OP here. What I find really disgusting is how I am having a professional conversation as a scientist with a younger person in a similar (but not identical) career path. This does not happen often. But, because it was a younger woman, so many people assume it was inappropriate (including my wife). And yet, if I refuse to have the conversation, it is sexist.

Anonymous wrote:Get the plumbing working and tell your wife's friend she is an awful busy body!

I am sure there is a pill you can take for that!

Actually not. Taking the pill could cause an unsafe drop in blood pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:Were you attracted to her?

I was not talking to her because she was attractive or not.

That's non responsive. Please answer the question.

Intellectually, I found her engaging and funny. Physically, I did not really notice. I mean she was not drop dead gorgeous.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's safe to assume that op's behavior crossed a line, and that's why the friend tipped off the wife.

I was in a very public place where I know a lot of people. It is 1/2 mile from our house. I would not cross a line. The only personal things we talked about was when I mentioned my daughter is interested in what she was doing. Frankly, I was wishing my daughter was with me because I would like her to hear from a woman in her field of interest who went to a college DD is interested in.

There was no physical contact, beyond a hand shake.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's safe to assume that op's behavior crossed a line, and that's why the friend tipped off the wife.

I don't think we can assume that at all. He had a friendly chat with someone in his line of work. Is the art of conversation so dead that we have to assume something nefarious about every interaction?

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were you attracted to her?

I was not talking to her because she was attractive or not.

That's non responsive. Please answer the question.

Are you op's wife? What the hell?

Anonymous wrote:I think it's safe to assume that op's behavior crossed a line, and that's why the friend tipped off the wife.

I don't think we can assume that at all. He had a friendly chat with someone in his line of work. Is the art of conversation so dead that we have to assume something nefarious about every interaction?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were you attracted to her?

I was not talking to her because she was attractive or not.

That's non responsive. Please answer the question.

I think it's safe to assume that op's behavior crossed a line, and that's why the friend tipped off the wife.

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Anonymous wrote:if a stranger talks to me for 30 minutes it normally has a flirtatious nature

/attractive 30 year old

So she could have been flirting with me? I am clueless enough to miss it.

Probably as a means to advance her career, hoping you could give her an in somewhere. Not because she was interested in anything sexual.

Why would you even think that? He initiated the conversation. They are in the same field. Why are you accusing the young lady of possibly flirting with him to advance her career? How about just networking and talking to advance her career? Disgusting.
And you all don't understand academics. They talk for hours about their trade. It's not flirting to get ahead, it's not fake-networking to get head, it is plain talking about work. 9-to-5ers don't get this.

What a horrible friend.

Get the plumbing working and tell your wife's friend she is an awful busy body!

I am sure there is a pill you can take for that!

OP you come off as really immature.

Also, either your plumbing works or it doesn’t. It’s weird that you’re not sure.

Are you dense OP? Use all this time and effort and put it towards your wife/marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if a stranger talks to me for 30 minutes it normally has a flirtatious nature

/attractive 30 year old

So she could have been flirting with me? I am clueless enough to miss it.

Probably as a means to advance her career, hoping you could give her an in somewhere. Not because she was interested in anything sexual.