:14
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:I wish my child had the comfort of knowing she could come home. She chose a school across the country so its either make it or not. So far, she's been OK. They've only been in school a couple of weeks with classes only starting this week. I think when she experiences a hiccup (which all kids do), it will be a problem. I am worried but know its a growing process. Plan to fly out and see her over parents' weekend in October. Expect a bunch of tears once I'm there. But, I think once I'm gone, she'll do OK again.
Glad she’s doing well so far! Sounds like a great plan. I think your predictions are spot on. Probably hard waiting for October.
Anonymous
09/07/2018 21:02
Subject: Homesick Freshman
My sister hated her university pretty much immediately. My parents refused to let her come home. Told her to stick it out. She failed three courses, aced one.
She ended up transferring to a small somewhat selective in-state LAC and graduated with a 4.0.
She ended up transferring to a small somewhat selective in-state LAC and graduated with a 4.0.
Anonymous
09/07/2018 20:11
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
I wish my child had the comfort of knowing she could come home. She chose a school across the country so its either make it or not. So far, she's been OK. They've only been in school a couple of weeks with classes only starting this week. I think when she experiences a hiccup (which all kids do), it will be a problem. I am worried but know its a growing process. Plan to fly out and see her over parents' weekend in October. Expect a bunch of tears once I'm there. But, I think once I'm gone, she'll do OK again.
Anonymous
09/05/2018 18:31
Subject: Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DS has adjusted well to college and likes being there. But he also has the advantage of being close enough to home that he can visit during the weekend if he wants to. And this weekend he wanted to, so he did.
I think it's less home sickness than it is "why choose one when you can have both". He was happy to come home for a little while and he was happy to go back.
How long have they been there? A week or two? I'd be really careful about letting this become a habit. You don't want a kid who runs home every time they are bored or feel lonely. You're paying for access to all those clubs and activities he's not checking out if he's coming home.
What, are you going to tell him he can’t come home? Omg you’re an awful parent!
Relax. The PP didn’t say anyone can’t come home. But we did discourage ours from coming home too often because he was beginning to disengage from college. The trips home became more frequent and seemed like an escape. He was driving the car we gave him and we simply laid down some rules about driving home. Hardly tyrannical. And it worked. And once he built a life for himself at school the need to come home dropped to nearly zero. Not a rule for every kid but for some kids coming home does represent a risk to to developing socially. Jeez, what a drama queen.
Thanks for the heads up. If I notice a pattern like that developing I'll talk to him about it. So far so good though.
Anonymous
09/05/2018 09:34
Subject: Homesick Freshman
I think one of the hardest things for parents is distinguishing between homesick parents and homesick kids. While it is great to have them home even after just a couple of weeks, it is really important for the kids to engage with college from the beginning, coming home after a couple of weeks may not be the best strategy and I would think should not be encouraged.
Anonymous
09/05/2018 09:16
Subject: Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DS has adjusted well to college and likes being there. But he also has the advantage of being close enough to home that he can visit during the weekend if he wants to. And this weekend he wanted to, so he did.
I think it's less home sickness than it is "why choose one when you can have both". He was happy to come home for a little while and he was happy to go back.
How long have they been there? A week or two? I'd be really careful about letting this become a habit. You don't want a kid who runs home every time they are bored or feel lonely. You're paying for access to all those clubs and activities he's not checking out if he's coming home.
What, are you going to tell him he can’t come home? Omg you’re an awful parent!
Relax. The PP didn’t say anyone can’t come home. But we did discourage ours from coming home too often because he was beginning to disengage from college. The trips home became more frequent and seemed like an escape. He was driving the car we gave him and we simply laid down some rules about driving home. Hardly tyrannical. And it worked. And once he built a life for himself at school the need to come home dropped to nearly zero. Not a rule for every kid but for some kids coming home does represent a risk to to developing socially. Jeez, what a drama queen.
Anonymous
09/05/2018 00:04
Subject: Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DS has adjusted well to college and likes being there. But he also has the advantage of being close enough to home that he can visit during the weekend if he wants to. And this weekend he wanted to, so he did.
I think it's less home sickness than it is "why choose one when you can have both". He was happy to come home for a little while and he was happy to go back.
How long have they been there? A week or two? I'd be really careful about letting this become a habit. You don't want a kid who runs home every time they are bored or feel lonely. You're paying for access to all those clubs and activities he's not checking out if he's coming home.
What, are you going to tell him he can’t come home? Omg you’re an awful parent!
Anonymous
09/04/2018 23:50
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:No air conditioning is an issue, their room is 95 at night.
DD didn't have AC. Her and her roommate had 2 box fans in the window, one large standing fan, and one small table fan for each. They obviously weren't sleeping under piles of blankets or in thick/long pajamas. With all this, they were completely fine. In HUMID and hot Virginia. So many kids have done this and it's a good experience to go through!
Anonymous
09/04/2018 22:18
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No air conditioning is an issue, their room is 95 at night.
This is the real problem for my nephew and son right now and they are in CT and upstate NY where we thought unairconditioned dorms would not be an issue.
Order them some fans.
I hope you're just a troll. 90s in a dorm room is legitimately unsafe to sleep in. A fan will do nothing to cool that down, esp with humidity.
Oh my gosh, you know this is a lie, right? I didn’t have air conditioning any any of my dorms. Heck, my first several apartments didn’t have it either.
Stop acting like no one ever lived through 90 degree weather before air conditioning was invented.
Anonymous
09/04/2018 15:11
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So? It's not like they are naked. It's college. Unclench.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a great way to make friends. The whole dorm floor sleeping in the hallway = ice breakerAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No air conditioning is an issue, their room is 95 at night.
This is the real problem for my nephew and son right now and they are in CT and upstate NY where we thought unairconditioned dorms would not be an issue.
Order them some fans.
They have fans. It is still hot.
Tell them to stay hydrated. The heat is miserable but I remember actually getting used to it after awhile.
Hopefully the worst of the heat will be over soon and next thing you know they'll be complaining because the school hasn't turned the heat on, yet.
I'm the 1st poster. They are sleeping in the hallway because the air is moving in the hallway. He tried sleeping in front of the minifridge but it didn't work. I told him to go to an air conditioned library and sleep there between classes.
Yea, it's a coed floor.
I was not being negative. I think it's funny. While 95 is really hot, I secretly am happy, i was a starving student and he is getting jamba juice, sushi and lobster rolls next week.
I know. My kid is getting Papa John's, Chick-fil-a, made to order subs and tacos. When I was a kid we got: Scrod at the dining hall (shudder). No wonder I lost 15 pounds the first semester, lol.
Anonymous
09/04/2018 14:44
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:So? It's not like they are naked. It's college. Unclench.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a great way to make friends. The whole dorm floor sleeping in the hallway = ice breakerAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No air conditioning is an issue, their room is 95 at night.
This is the real problem for my nephew and son right now and they are in CT and upstate NY where we thought unairconditioned dorms would not be an issue.
Order them some fans.
They have fans. It is still hot.
Tell them to stay hydrated. The heat is miserable but I remember actually getting used to it after awhile.
Hopefully the worst of the heat will be over soon and next thing you know they'll be complaining because the school hasn't turned the heat on, yet.
I'm the 1st poster. They are sleeping in the hallway because the air is moving in the hallway. He tried sleeping in front of the minifridge but it didn't work. I told him to go to an air conditioned library and sleep there between classes.
Yea, it's a coed floor.
I was not being negative. I think it's funny. While 95 is really hot, I secretly am happy, i was a starving student and he is getting jamba juice, sushi and lobster rolls next week.
Anonymous
09/04/2018 14:37
Subject: Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not homesick because missing comfort of AC, but missing home.
They are too hot and miserable to miss home.
That's what a nice cold beer is for.
Mm, beer.
Anonymous
09/04/2018 14:16
Subject: Homesick Freshman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not homesick because missing comfort of AC, but missing home.
They are too hot and miserable to miss home.
That's what a nice cold beer is for.
Anonymous
09/04/2018 14:12
Subject: Re:Homesick Freshman
So? It's not like they are naked. It's college. Unclench.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a great way to make friends. The whole dorm floor sleeping in the hallway = ice breakerAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No air conditioning is an issue, their room is 95 at night.
This is the real problem for my nephew and son right now and they are in CT and upstate NY where we thought unairconditioned dorms would not be an issue.
Order them some fans.
They have fans. It is still hot.
Tell them to stay hydrated. The heat is miserable but I remember actually getting used to it after awhile.
Hopefully the worst of the heat will be over soon and next thing you know they'll be complaining because the school hasn't turned the heat on, yet.
I'm the 1st poster. They are sleeping in the hallway because the air is moving in the hallway. He tried sleeping in front of the minifridge but it didn't work. I told him to go to an air conditioned library and sleep there between classes.
Yea, it's a coed floor.
Anonymous
09/04/2018 14:11
Subject: Homesick Freshman
Can't they get a room AC?