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Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Why are you spending so much on gifts? What kind of graduation? If HS, $200 is way too much. $150 for a baby shower seems excessive to me as well.

What is the appropriate gift for HS graduation and baby shower? Thanks

Wow. I'd say $50ish for each gift.

Ok. I just though HS graduation and baby shower happens only once while Father's Day every year, hence smaller gift. I guess my reasoning is wrong.

Yes $200 and $150 is much too much unless the graduation is your child or grandchild (not nephew) or the baby showers are for one of your siblings (or siblings in law), so for the birth of a niece or nephew. $50-100 is much more reasonable.

You were planning to spend $500 on gifts. Redistribute to $100 per gift and you'll only spend $400 and still be within the same budget.

Additionally, when such interactions occur with your in-laws, do not comment directly to the in-laws. Make your comments to your husband and let him manage his siblings and parents. So, you commented to your husband that you thought it was a bit much and he said essentially "What's the problem?" because he didn't see it as a problem. That means that you stay out of it unless you are trying to say that this violates a previously agreed upon budget or that you think it is excessive. Judging by your intended graduation/baby shower gifts that would just come across as not liking his parents and wanting to be rude to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

The father should pick up brunch.

What kind of people ASK/DEMAND gifts ? Uncouth as hell or a bs story.

Sometimes this place reads like a backwoods hillbilly fake money novel.

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Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Why are you spending so much on gifts? What kind of graduation? If HS, $200 is way too much. $150 for a baby shower seems excessive to me as well.

What is the appropriate gift for HS graduation and baby shower? Thanks

Wow. I'd say $50ish for each gift.

Ok. I just though HS graduation and baby shower happens only once while Father's Day every year, hence smaller gift. I guess my reasoning is wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Why are you spending so much on gifts? What kind of graduation? If HS, $200 is way too much. $150 for a baby shower seems excessive to me as well.

What is the appropriate gift for HS graduation and baby shower? Thanks

Wow. I'd say $50ish for each gift.

I'd let DH handle this.

But I also wouldn't be afraid to say "oh we already got FIL a gift, so we'll be giving him that. I bet he'll love the lawn mower!"

Was it really a "demand" or was it an "ask"?

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Anonymous wrote:How much money?

It is not that much money per se($100) but we were planning to take the whole family for brunch/lunch for Father's Day plus we 2 baby showers this month and a nephew graduation.

Can you cancel lunch on Father’s Day or make it a potluck?

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Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Why are you spending so much on gifts? What kind of graduation? If HS, $200 is way too much. $150 for a baby shower seems excessive to me as well.

What is the appropriate gift for HS graduation and baby shower? Thanks

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Skip the brunch and go in on the gift.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

You clearly hate your MIL and that is the issue

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Then spend less on gifts. It is not rocket science

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Why are you spending so much on gifts? What kind of graduation? If HS, $200 is way too much. $150 for a baby shower seems excessive to me as well.

Anonymous wrote:Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.

Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you.