Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 22:58     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Dang. No leather, dwarves or metallic objects? He needs to work on his fantasies, up his game a bit.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 22:55     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Your BF sees you as a sex object. I don't object to occasionally indulging a fantasy but wanting to change your entire wardrobe? No.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 21:47     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is really mild. You should do it for him one night, wear a dress out for dinner with no underwear underneath.


That's mild for one night, but he wants to throw away her wardrobe and have her always wear stockings. That's creepy and controlling and pretty stereotypical of those creep bdsm dominating types from the films and books. Sleeping with the enemy much?


And this right here is why men prefer to not bang "feminists".


I’m a feminist and I don’t agree with her. Most of the women I met in BDSM were feminists and a good third (like me) were female subs with male Doms. Honestly, subbing taught me how much power I truly had.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 21:40     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
Forget about his fantasy, go get some therapy to sort out your body image and other issues. Focus on becoming an emotionally healthy person.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 21:34     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Just read page 1.

I am so thankful I grew up in a sex positive household, which normalized the nude body and sexuality.

You need to let go a bit. What your boyfriend is asking is normal.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 21:23     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is really mild. You should do it for him one night, wear a dress out for dinner with no underwear underneath.


That's mild for one night, but he wants to throw away her wardrobe and have her always wear stockings. That's creepy and controlling and pretty stereotypical of those creep bdsm dominating types from the films and books. Sleeping with the enemy much?


And this right here is why men prefer to not bang "feminists".
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 19:07     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is really mild. You should do it for him one night, wear a dress out for dinner with no underwear underneath.


That's mild for one night, but he wants to throw away her wardrobe and have her always wear stockings. That's creepy and controlling and pretty stereotypical of those creep bdsm dominating types from the films and books. Sleeping with the enemy much?


Have you tried BDSM? You do understand there are different levels, styles? Being with a partner who you can completely trust to please you and care for you while you have zero expectations put upon you is a magical thing.


This. I was anorgasmic before my Dom. Now, I can reach an O with vanilla stuff, but it took subbing for the right man to get me there the first time and teach me what I like and need.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 16:59     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is really mild. You should do it for him one night, wear a dress out for dinner with no underwear underneath.


That's mild for one night, but he wants to throw away her wardrobe and have her always wear stockings. That's creepy and controlling and pretty stereotypical of those creep bdsm dominating types from the films and books. Sleeping with the enemy much?


Have you tried BDSM? You do understand there are different levels, styles? Being with a partner who you can completely trust to please you and care for you while you have zero expectations put upon you is a magical thing.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 15:01     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
I have a great hummus recipe you should try
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 14:59     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
My suggestion is to get on a fitness kick, even for just a couple of weeks. Even if you don't dramatically change your body, you'll look and feel better and more confident.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 12:45     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Could people that laugh at me please stop ? What's wrong with you? You take pleasure knowing people feel bad? If you don't have empathy please ignore me.


Your boyfriend lusts after you. That's not a bad thing.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 12:44     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:I don't really have issues with the top of my body but I hate what is below. I have tried stockings once, it made me cry to see my legs look like sausages.

I don't know how I would react with a nice body, I can't know this, all I know is I have to do with this body and it can't offer him what he said. He never told me I should lose weight but I can't help thinking this is related to what he says, maybe unconsciously.

THERAPY. He knows what your legs look like right now, and those right now legs are what he’s picturing in stockings. To think his request is telling you to lose weight...no.
And if it makes you feel better size up on the stockings so you won’t feel your leg is being squeezed.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 12:44     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:he thinks you look really great in skirts and dresses and wishes you wore them more often.


Without underwear. My wife would do that from time to time.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 12:42     Subject: Re:his fantasy, what to do?
I wish this was all my husband wanted. He wants to share me with other men. I would take your scenario any day over this.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2018 12:11     Subject: his fantasy, what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a pretty mild fantasy. I’m not naturally girly at all, but about 10 years ago, I had a Dom that redid my non-work wardrobe.


I thought it was going to be something really kinky.


+1. This thread was not what I had imagined.