Anonymous
Post 02/02/2019 09:03     Subject: Re:Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dear God, what is wrong with you, that you would consider flushing a live creature down the toilet?


I flush ants and spiders all the time.


And you are...proud of this?

This is one of the things that I judge people for, just a little bit.
I don't flush ants or spiders, I spray them with bug spray. No doubt there is someone on DCUM that will say I'm being cruel too. I've even been known to stand on roaches and flatten spiders with a rolled up newspaper. So I guess that means that I should never have a cat or a dog either, because I kill bugs?
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2019 06:05     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:Set it free in a local pond

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Anonymous
Post 07/24/2018 13:14     Subject: Re:Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dear God, what is wrong with you, that you would consider flushing a live creature down the toilet?


I flush ants and spiders all the time.


And you are...proud of this?

This is one of the things that I judge people for, just a little bit.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2018 13:13     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You all are a tough bunch.

I’ve been taking care of the fish. I check the water daily. I do routine water changes. I’ve painstakingly helped clear up fin rot once, and nursed a torn fin another time. Please stop with the criticism and accusations. I’m the only one taking care of the thing! I think we’ve given it a pretty damn good life, better than a small cup of tap water at the pet store. I’m bonded with this stupid fish. As I said in my OP, I don’t have the heart to flush it. But I also hope it isn’t blind and/or suffering. Treatments aren’t helping the eye situation.



DCUM is hard on everyone. I admire your commitment to the fish, and I understand how irritating it is to put so much work into a beta fish! I wouldn't flush it myself, I would suck it up and keep doing it. Maybe transfer it to a new set up where you have to do less maintenance?


I agree that DCUM is hard on most people, but come on. An adult buys an animal with a certain lifespan, knowing it needs to be fed, looked after medically, environment cleaned, etc, for all that time, and then gives that animal to a kid. Their own kid, who they are raising to be a responsible person (or not). Adult then complains a year later when the kid doesn't want to do those things and wonders if she can give the fish a cruel death because it's inconvenient to keep looking after it. She wants credit because she's the only one in her family who even feels any sense of guilt about doing such a thing. She apparently feels no guilt, however, about raising kids with no sense of responsibility or conscience. Or for giving a gift that's really not a gift but actually a burden.

Honestly not sure what she expected.


I think she can be forgiven
she seems like a caring person. A heartless person would not post on DCUM for advice on a beta fish. I think all will be OK.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2018 13:08     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You all are a tough bunch.

I’ve been taking care of the fish. I check the water daily. I do routine water changes. I’ve painstakingly helped clear up fin rot once, and nursed a torn fin another time. Please stop with the criticism and accusations. I’m the only one taking care of the thing! I think we’ve given it a pretty damn good life, better than a small cup of tap water at the pet store. I’m bonded with this stupid fish. As I said in my OP, I don’t have the heart to flush it. But I also hope it isn’t blind and/or suffering. Treatments aren’t helping the eye situation.



DCUM is hard on everyone. I admire your commitment to the fish, and I understand how irritating it is to put so much work into a beta fish! I wouldn't flush it myself, I would suck it up and keep doing it. Maybe transfer it to a new set up where you have to do less maintenance?


This. Why the tank for a beta?? I thought the whole point was that they were lower maintenance and could live in bowls. The one we had as kids lived for seven years in a bowl. Would he have been happier in a bigger tank? Enh, maybe. But he apparently had a perfectly long life hanging out in the bowl--certainly a fate better than being flushed!

Before we bought the fish, I asked and everyone said we needed the whole set up or the fish wouldn’t thrive.


We have our beta fish in a bowl. I do have to clean it once a month and put in fresh water. I'm not sure if that's more or less work than you're accustomed to, OP, but just an "fyi."
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2018 12:56     Subject: Re:Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dear God, what is wrong with you, that you would consider flushing a live creature down the toilet?


I flush ants and spiders all the time.


Not something to be proud of. Just makes you kind of a jerk. These creatures play a role in the ecosystem. Plus, it's unnecessarily cruel.

To the OP: these guys need only enough food a day that equals the size of it's eye. This is from a guy who maintains aquariums from a living. It's an INCREDIBLY SMALL amount of food/day. So, they are very easy to overfeed and the food that doesn't get eaten pollutes the bowl. Hope that helps.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2018 11:27     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are keeping the fish. I’ve downsized to a bowl, and I’m feeding less. Little guy seems happy and his water is staying cleaner.


If you change your mind again, take it to the local shelter. The local shelters do take fish.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2018 08:44     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:You all are a tough bunch.

I’ve been taking care of the fish. I check the water daily. I do routine water changes. I’ve painstakingly helped clear up fin rot once, and nursed a torn fin another time. Please stop with the criticism and accusations. I’m the only one taking care of the thing! I think we’ve given it a pretty damn good life, better than a small cup of tap water at the pet store. I’m bonded with this stupid fish. As I said in my OP, I don’t have the heart to flush it. But I also hope it isn’t blind and/or suffering. Treatments aren’t helping the eye situation.


And you're an adult. You made a decision to care for another life. So care for it. And set a good example. I hope in your lifetime you don't have to rely on the mercy of other people to care for you when you are unable to care for yourself.

The conditions you cite are almost certainly attributed to water quality. So fix it. And you can fix it with minimal investment and effort.

Finally, do everyone a favor, please no more pets for your family. If you can't handle a FISH, you are certainly not able to handle a dog or cat.

Anonymous
Post 07/23/2018 19:52     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
OP have you tried aquarium salt for your beta?
Anonymous
Post 07/23/2018 16:43     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:We had an eel that lived for 22 years. You can make it a couple of more months until it dies.


Sorry, but this is sort of hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2018 11:59     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
You are lucky that fish Larlo survived 12 months. Ours didn’t even make it to the first month.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2018 11:46     Subject: Getting rid of a fish?
OP here. We are keeping the fish. I’ve downsized to a bowl, and I’m feeding less. Little guy seems happy and his water is staying cleaner.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2018 18:29     Subject: Re:Getting rid of a fish?
Anonymous wrote:Dear God, what is wrong with you, that you would consider flushing a live creature down the toilet?


I flush ants and spiders all the time.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2018 15:42     Subject: Re:Getting rid of a fish?
Dear God, what is wrong with you, that you would consider flushing a live creature down the toilet?
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2018 15:28     Subject: Re:Getting rid of a fish?
You caused this problem by taking a low maintenance pet and making it high maintenace. My daughter is 5 and has a beta in her room in a bowl. She feeds it 3x a week. ( I remind her) and I clean it out once a week. This involves putting tap water in a bowl for a few hours and then cleaning out the old water and putting in the new.
It is the easiest pet ever.


Keep taking of it but put it back in the bowl.
Maybe it was eating too much and that why its sick and laying around. They only need to eat every few days. We do Mon/Wed/Fri to keep it simple. And it always gets 3 granules, again to keep it easy.