Anonymous wrote:It rubs me the wrong way that you're embarrassed about a lot of people being out of town and thus unable to come to your daughter's party.

Why? What a peculiar reaction.

Anonymous wrote:I am annoyed if the guest list is hidden for a kid birthday party because I want to see who I can carpool with!

I email the host and say, “Jane would love to attend, but I need a carpool. Could you let me know of any other kids in our area who will be attending?” I’ve always rcvd a response. Sometimes the host offers my kid a ride.

Anonymous wrote:Who carpools to kids birthday parties???? Y’all are weird

who doesn't?
I don't know anyone who doesn't carpool to parties past about kindergarten.

The needing to see who is on the list smacks of some kind of weird social climbing to me.

If your kid likes the birthday kid, then why wouldn’t you let them go just because their other friends aren’t there? Obviously, they like the birthday kid, and as it’s a celebration for that person, they should go, right?

If they’re not close with that kid, you don’t need to make an effort to go. But the fact you will make an effort to go based on who you deem to be the cool kids is weird. Your child will survive a 2 hour party without the kids he’s “close to”, and maybe make some new friends, so that’s not really an excuse.

Anonymous wrote:Who carpools to kids birthday parties???? Y’all are weird

I live in DC and when a party is 45 minutes out in the suburbs at Zava zone or some gymnastics place I absolutely carpool.

It’s fine. I wouldn’t do it for your reasons. I do it when I’m not sure about numbers and can’t invite everyone at once. I don’t want guests to see different dates on the invitation.

We’re also doing a summer birthday party.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fine but annoying because parents can’t carpool. It’s awkward to ask each other if they received the invite and everyone ends up driving.

You can't drive your own kid? Why so lazy?
My kids are now 19/17 and I have never once carpooled.

That’s because you’re a freak .

No,I take care of my own kids. Why does that bother you so much?

No one wants to be near you or your kids - that’s weird and damaging to your kids, that’s why.

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Anonymous wrote:“I actually do exactly the opposite as PP. (I think PP is being kind of a mean girl by only going to a kids' birthday party if her friends are going.) If I see that a party is not well attended, I'll make an extra effort to go. ”

+1. Me too.
This is also why I left the gist list visible for DS’s summer bday since I thought other people are also decent and so would do the same.

+4 (I think I’m the 4th).

+5 Nice to see there are some thoughtful folks here.

Anonymous wrote:Who carpools to kids birthday parties???? Y’all are weird

Single parents. Military families with deployed spouses. People with lots of kids juggling different schedules. People laid up with medical issues. Is it really that hard to imagine there might a time when your neighbor could use a helping hand?

Anonymous wrote:“I actually do exactly the opposite as PP. (I think PP is being kind of a mean girl by only going to a kids' birthday party if her friends are going.) If I see that a party is not well attended, I'll make an extra effort to go. ”

+1. Me too.
This is also why I left the gist list visible for DS’s summer bday since I thought other people are also decent and so would do the same.

+4 (I think I’m the 4th).

“I actually do exactly the opposite as PP. (I think PP is being kind of a mean girl by only going to a kids' birthday party if her friends are going.) If I see that a party is not well attended, I'll make an extra effort to go. ”

+1. Me too.
This is also why I left the gist list visible for DS’s summer bday since I thought other people are also decent and so would do the same.

Who carpools to kids birthday parties???? Y’all are weird

Anonymous wrote:Is it really hard to drive your own kid to a party?

This OMG. I learn something new every day.

Totally ok - It's a host's prerogative.

I am annoyed if the guest list is hidden for a kid birthday party because I want to see who I can carpool with!