Anonymous wrote:I make 3 times what DH does so he can continue skating through life with an undemanding job.

I bet you guys have sex a LOT. I mean how can you not be super attracted to him with the amount of respect you obviously have for him? Your freeloading DH is suuuuuper lucky.

Anonymous wrote:I was about to say I don't do anything to help him, but I'm actually a SAHM and that alone helps him (so he can travel, never has to leave early, never misses work due to sick child, etc.)

Cue the angry mommy wars of DCUM to tell you that his success has nothing to do with you and you're just a bonbon-eating moocher.

But good for you, PP. I bet he's pretty grateful.

My DH is a big boy. He does quite well all by himself. Not an area of his life I need be managing.

We are both in biglaw and I have a better head for networking than him so I remind him to reach out to classmates and former colleagues when he has a good reason to; help him get on panels; help him research for pitches; keep on top of key networking events and attend with him to help him maximize their value.

He’s a better lawyer than me on the technical side so I rely on him to help clarify my thinking and proofread my filings.

I guess the best way to help a spouse’s career is to do everything for them except their office work. Think of it as he is a 2 yo and you are his mom doing everything so he can study or do work.

My dh is helping my career by getting up early, working 10 hr days and still making 4:30 kid pickup so I can stay later and make some things happen at work.
He had his crazy very busy work time a couple years ago and did a lot of travel and I took over all home stuff and kid stuff and I still managed to get promoted.
I do read and edit things he publishes if he asks.

I take care of his kids, which he is completely incapable of. If he had to do 50% of the parenting, if he couldn't travel for work, he wouldn't have a career.

Formerly, we were in the same business, but I could no longer work in the industry because I have no reliable parenting partner at home.

I make 3 times what DH does so he can continue skating through life with an undemanding job.

Anonymous wrote:I've found that writing thank you notes, buying gifts, and scrapbooking is the way to help his career.

How does scrapbooking help his career?

He can travel for work without worrying about anything on the home front.

I've found that writing thank you notes, buying gifts, and scrapbooking is the way to help his career.

I took his name when we got married so he could ride my coattails.

Anonymous wrote:What do you do if anything to support and help him get ahead?

My husband is smart but currently floundering in a 100k job at 30. He has no idea what his next move should be. What can I do to help?

Well keeping your mouth shut would be a good place to start.

Anonymous wrote:DH absolutely refused to consider an overseas assignment. If I had done it, I would have been promoted ~5 years ago.

But to answer the original question .... I make a lot more than him, so he's able turn down a promotion to stay full time WAH. I use my leave and/or my list of drop in care to cover childcare when the kids regular care falls through. I cover about half of the kids' appointments. I make about half of dinners, do half of the house keeping type stuff, and most of the ad hoc things like finding new care providers, arranging camps, etc etc

DH absolutely refused to consider an overseas assignment. If I had done it, I would have been promoted ~5 years ago.