Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 10:50     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
I don't want coffee the second I open my eyes. Plus that would mean he's ignoring our two children who would love to spill that coffee all over our bed. Then it would get cold and I'd be annoyed I had to clean it all up.

He does make me coffee every day. In a to-go mug that I drink while driving to work (alone). Much better than in bed!
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 10:21     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:Ladies - marry a man like my husband who always puts his clothes in the hamper, puts the seat down, wipes the counter after he shaves, and washes dishes and picks up toys every night while I put the kids to bed. He comes home from work with milk or other staples “because I noticed we were running low”. He throws a load of wash in “becuase the hamper was full”. He powers through colds and back pain like a mom would.

You don’t have to put up with bumbling, incompetent men. There are men out there who are observant, capable and responsible adults who don’t have to be nagged to be contributing members of the household.

Oh yeah, he also makes coffee every morning.


I’ll add to that list that he can cook an actual meal. My DH cooks about once a year, and it’s always a disaster
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 10:09     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:I always say

Marry a man who will do the night feedings

I didn’t miss a single night of sleep during the newborn stage.


Me, neither (but I've got the boobies)
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 10:03     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
I always say

Marry a man who will do the night feedings

I didn’t miss a single night of sleep during the newborn stage.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:58     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:Ladies - marry a man like my husband who always puts his clothes in the hamper, puts the seat down, wipes the counter after he shaves, and washes dishes and picks up toys every night while I put the kids to bed. He comes home from work with milk or other staples “because I noticed we were running low”. He throws a load of wash in “becuase the hamper was full”. He powers through colds and back pain like a mom would.

You don’t have to put up with bumbling, incompetent men. There are men out there who are observant, capable and responsible adults who don’t have to be nagged to be contributing members of the household.

Oh yeah, he also makes coffee every morning.


Preach it! I'm married to a capable, responsible male adult. Glad he doesn't need his butt wiped by me.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:52     Subject: Re:Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
No coffee in bed for me as I like to be the first one up so I have 30-45 min of quiet time to read the paper. My DH does other great things for me in bed so I'm happy.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:46     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:Ladies - marry a man like my husband who always puts his clothes in the hamper, puts the seat down, wipes the counter after he shaves, and washes dishes and picks up toys every night while I put the kids to bed. He comes home from work with milk or other staples “because I noticed we were running low”. He throws a load of wash in “becuase the hamper was full”. He powers through colds and back pain like a mom would.

You don’t have to put up with bumbling, incompetent men. There are men out there who are observant, capable and responsible adults who don’t have to be nagged to be contributing members of the household.

Oh yeah, he also makes coffee every morning.


This is mine but no coffee. I don’t drink it and he leave at 5:30 every morning and tries so hard not to wake me up. He does my laundry, the toddlers laundry and anything else that needs doing if he sees it
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:44     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I leave the house at 5:00. If I brought my wife coffee then, she'd string me up.


You can't just leave it on her nightstand like mine does? It's the sweetest thing to wake up to!


wouldn't it be stone cold? I would rather he leave the pot on so there is a nice hot cup if I were the type to want this.


Yeah, this. "Hey, honey, here's something else for you to do this morning - carry this full cup of cold coffee downstairs to reheat. Have a good day!"

Moreover, OP, your post and attitude about this remind me of the facebook posters who incessantly proclaim how great their partners and marriages are. It's pretty clear they are overcompensating, and it's pretty clear you are trying to convince yourself that you are happy and have a great marriage. I hope it works out for you.


Wow, projecting much? A lot of Bitter Bettys on this thread. No wonder your DH's don't do sh*t for you. They get zero credit or gratitude for the small, thoughtful acts.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:39     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:DH here. I do this! Not the codfee part, the other sruff.


LOL.

I’d keep you around if you made me laugh on the regular.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:35     Subject: Re:Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
I like my coffee like I like my men.














I don't like coffee!
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:28     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I leave the house at 5:00. If I brought my wife coffee then, she'd string me up.


You can't just leave it on her nightstand like mine does? It's the sweetest thing to wake up to!


Cold coffee?
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:27     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t like coffee in bed, or being overly tended to.

Perhaps better advice is to marry someone who loves you in ways that are meaningful to you.


In a marriage that lasts a lifetime, the little things can be very meaningful. Along with his other wonderful qualities, it means a lot to me that my husband has brought me coffee when I was studying or had a long report to write, started my car in the mornings before we left for work and made sure ice was scraped off the windows when we didn't have a garage, and turned on a few lamps if he gets home before me in the winter--makes the house look cozy when returning home after a long day.


Awesome for you. My husband does little and big things for me, too. They just don’t involve coffee. Because I don’t like that.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:25     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
Ladies - marry a man like my husband who always puts his clothes in the hamper, puts the seat down, wipes the counter after he shaves, and washes dishes and picks up toys every night while I put the kids to bed. He comes home from work with milk or other staples “because I noticed we were running low”. He throws a load of wash in “becuase the hamper was full”. He powers through colds and back pain like a mom would.

You don’t have to put up with bumbling, incompetent men. There are men out there who are observant, capable and responsible adults who don’t have to be nagged to be contributing members of the household.

Oh yeah, he also makes coffee every morning.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:20     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
My husband brings me coffee and a doughnut!

#Winning
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2018 09:15     Subject: Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning
One thing I love about my husband is that he schedules out the whole summer for our kids, selects and books their camps, and takes care of all their camp forms and health forms. He chooses great camps for them too.