The fact of the matter is you/she can’t control other people. So you have to teach her and reinforce with her to just ignore them and play on and that some people just suck. Confrontation, complaining to the coach, sometimes it won’t do a thing. She has to learn to let it roll off her back because there will always be parents or other fans like this through every step of the game.

Some of you posters sound crazy, blaming the kid. You are the reason why I dread it if my kid ends up really wanting to do competitive sports.

Right, not directed at her, what more do you want?

Anonymous wrote:Ok I see where you might get that impression from what I wrote initially, but I thought I clarified that in my second post.

Yes, I see you later say she was never called out by jersey number before, but your follow up still says that parents have commented on her behavior before: “This has never happened before where she was being called out by her jersey #, I've hard it in the past where they will yell at the ref saying that play wasn't fair or whatever, but it was never directly at her and never personal like it was last night. She has always been able to ignore that type of stuff in the past, but last not was different, it was vicious.“

Ok I see where you might get that impression from what I wrote initially, but I thought I clarified that in my second post.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, thanks for the constructive comments, I will take the advice (sitting near the hecklers, having her tell the coach, confronting the parents if necessary and helping her to stay mentally tough) and use it if this ever happens again. I hope it never does but as someone said, it only gets worse as they get older and in tougher competition I suppose. I’m not sure why some people still have the idea that this happens all the time or ever before Monday night. It hasn’t, that’s why I posted and clarified in my second post.

From your OP “At some competitive events, be it basketball or soccer, she hears some of the nasty comments coming from parents on the opposing team, she usually ignores it and focuses on the game.“

Op here, thanks for the constructive comments, I will take the advice (sitting near the hecklers, having her tell the coach, confronting the parents if necessary and helping her to stay mentally tough) and use it if this ever happens again. I hope it never does but as someone said, it only gets worse as they get older and in tougher competition I suppose. I’m not sure why some people still have the idea that this happens all the time or ever before Monday night. It hasn’t, that’s why I posted and clarified in my second post.

Anonymous wrote:If it is following the athlete team to team/sport to sport clearly the player is over the top.

Have her play up, or play with boys.

+1
DD has a good friend who is very talented at multiple sports and she does dominate a lot of games. They are on all the same teams and I haven't seen her heckled once. She's big, fast and has the ball a lot of the game but she's also a very graceful player who maneuvers around other players so no one is run in to or knocked aside. I've seen other dominant players who are more rough around the edges get criticized by other parents and their children. It's wrong but there's a difference. OP seems to be very focused on how great her daughter is and how horrible the parents are but doesn't seem to understand that if this is something that happens in multiple teams and multiple sports something else is going on too.

Your daughter should let the coach know immediately so the coach can bring it to the referee and the referee can address it. Don’t wait until after. Have them stop the game. I was at a middle school basketball game where the ref threw all the parents out of the gym. It’s unreal.

If it is following the athlete team to team/sport to sport clearly the player is over the top.

Have her play up, or play with boys.

Anonymous wrote:Oh god. All sports parents are the worst. Including OP, with her “elite athlete” 10 year old. Sports contribute very little to the world, except domestic violence and nationalism.

To be fair OP never said elite, but she definitely takes her DDs athleticism too seriously.

Anonymous wrote:OP and the hecklers need to take it down a notch but widespread problem

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/sports/referee-parents-abuse-videos.html

Gotta love Barlow. Laughing at and ridiculing the crazies is a good way to not give them the significance they crave. You can disagree with the call. Being a soiled fool because you disagree with a call is unacceptable, and you’re more likely to get the ref to turn on your team rather than have them reverse the call. EVEN IF you were to get the call reversed, I would feel dirty and undignified, as the decision was only reached due to an external factor that had nothing to do with either team’s preparation or efforts on the pitch. If you can’t handle the adversity of a bad call, THEN DROP OUT OF THE SPORT.

Anonymous wrote:OP and the hecklers need to take it down a notch but widespread problem

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/sports/referee-parents-abuse-videos.html

Holy sh*t!!!! Wow.

Anonymous wrote:I have an exceptionally tall DD and she gets her number called out all the time and hears it along with "that big girl can't be this age" Parents are jackasses.

I hear this all the time from parents in PK-2nd REC SOCCER!!!! who cares!!!

OP and the hecklers need to take it down a notch but widespread problem

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/sports/referee-parents-abuse-videos.html