If sibling doesn't want to go, let them stay home. It is a long boring ceremony listening to speeches and watching many many people who you don't know walk across a stage. Grandparents are far more likely to be to enthused about the 30 seconds your son walks than the sibling is. Sibling joins for the party, reception event.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m another one who is surprised that the sibling would not have an automatic ticket.

??? Graduations always have a very limited number of tickets and siblings are never considered. Each graduate usually gets 3 or 4 tickets, no exceptions, because space is so limited at the venue. There might be a mechanism in place for people to donate unused tickets, but without the tickets, families show up with every sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, and cousin. Even my 5th grader had a limit of 3 tickets to his graduation this year.

Automatic meaning the parents woukd not prioritize the sibling. I find this strange also. I mean if the sibling says they do not want to go, that is one thing,

Anonymous wrote:OP, I mean this politely, but are you absolutely sure the GP truly want to attend? I ask because at 83, my own mom no longer attends these types of things.

She hates crowds, has many preferences (aisle seat, for one) is slower moving and is the type who'll happily write a check, send a card, come to the grad party, but sitting in a convention hall or school for over an hour is entirely too much for her.

It is so funny how people in the same age range can have different preferences.

My parents and FIL would be stampeding up the aisle as fast as they could to get to their preferred seats up front and center. Actually, if it was crowded, my mom would using her cane to whack the people in line ahead of her, and my Dad and FIL would be using their canes to holding back the crowd to give her room to swing. Then they would assist each other over the fallen. At that point it would become all very gracious, "Here, let me help you, my dear." My momma might be tiny but she is mighty, and those old boys are happy to let her do the heavy lifting. Just joking about the whacking with the cane … NOT!

But I agree that OP should poll the affected parties to get a feel for their preferences. It may be much ado over nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m another one who is surprised that the sibling would not have an automatic ticket.

??? Graduations always have a very limited number of tickets and siblings are never considered. Each graduate usually gets 3 or 4 tickets, no exceptions, because space is so limited at the venue. There might be a mechanism in place for people to donate unused tickets, but without the tickets, families show up with every sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, and cousin. Even my 5th grader had a limit of 3 tickets to his graduation this year.

Pp means that OP should automatically give sibling a ticket. I disagree. I think sibling would rather stay home and probably has already attended many of sibling’s events before.

I don't care if the sibling does or doesn't want to go; in our family, the siblings go. We had a similar issue recently when my oldest graduated from college. His brothers went and all of the grandparents stayed at our house and streamed it live on our TV.

I agree, it's a big deal in our family for siblings to support each other for big events (recitals, tournaments and yes, graduation).

NP Hope you make the older siblings attend the younger's graduation! My DH attended his two sibs but,they didn't because they were busy ( i know they had jobs but, still he had to sit through their high school and college and I don't think they went to either!

Yes, this is very important - support goes both ways!

Absolutely. Oldest will need to attend the younger sibling's graduation.

Anonymous wrote:Try asking on Nextdoor if anyone has spare tickets.

This. Or call around and ask people if they have a spare ticket.

Before you call around, you can verify that both grandma and grandpa (mom's side) can attend.

What are you doing after the graduation? Party? Dinner?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m another one who is surprised that the sibling would not have an automatic ticket.

??? Graduations always have a very limited number of tickets and siblings are never considered. Each graduate usually gets 3 or 4 tickets, no exceptions, because space is so limited at the venue. There might be a mechanism in place for people to donate unused tickets, but without the tickets, families show up with every sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, and cousin. Even my 5th grader had a limit of 3 tickets to his graduation this year.

Pp means that OP should automatically give sibling a ticket. I disagree. I think sibling would rather stay home and probably has already attended many of sibling’s events before.

I don't care if the sibling does or doesn't want to go; in our family, the siblings go. We had a similar issue recently when my oldest graduated from college. His brothers went and all of the grandparents stayed at our house and streamed it live on our TV.

I agree, it's a big deal in our family for siblings to support each other for big events (recitals, tournaments and yes, graduation).

NP Hope you make the older siblings attend the younger's graduation! My DH attended his two sibs but,they didn't because they were busy ( i know they had jobs but, still he had to sit through their high school and college and I don't think they went to either!

Yes, this is very important - support goes both ways!

I’m assuming you asked around for extra tickets, OP? Growing up, I had a very small family and we were always happy to see the extra tickets go to good use.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m another one who is surprised that the sibling would not have an automatic ticket.

??? Graduations always have a very limited number of tickets and siblings are never considered. Each graduate usually gets 3 or 4 tickets, no exceptions, because space is so limited at the venue. There might be a mechanism in place for people to donate unused tickets, but without the tickets, families show up with every sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, and cousin. Even my 5th grader had a limit of 3 tickets to his graduation this year.

Pp means that OP should automatically give sibling a ticket. I disagree. I think sibling would rather stay home and probably has already attended many of sibling’s events before.

I don't care if the sibling does or doesn't want to go; in our family, the siblings go. We had a similar issue recently when my oldest graduated from college. His brothers went and all of the grandparents stayed at our house and streamed it live on our TV.

I agree, it's a big deal in our family for siblings to support each other for big events (recitals, tournaments and yes, graduation).

Yes, these are small and big ways you teach siblings to support each other, even when one is inconvenienced or god-forbid bored.

OP, I mean this politely, but are you absolutely sure the GP truly want to attend? I ask because at 83, my own mom no longer attends these types of things.

She hates crowds, has many preferences (aisle seat, for one) is slower moving and is the type who'll happily write a check, send a card, come to the grad party, but sitting in a convention hall or school for over an hour is entirely too much for her.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m another one who is surprised that the sibling would not have an automatic ticket.

??? Graduations always have a very limited number of tickets and siblings are never considered. Each graduate usually gets 3 or 4 tickets, no exceptions, because space is so limited at the venue. There might be a mechanism in place for people to donate unused tickets, but without the tickets, families show up with every sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, and cousin. Even my 5th grader had a limit of 3 tickets to his graduation this year.

Pp means that OP should automatically give sibling a ticket. I disagree. I think sibling would rather stay home and probably has already attended many of sibling’s events before.

I don't care if the sibling does or doesn't want to go; in our family, the siblings go. We had a similar issue recently when my oldest graduated from college. His brothers went and all of the grandparents stayed at our house and streamed it live on our TV.

I agree, it's a big deal in our family for siblings to support each other for big events (recitals, tournaments and yes, graduation).

NP Hope you make the older siblings attend the younger's graduation! My DH attended his two sibs but,they didn't because they were busy ( i know they had jobs but, still he had to sit through their high school and college and I don't think they went to either!

I would give tickets to the grandparents and not the sibling. I can't imagine that a sibling will really care to miss a HS graduation ceremony. They are terribly boring. Alternatively, you could ask if anyone on your list serve has any extra tickets.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people bring these “problems” toDCUM to solve. How do you get through life?

It helps us to save time for solving world hunger problems.

I think it depends on personalities. My mother and MIL want to be at EVERYTHING! My FIL would attend normally but happily give up a ticket if someone wanted it more. My father is just along for the ride and does whatever you tell him to do! My oldest child is the generous type who would readily stay home from an event if her appreciative grandparents needed the tickets. (Bonus is she would prep for the party afterwards or whatever too!) My younger child would happily sit out of anything just to not be bored. Staying behind wouldn’t mean being less supportive, but rather allowing those who would appreciate it most attend.

First I would try for an extra ticket from someone. If not, I would open conversation that you are short one ask if someone would be willing to stay behind

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people bring these “problems” toDCUM to solve. How do you get through life?

Not OP, but dcum is suitable for these small problems, logistics, etc. it’s nice to get a perspective on how different people would handle it. Dcum is NOT suitable for huge problems.

I can’t believe people bring these “problems” toDCUM to solve. How do you get through life?