Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 16:20     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are the most incredible husband and father that I know. I did not expect someone like you to be in my life and take such good care of me. I know you have these little annoying habits that get to me and I become crabby at times, but there is not a time that I am not in love with you.

When you met me, I was single, career focussed and not interested in marriage and kids. You think you chased me and seduced me into marrying you and having your babies. You feel thrilled that I agreed to SAHM when we had our second. You feel smug because you think you won me and that you are luckier than any other man. But, the truth is that you were on my radar from the time I saw you. I made sure that our paths crossed. I only let you think that you did the chasing and the seduction. And every time I agreed to what you proposed, the germ of that idea was put in your head by me.

Oh, another thing - You are think that I was attracted to your intelligence and sheer brain power, but it was your super hot body that I was lusting for. I will never tell you that because you will get a big head and it will completely ruin our power dynamics at home. + I know you have pampered me for the 30 years we have been together and I want you to continue pampering me for the next 30.


This one was just weird and I feel sorry for your husband, poor fella


+1 esp the last part
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 12:35     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
She could benefit from a little more common sense. She has a lot more than her mother, zero there. Too many optional problems as a result.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 12:32     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:I adore you but I can’t sleep in the same room as you unless you get the snoring under control. I know it’s not intentional, and it hurts you when I sneak out to the guest room, but I am human and I need to sleep!


Zyppah.com
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 12:07     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
I hope you get better but probably gonna divorce you.
ZachF
Post 08/04/2018 11:58     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
I'm quickly losing my patience and even respect for you because you won't make any effort to quit smoking. You can't even imagine how much I hate it.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 11:56     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:You are the most incredible husband and father that I know. I did not expect someone like you to be in my life and take such good care of me. I know you have these little annoying habits that get to me and I become crabby at times, but there is not a time that I am not in love with you.

When you met me, I was single, career focussed and not interested in marriage and kids. You think you chased me and seduced me into marrying you and having your babies. You feel thrilled that I agreed to SAHM when we had our second. You feel smug because you think you won me and that you are luckier than any other man. But, the truth is that you were on my radar from the time I saw you. I made sure that our paths crossed. I only let you think that you did the chasing and the seduction. And every time I agreed to what you proposed, the germ of that idea was put in your head by me.

Oh, another thing - You are think that I was attracted to your intelligence and sheer brain power, but it was your super hot body that I was lusting for. I will never tell you that because you will get a big head and it will completely ruin our power dynamics at home. + I know you have pampered me for the 30 years we have been together and I want you to continue pampering me for the next 30.


The pp's felt authentic, this just feels like a facebook relationship brag.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 11:26     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:I am deeply lonely. We never talk anymore, we never have sex anymore, and you interact more with you hobby and buddies than with me. We are good parents but basically roommates and I'm worried we can't fix it at this point.

- DW


+1. Except I did tell him and he made an effort to deliberately ask me about my day for a week and then quickly went back to the way things were. My husband just isn't interested anymore. Don't waste your breath or your pride, like I did.

Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 11:25     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Too many not tonight honey is making me find other solutions.
But I love you!
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 11:16     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:I should never have ignored the million red flags I saw along the way in the early years. I was weak and I stayed because I didn’t understand how much better I deserve and that it would have been worth leaving for. You are difficult as hell and you don’t appreciate me and don’t treat me right and one of these days will be the tipping point. You are the source of almost all of my problems.

But then, I’ve been saying that for years, and here I am. Still on the roller coaster.


This hit home.

I would add: I'm not why you're unhappy. Your commitment to self sabotage is painful for everyone around you to watch.

I would never add: without my AP my life. Would be unbearable and I'm counting the days til our kids are lit of college.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 11:00     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:You are the most incredible husband and father that I know. I did not expect someone like you to be in my life and take such good care of me. I know you have these little annoying habits that get to me and I become crabby at times, but there is not a time that I am not in love with you.

When you met me, I was single, career focussed and not interested in marriage and kids. You think you chased me and seduced me into marrying you and having your babies. You feel thrilled that I agreed to SAHM when we had our second. You feel smug because you think you won me and that you are luckier than any other man. But, the truth is that you were on my radar from the time I saw you. I made sure that our paths crossed. I only let you think that you did the chasing and the seduction. And every time I agreed to what you proposed, the germ of that idea was put in your head by me.

Oh, another thing - You are think that I was attracted to your intelligence and sheer brain power, but it was your super hot body that I was lusting for. I will never tell you that because you will get a big head and it will completely ruin our power dynamics at home. + I know you have pampered me for the 30 years we have been together and I want you to continue pampering me for the next 30.


This one was just weird and I feel sorry for your husband, poor fella
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 10:53     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
You are the most incredible husband and father that I know. I did not expect someone like you to be in my life and take such good care of me. I know you have these little annoying habits that get to me and I become crabby at times, but there is not a time that I am not in love with you.

When you met me, I was single, career focussed and not interested in marriage and kids. You think you chased me and seduced me into marrying you and having your babies. You feel thrilled that I agreed to SAHM when we had our second. You feel smug because you think you won me and that you are luckier than any other man. But, the truth is that you were on my radar from the time I saw you. I made sure that our paths crossed. I only let you think that you did the chasing and the seduction. And every time I agreed to what you proposed, the germ of that idea was put in your head by me.

Oh, another thing - You are think that I was attracted to your intelligence and sheer brain power, but it was your super hot body that I was lusting for. I will never tell you that because you will get a big head and it will completely ruin our power dynamics at home. + I know you have pampered me for the 30 years we have been together and I want you to continue pampering me for the next 30.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 10:50     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
I am deeply lonely. We never talk anymore, we never have sex anymore, and you interact more with you hobby and buddies than with me. We are good parents but basically roommates and I'm worried we can't fix it at this point.

- DW
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 10:12     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:When you were deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan for sometimes more than a year, while we were "dating" I was so in love and completely faithful to you. I felt guilty having fun without you. I felt guilty thinking about what would happen if you were injured, about how much I really loved you. I worried about my age, and how we would have time to have a baby. There just wasn't enough time. Now that I have you here, I don't take any time with you for granted.


This is a very rare heartfelt declaration of love for DCUM! Why can't you tell him (or her?) this?

Signed, another spouse who was deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan during the first years of our marriage.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 09:50     Subject: What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
When you were deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan for sometimes more than a year, while we were "dating" I was so in love and completely faithful to you. I felt guilty having fun without you. I felt guilty thinking about what would happen if you were injured, about how much I really loved you. I worried about my age, and how we would have time to have a baby. There just wasn't enough time. Now that I have you here, I don't take any time with you for granted.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2018 08:09     Subject: Re:What do you want to say to your spouse but current circumstances prevent it?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you let me open the relationship, I promise I won't fall in love and will be such a better spouse. I love you, the lack of sex is suffocating us.


Not judging you, but how can you promise you won’t fall in love? Do you plan on just ONS? Do you also promise to not bring home diseases? Or to not accidentally attract crazy stalkers or jealous spouses?

DH and I aren’t suffering from a lack of sex, but if we did, falling in love with someone else would be the least deterrent to opening the marriage. My cousin experienced all three things I noted. Her health is damaged, her children were traumatized by her DH’s obsessive lover, and there are bullet holes in their family car from the lover’s DH aiming from him. I’m sure some man will chime in that my cousin could have avoided all this by simply servicing her DH on demand. Never surprises me when the well-being of women and children takes back seat to men’s pleasure.


She should have divorced instead of opening the marriage.