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Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I honestly would not mind if DH went. The other couple would still go. The trip would not be ruined for them, by any means and they would probably have more fun without me whining and complaining the whole time

So you want your husband to go alone with another couple. Dinner dates, etc. Man, you’re selfish. Just stop.

Maybe he can bring a nice former girlfriend?

Wow, what an inappropriate response. It seems to me that many of the posters here are jealous that OP is considering canceling a trip that they do not have the ability to take themselves.

Not at all. I take a lot of wonderful trips. I’m just not a self centered buffoon who thinks everyone else needs to rearrange their lives to accommodate my very not-special condition.

DP You are a very mean person. The op has every right to change her mind and decide not to go. Why are people telling her to "suck it up?" The other couple can go on their trip. Nobody said she was "special" but if you aren't feeling well and it might last the whole trip why put yourself and others through it? It is a long way to go just to puke in the hotel room!

OP...stay home and don't feel guilty!

The good news is if you go, you can score some air sickness bags from the flights. They are GREAT to carry around when you have "morning" sickness.

Anonymous wrote:As someone who literally puked through Europe on a 1st trimester trip (like you, booked before I was pregnant), I fully support your point of view. Our trip was a total waste of money for me and DH had to scare up friends in various cities to do stuff with since I was terrible company and I felt guilty about ruining his trip. And this wasn’t a case of me not just rallying. I did everything they said to do for morning sickness and nothing worked. I puked everywhere (behind bushes, street gutters, trains, plains, leaning out of cars...). Very bad memory for me...

+1 This was me, except in Hawaii. The sun made me sick, the twisty roads me sick, you name it. It's still a sore memory for both my husband and I. Unfortunately, this was at 10 or 11 weeks, and I started to feel 100% better the week after we came back.

Not at all. I take a lot of wonderful trips. I’m just not a self centered buffoon who thinks everyone else needs to rearrange their lives to accommodate my very not-special condition.

What's the issue here? The other couple can go, it's not like they won't gave a great time. And if OPs husband I'd prioritizing his trip now with friends over his wife's well being during pregnancy that doesn't bode well for parenting together.

Sorry OP. I never got sick pregny but I think if you're feeling terrible mist of the time, you should reschedule. dH and I went to Paris when I was about 5 months along and it was great. You can go early November. Plus Europe can be very very hot right now, depending where you are going

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Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I honestly would not mind if DH went. The other couple would still go. The trip would not be ruined for them, by any means and they would probably have more fun without me whining and complaining the whole time

So you want your husband to go alone with another couple. Dinner dates, etc. Man, you’re selfish. Just stop.

Maybe he can bring a nice former girlfriend?

Wow, what an inappropriate response. It seems to me that many of the posters here are jealous that OP is considering canceling a trip that they do not have the ability to take themselves.

Not at all. I take a lot of wonderful trips. I’m just not a self centered buffoon who thinks everyone else needs to rearrange their lives to accommodate my very not-special condition.

Riiiight. Lots of wonderful trips to Myrtle Beach I’m sure. You sound very bitter PP.

If you feel too sick and tired don’t go. It would not be an enjoyable vacation and if something happens during the trip you will have a lot of regrets later on.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I honestly would not mind if DH went. The other couple would still go. The trip would not be ruined for them, by any means and they would probably have more fun without me whining and complaining the whole time

So you want your husband to go alone with another couple. Dinner dates, etc. Man, you’re selfish. Just stop.

Maybe he can bring a nice former girlfriend?

Wow, what an inappropriate response. It seems to me that many of the posters here are jealous that OP is considering canceling a trip that they do not have the ability to take themselves.

Not at all. I take a lot of wonderful trips. I’m just not a self centered buffoon who thinks everyone else needs to rearrange their lives to accommodate my very not-special condition.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I honestly would not mind if DH went. The other couple would still go. The trip would not be ruined for them, by any means and they would probably have more fun without me whining and complaining the whole time

So you want your husband to go alone with another couple. Dinner dates, etc. Man, you’re selfish. Just stop.

Maybe he can bring a nice former girlfriend?

Wow, what an inappropriate response. It seems to me that many of the posters here are jealous that OP is considering canceling a trip that they do not have the ability to take themselves.

Not at all. I take a lot of wonderful trips. I’m just not a self centered buffoon who thinks everyone else needs to rearrange their lives to accommodate my very not-special condition.

Anonymous wrote:Op I think all the people who are telling you to suck it up did not have really bad morning sickness. I spent a lot of time travelling with first for work when I was super sick. It was pretty miserable. When you throw jet lag into the mix it can be really hard to just suck it up.

I threw up in the customs line at Heathrow, countless museums, on the plane etc. If you do go, make sure your travel companions understand you may need to sleep and skip out on some of the activities.

Good luck to you!!!

+1

I'm not sure what decision I would make, but if you had the flu and were exhausted and felt awful, I bet some people would tell you to stay home. Contagion aside, bad morning sickness is not dissimilar. I couldn't eat anything other than saltines and toast, I was utterly and unbelievably exhausted, and I felt nauseous all the time (when I wasn't actually vomiting). I threw up at the smell of meat, or cooking food, or exhaust, or a million other everyday smells. If you feel crummy but can rally, then I'd go, but if you are genuinely miserable, then either bow out or make clear up front that you feel wretched and aren't going to be able to do everything they do, and then don't feel bad about staying at the hotel and napping or skipping the fancy restaurant meal that you can't eat anyway.

Op I think all the people who are telling you to suck it up did not have really bad morning sickness. I spent a lot of time travelling with first for work when I was super sick. It was pretty miserable. When you throw jet lag into the mix it can be really hard to just suck it up.

I threw up in the customs line at Heathrow, countless museums, on the plane etc. If you do go, make sure your travel companions understand you may need to sleep and skip out on some of the activities.

Good luck to you!!!

Diclegis! Get some stat.

OP, I'm another sympathizer. I was lucky not to experience morning sickness at all when I was pregnant, but I knew several loved ones for whom it was brutal, like way beyond what is usual. Not what you're experiencing, but I also get migraines sometimes and have had loved ones who are incredibly understanding and know that I need to back out of plans, and other people who wonder why I can't just suck it up and power through "just a headache."

You're the one who best knows how you feel.

Would you be up for a trial of meds or other solution to see if it made any difference? If you could control the nausea better, would you feel well enough to enjoy a somewhat modified trip that still allowed you to get the rest that you need? With an option to back out if you feel just as nasty? Hopefully DH can be sympathetic and still enjoy his trip even if you can't go.

Honestly, I don’t agree with everyone else. As the other couple I wouldn’t want you there if you were miserable and complaining and made it all about you. Send DH alone or you both should cancel.

I'd go. Get on morning sickness meds and accept that you might need to rest in a hotel some.

Can you and your DH still go away, but someplace more local? Like the beach, or NYC, or someplace just easier while you’re in the early days of your pregnancy?

FWIW, I would go to Europe, but I understand your discomfort; morning sickness can really suck for some people. Maybe PPs didn’t have it quite so bad. I was queasy andvomiting but not so bad that I would’ve had to cancel a trip.