Yes. I would switch. It’s the nice thing to do and there could certainly be repercussions down the road if you don’t and at least at a minimum, he will be less likely to want to do you a favor. Remember the poster whose ex planned a vow renewal in the Bahamas at the same time of her wedding?

Even just considering saying g no, he is lucky to be free from you, OP.

You definitely Italy have a wire loose in your sense of right and wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes switch, but a 2-week honeymoon for a 2nd marriage with kids is excessive IMO.

+1. He's an ass for asking to be away from his kids for so long and her cluelessness about the message it sends to the kids doesn't bode well for the future, but you aren't going to change their minds or if you did they would just resent you for it, so just accept it.

It would have been nicer and more inclusive if they had done one week honeymoon and one week family vacation.

OH! Another one of OP's friends showed up!

Actually, I agree with the 1 week honeymoon and 1 week family vacay being better for the kids. I still would have said yes to a 14 day sex trip. And did say yes to the ten day one my XH had.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes switch, but a 2-week honeymoon for a 2nd marriage with kids is excessive IMO.

+1. He's an ass for asking to be away from his kids for so long and her cluelessness about the message it sends to the kids doesn't bode well for the future, but you aren't going to change their minds or if you did they would just resent you for it, so just accept it.

It would have been nicer and more inclusive if they had done one week honeymoon and one week family vacation.

OH! Another one of OP's friends showed up!

A "two week sex trip"? Having to care for your children for whole extra week?
I can’t imagine why you are divorced. Absolutely no clue.

Anonymous wrote:Yes switch, but a 2-week honeymoon for a 2nd marriage with kids is excessive IMO.

No it's not. You must be besties with OP.

Anonymous wrote:First, it's a honeymoon, not a "2 week sex trip." You wouldn't refer to any other honeymoon that way, so don't let your bitterness get the better of you, that doesn't lead to good decision-making. I would treat it the same way you would any other travel, and in particular they way you would want him to handle a comparable trip of yours. Set a good precedent.

Well, it will be a 2 week sex trip but it's not a reason to say no. I mean, really the one big benefit of divorce is to have hot sex again. But don't worry, she will also be sick of Jim sexually in a couple years, so there's that

Of course I would do it. The only reason you wouldn’t is to be petty; you guys are cordial, you have no beef with her, so why consider throwing a wrench in their plans just because?

Yes, you switch with a smile on your face.

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to look within. My soon to be Ex is taking off on a 3 week vacation. I don’t think twice about having my DCs. I want all the time I can get.

Extra time with the kids always.

Swapping time for HIS benefit depends on the chaos it will wreak on our lives and what if any good opportunities I, DH, or DC may get instead. I’m remarried so swapping means looking at three calendars, not just one or two.

I think you need to look within. My soon to be Ex is taking off on a 3 week vacation. I don’t think twice about having my DCs. I want all the time I can get.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes switch, but a 2-week honeymoon for a 2nd marriage with kids is excessive IMO.

+1. He's an ass for asking to be away from his kids for so long and her cluelessness about the message it sends to the kids doesn't bode well for the future, but you aren't going to change their minds or if you did they would just resent you for it, so just accept it.

It would have been nicer and more inclusive if they had done one week honeymoon and one week family vacation.

Ummm it’s 2 weeks. Not a lifetime. The kids won’t care at all, and they’ll be with their other parent, not neglected. Jeez.

Yeah. I know married couples who take long vacations away from their children. It's not my thing, but it''s not horrible, either.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you serious?

Of course, you do a schedule change so he can go on his honeymoon.

This. It makes you look petty to say no.

I did put my foot down about the incessant requests to switch overnights to accommodate her infertility treatments though. I might have been more understanding, but the request started coming right after they filed for a reduction in CS so they could afford the treatments.

Insurance may have been paying for the treatments. You sound petty.

Then they wouldn’t need the reduction in child support

Out of curiosity, do you have any opportunities for a child-free vacation in the horizon I.e. a girls trip, a romantic getaway, to visit friends on the other coast etc? I wonder if PP was onto something that you are either comparing it to your honeymoon with the ex-DH (when you were in a different stage of life moneywise/priorities) or you don’t get an opportunity to take time away from the kids other than for work.

yes, I would switch custody. Preferably, I would switch so I get a vacation down the road but I could see that if I didn’t have anyone to travel with or to see, that could be depressing.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you serious?

Of course, you do a schedule change so he can go on his honeymoon.

This. It makes you look petty to say no.

I did put my foot down about the incessant requests to switch overnights to accommodate her infertility treatments though. I might have been more understanding, but the request started coming right after they filed for a reduction in CS so they could afford the treatments.

Insurance may have been paying for the treatments. You sound petty.

It did not.

And the requests were a significant disruption for my child as well as costing me time off work which I could ill afford.