In 4th grade we started “liking” each other in school. “Going out” started in 5th.

My DS is 8, just finished 2nd grade. He's never talked about liking girls or a particular girl or wanting to marry anyone or wanting to kiss anyone. He's also never talked about girls wanting to kiss him or anything similar.

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Anonymous wrote:3 and 4 year olds saying that someone is pretty and they want to marry them isn't a crush. My 4 year old son says that to me all the time, and he doesn't have a crush on me.

It's more like the shy different feeling awkwardness that tends to start around 11 or 12, probably fifth grade.

I'd say that's exactly what it is. The "shy different feeling awkwardness" is the first stirrings of sexual attraction, not just a crush.

We have different definitions of a crush. For me, a crush includes a almost forbidden aspect. Like you do not want the other person to know. And it is tied to sexual stirrings.

Anonymous wrote:3 and 4 year olds saying that someone is pretty and they want to marry them isn't a crush. My 4 year old son says that to me all the time, and he doesn't have a crush on me.

It's more like the shy different feeling awkwardness that tends to start around 11 or 12, probably fifth grade.

I'd say that's exactly what it is. The "shy different feeling awkwardness" is the first stirrings of sexual attraction, not just a crush.

3 and 4 year olds saying that someone is pretty and they want to marry them isn't a crush. My 4 year old son says that to me all the time, and he doesn't have a crush on me.

It's more like the shy different feeling awkwardness that tends to start around 11 or 12, probably fifth grade.

Anonymous wrote:Girl here.. first crush in kindergarten

I know. You and Annette made my life hell! But that was in the early 70s when I was killing it by the swingset.

Anonymous wrote:Just curious. I don't, as a girl, remember crushes until 6th or 7th grade. But my 5th grade boy has had several girls crush on him already. He is completely disturbed by it all. I figure, when he starts getting those feelings himself, he will have a little more empathy.

Marya Blauner, 1st Grade. She'll always be my first. Sigh.

We've got 5th grade boys asking girls out on dates at our school.

I remember in day care, there were several girls who were obviously crushing on my son. They'd invite him over to play, they'd give him presents, they'd make him unsolicited hand-made cards decorated with hearts and flowers. But he didn't show much interest in them. I think he thought they were boring because they weren't interested in trucks and trains. =)

DS is 6.5. First crush was in preschool (4/5). He hasn't seen her in a year and is still a bit heartbroken that they are in different kindergartens and don't see each other.

Anonymous wrote:DS is 10. He and his friends talk about who they have crushes on. Started in 5th grade.

I've heard it's 5th grade also from friends (mine is 7 and I can't even fathom it)

Anonymous wrote:Girl here.. first crush in kindergarten

Same.

DS is 10. He and his friends talk about who they have crushes on. Started in 5th grade.

Anonymous wrote:my 13 year old son is either hiding it from me really well or has absolutely no interest at the moment. that said, he seems to be friends with several girls at school. his "crowd" there includes both boys and girls. he says some of the girls talk about boys but claims the boys do not reciprocate.

Dittoo. Maybe our kids are in the same crowd .

My son had one last year in 2nd grade. Nothing came of it, but I could tell he was interested in a girl in his class.

I remember having a crush on a boy in my first grade class.