I make coffee every morning at 5am while DH and the kids are still sleeping. I would love freshly ground coffee but I would never think of running a loud machine while they are sleeping. It’s inconsiderate. Same for a blender.

Grind your coffee at night or buy ground coffee. If it’s too early to run a leaf blower or weed whacker it is too early to grind coffee in a townhouse.

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Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Ding ding ding!

If OP had to run a life saving machine every morning at 6 am then I'd say the neighbor has to deal. But none of the noise she is making is necessary for that hour - why can't she just change a few things and keep the neighbor happy?

Who are you people that don’t think coffee is necessary in the morning? I would grind the beans the night before because thats easy but the smoothie I don’t know. OP is entitled to use her kitchen at 6 am.

What?!? I drink coffee every morning - it is necessary for me. What I do no do is run a noisy grinder. I open the can and scoop out my coffee. Very easily accomplished with no noise whatsoever.

Now if you're going to claim that there is no way you would ever drink canned coffee and absolutely must grind yours fresh every morning, then of course this becomes all about you and your coffee snobbery. If that's the case, then I'm sure there's no reasoning with you.

Did you even read or just decide there’s “no reasoning with me?” Because I said right there I would grind them the night before. Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Ding ding ding!

If OP had to run a life saving machine every morning at 6 am then I'd say the neighbor has to deal. But none of the noise she is making is necessary for that hour - why can't she just change a few things and keep the neighbor happy?

Who are you people that don’t think coffee is necessary in the morning? I would grind the beans the night before because thats easy but the smoothie I don’t know. OP is entitled to use her kitchen at 6 am.

What?!? I drink coffee every morning - it is necessary for me. What I do no do is run a noisy grinder. I open the can and scoop out my coffee. Very easily accomplished with no noise whatsoever.

Now if you're going to claim that there is no way you would ever drink canned coffee and absolutely must grind yours fresh every morning, then of course this becomes all about you and your coffee snobbery. If that's the case, then I'm sure there's no reasoning with you.

While OP is totally entitled to grind coffee at 6am, I think it's also totally reasonable that the noise would bother the neighbor. It's not an activity that *most* people are doing in any given day, and it is not a time that *most* people are up and wide awake. It may be a *reasonable* activity that some people do, and a *reasonable* time to be awake, but it doesn't mean your neighbor isn't entitled to be bothered by it. You are BOTH people who have chosen to live in shared spaces so i'm not sure why OP gets to "win" and her neighbor loses, especially since OP is the one making the noise. I think in a kind, polite scenario, OP stops making the noise before 7am.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Ding ding ding!

If OP had to run a life saving machine every morning at 6 am then I'd say the neighbor has to deal. But none of the noise she is making is necessary for that hour - why can't she just change a few things and keep the neighbor happy?

Who are you people that don’t think coffee is necessary in the morning? I would grind the beans the night before because thats easy but the smoothie I don’t know. OP is entitled to use her kitchen at 6 am.

Then really there's no time that's unacceptable to you. Techno music at 2 am Tuesday nights sound good, if you have Wednesdays off. We're a government town so it's the norm for people have non-weekend days off.


PS I don't get the NEED for coffee. So weird. Just another addiction, I guess.

Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

That was really nice of him but I don’t think your request was reasonable. I would NEVER have asked that. Reasonable to be doing yard work at 1 pm and I would never dream of asking people to adjust their schedule around my sleeping baby. Turn a white noise machine on.

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Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Ding ding ding!

If OP had to run a life saving machine every morning at 6 am then I'd say the neighbor has to deal. But none of the noise she is making is necessary for that hour - why can't she just change a few things and keep the neighbor happy?

Who are you people that don’t think coffee is necessary in the morning? I would grind the beans the night before because thats easy but the smoothie I don’t know. OP is entitled to use her kitchen at 6 am.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Just because you get up by 6am doesn't mean the whole world is. Making Loud noises (e.g. Blenders are about 78-85 dB) before 8 a.m. is rude -- weekday or weekend. If you live in a shared space, you *should* be extra vigilant.

A shared wall is not enough of a shared space that people shouldn’t do ordinary thinks like make a breakfast smoothie or blow dry their hair.

But what OP is doing is NOT normal morning behavior. I love how the onus is on the "victim" and not on the OP to exhibit polite behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Ding ding ding!

If OP had to run a life saving machine every morning at 6 am then I'd say the neighbor has to deal. But none of the noise she is making is necessary for that hour - why can't she just change a few things and keep the neighbor happy?

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Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Just because you get up by 6am doesn't mean the whole world is. Making Loud noises (e.g. Blenders are about 78-85 dB) before 8 a.m. is rude -- weekday or weekend. If you live in a shared space, you *should* be extra vigilant.

A shared wall is not enough of a shared space that people shouldn’t do ordinary thinks like make a breakfast smoothie or blow dry their hair.

Does he also complain when you have sex? If not, he isn't too sensitive, now is he?

Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Ding ding ding!

If OP had to run a life saving machine every morning at 6 am then I'd say the neighbor has to deal. But none of the noise she is making is necessary for that hour - why can't she just change a few things and keep the neighbor happy?

I would ignore. I would absolutely not buy him a white noise machine. Doing so would imply that you think you are the problem, not him.

I am one of those very noise-sensitive neighbors, but I would never dream of telling you to keep it down. It's why I now live in a house on several acres. I can't hear you now.

If you otherwise like this neighbor then I would try and accommodate him. He is trying to tell you nicely that something you do bothers him. If you are able to change it then I would.
One day you might need him to do something for you.

This was a one time thing but a couple of years ago my neighbor started using an electric tree trimmer thing at 1pm right when DD was trying to take a nap. I went out and asked him if he could wait until 3 and he did. Its part of getting along with people.

Instead of over the appliance, try putting the towel under the appliance. Makes mine run more quietly, anyway.

And assuming you're really only running these things for three minutes, tops, and never before 6 am, I think it's reasonable. And I live in an apartment. People make noise. As long as you keep it to a minimum, you're being considerate. I will say that sound can travel in strange ways through ducts, etc., so it might well be that your neighbor hears things as being louder than you do.