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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are opening the marriage. What's the best way to meet people in this situation? Online? Which sites? Meet-ups? This is an exciting new chapter and I'd love to learn from any folks already living in this world. Thank you!

Serious question: Why stay married if you don't want to keep your vows? You did take the vows right? Forsake all others?

Not in this situation but not all weddings have vows. Mine did not. I am an Orthodox Christian and you don't say "I do" at your wedding. And some people write their own. Also, some people do the "vows" as part of the ceremony but it is for show only and not truly what people are signing up for. My ex H reneged on our agreement for married life...this is something that would not be in vows but was far worse than "breaking a vow."

Get over yourself about vows.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please give it a rest.

While I don't buy your story...talk to some people in the health field. Herpes and the many diseases should be a wake up call.

Oh please. It's no riskier than being a single dater.

+1

I don't get why people make these comments. No more risk than being single. Silly people.

gentry wrote:DCUM is still alive

It’s DCUMAD.

Throw a key party. It worked in the 70s! It's a good way to meet likeminded folks.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife has had several long term sex partners over the 30 yrs we have been married. The longest guy having been with her 20 yrs now Lyn meets them on average twice a week our sex life more exciting with her having different boy friends.

Wow. Lyn is a real player. You are okay with this? Are you emasculated or have mental issues?

I think we already know the answer to this

Try a sugar dating website and look for men 40+. Even if it's not stated on their profile, nearly all of them are married. It doesnt have to be abotut $$, just you're more likely to find non-weirdos on there.

Anonymous wrote:My wife has had several long term sex partners over the 30 yrs we have been married. The longest guy having been with her 20 yrs now Lyn meets them on average twice a week our sex life more exciting with her having different boy friends.

Wow. Lyn is a real player. You are okay with this? Are you emasculated or have mental issues?

Anonymous wrote:Opening for both, then the fetlife and swingers places. Opening for one, try a happy hour and stay away from single folks. Be honest in whatever do.

and cheating married people that aren't in a similar 'open' situation.

My wife has had several long term sex partners over the 30 yrs we have been married. The longest guy having been with her 20 yrs now Lyn meets them on average twice a week our sex life more exciting with her having different boy friends.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are opening the marriage. What's the best way to meet people in this situation? Online? Which sites? Meet-ups? This is an exciting new chapter and I'd love to learn from any folks already living in this world. Thank you!

Serious question: Why stay married if you don't want to keep your vows? You did take the vows right? Forsake all others?

Not everyone uses those tired old vows. We wrote our own, none of which mentioned lifelong monogamy. You do you; let others live as they see fit.

+1

gentry wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Open marriage usually refers to dating others separately.

Do you want to date together, aka swing? Or are you each going your own way?

OP here - thanks for this question because I agree there's a big difference here. We're going our own way, not dating together. So a lot of those sites aren't going to work for us. I guess the more traditional sites would be better. I just wasn't sure if anybody on those sites would be looking for this sort of situation.

There are tons of other married people to have affairs with.

Great, but how do I find them? That's what I'm asking.

Can’t get started talking to likeminded couples as an anonymous poster! Let’s talk!

This used to work much better when explicit was active and the chat room linked there was busy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are opening the marriage. What's the best way to meet people in this situation? Online? Which sites? Meet-ups? This is an exciting new chapter and I'd love to learn from any folks already living in this world. Thank you!

Serious question: Why stay married if you don't want to keep your vows? You did take the vows right? Forsake all others?

Not everyone uses those tired old vows. We wrote our own, none of which mentioned lifelong monogamy. You do you; let others live as they see fit.

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are opening the marriage. What's the best way to meet people in this situation? Online? Which sites? Meet-ups? This is an exciting new chapter and I'd love to learn from any folks already living in this world. Thank you!

Serious question: Why stay married if you don't want to keep your vows? You did take the vows right? Forsake all others?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Open marriage usually refers to dating others separately.

Do you want to date together, aka swing? Or are you each going your own way?

OP here - thanks for this question because I agree there's a big difference here. We're going our own way, not dating together. So a lot of those sites aren't going to work for us. I guess the more traditional sites would be better. I just wasn't sure if anybody on those sites would be looking for this sort of situation.

There are tons of other married people to have affairs with.

Great, but how do I find them? That's what I'm asking.

OP you are female, correct? Look around you right now: see any married men? 99% of them would sleep with you, just approach and say Hi. Don't be too flattered about this fact, it has little to do with you, just the gender disparity of sex drive combined with married women wired to lose interest in their husbands. This phenomenon will also work (in reverse) for your husband: assume all married women are utterly bored with their own husbands, so even a tiny bit of attention from your DH will get them going.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Open marriage usually refers to dating others separately.

Do you want to date together, aka swing? Or are you each going your own way?

OP here - thanks for this question because I agree there's a big difference here. We're going our own way, not dating together. So a lot of those sites aren't going to work for us. I guess the more traditional sites would be better. I just wasn't sure if anybody on those sites would be looking for this sort of situation.

There are tons of other married people to have affairs with.

Great, but how do I find them? That's what I'm asking.

Can’t get started talking to likeminded couples as an anonymous poster! Let’s talk!