Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t need the new 3 row Subaru, which is what I assume you want.
If you won’t use it much and mostly will use it for taking kids places, get a used minivan. If you find that you use it more than you thought, get the Subaru you really want in 2-3 years.
You may be loving city life with 2 preschoolers, but schlepping 3 kids and all their stuff on public transit or with a stroller is a whole new ball game.

OP here, not that it matters, the car we want is a WV Atlas

Is your husband going to help pay for it?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t need the new 3 row Subaru, which is what I assume you want.
If you won’t use it much and mostly will use it for taking kids places, get a used minivan. If you find that you use it more than you thought, get the Subaru you really want in 2-3 years.
You may be loving city life with 2 preschoolers, but schlepping 3 kids and all their stuff on public transit or with a stroller is a whole new ball game.

OP here, not that it matters, the car we want is a WV Atlas

VWs are shit cars. But it sounds like it will fit your family perfectly, and I mean that in all seriousness. Fit you guys to a tee.

Mini van. You can buy a car you really like in 15 years when it dies and your twins are flying the nest.

Anonymous wrote:You don’t need the new 3 row Subaru, which is what I assume you want.
If you won’t use it much and mostly will use it for taking kids places, get a used minivan. If you find that you use it more than you thought, get the Subaru you really want in 2-3 years.
You may be loving city life with 2 preschoolers, but schlepping 3 kids and all their stuff on public transit or with a stroller is a whole new ball game.

OP here, not that it matters, the car we want is a WV Atlas

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you not see that the most logical option is to trade in your current car for a used minivan?

Who gives a shit what the particular model that you really like is new? If you don't want to spend $36k for a car that will be barely used (and I agree that you shouldn't) then don't try to claim the excuse that it's the only model to suit your needs. Minivans have been around since 1984.

This. Sell your car. Get a used minivan. Problem solved.

+10000

I would buy a Van for shlupping the kids and their stuff. 3 kids is tight in a small car, you want room for diaper bags, books and other misc crap they accumulate. Plus you may want to carpool places 4 year from now.
I would keep the small car for whichever adult needs a car and doesnt have the kids. The au pair may want to go places on the weekend at the same time as you. Or in the evening the same thing. Your lives will change 2-3 year from now as the kids all get older.

Anonymous wrote:you have to admit it is kind of crazy. Essentially OP is saying “We have a car that no longer fits our needs but we won’t part with it and only want a second car, which we won’t use very often, if it is perfect. Oh yeah, even if we did sell the first car we won’t put any of the funds toward a larger car even though we don’t think cars are a priority and a second car is too expensive.”

There is no logic which is why commenters are confused. I would love to see the responses if this was posted on the money and finance board!

+1.

If you're completely loaded so that it's not a big deal at all to spend $36k for a new car in addition to keeping an old car around when you have minimal plans to use either car, then just do that. But then why are you asking?

What do you want to hear from us?

You don’t need the new 3 row Subaru, which is what I assume you want.
If you won’t use it much and mostly will use it for taking kids places, get a used minivan. If you find that you use it more than you thought, get the Subaru you really want in 2-3 years.
You may be loving city life with 2 preschoolers, but schlepping 3 kids and all their stuff on public transit or with a stroller is a whole new ball game.

OP here, haha It is funny the turn this thread is taking, I was planning to send this thread link to my DH but I won't now because he is getting totally misrepresented here (or maybe I will, he might find this funny). We never talked about what to do with the money from the car (because we never intended to sell it) but it is clear in my head that it is his and I don't care for it! The other funny thing is he doesn't care for it either otherwise he would have been very interested in selling the car. So please you all can calm down I am 100% happy with our "weird" financial arrangement!

Now, back to the topic, I find the idea of buying a used minivan interesting, that was the first car my husband suggested (a new one though) but I was like if we are going to get a new car we might as well get the one we really liked (third row SUV). But I think a used mini van might be a good compromise. Thanks