Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My long term sporadic AP told me he loved me randomly one of the first times we met. I chalked it up to the heat of the pursuit. I also caught feelings eventually and decided to distance myself from the heat of the flame.

Perspective. It’s fantasy land. Infatuation. Quit while you’re both ahead. Yes, there’s a line with an AP. Don’t get too close.

Long term sporadic AC? What do you mean? Sleeping with him only a few times a year? Once a month?

How then did you distance yourself further than that? Completely broke it off?

**AP** of course.

Anonymous wrote:My long term sporadic AP told me he loved me randomly one of the first times we met. I chalked it up to the heat of the pursuit. I also caught feelings eventually and decided to distance myself from the heat of the flame.

Perspective. It’s fantasy land. Infatuation. Quit while you’re both ahead. Yes, there’s a line with an AP. Don’t get too close.

Long term sporadic AC? What do you mean? Sleeping with him only a few times a year? Once a month?

How then did you distance yourself further than that? Completely broke it off?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ug, I just had the urge (post sex) to say I love you to my AP. I restrained myself, thank goodness. I'm sure I wouldn't get one in return.
Is it time to break up?

I'm a guy. I had a ONS a few weeks ago. The second time we hooked up I blurted out "OMG I love you.........OMG did I really say that."

Fortunately she was nice and said "It's ok, it happens."

Yes but are you married?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ug, I just had the urge (post sex) to say I love you to my AP. I restrained myself, thank goodness. I'm sure I wouldn't get one in return.
Is it time to break up?

Why would a man say I love you to his side piece?

Mine said it to me first. We were both feeling it. He left his wife and we are still together many years later. I’m going to get insanely flamed for this but judge away. Life is too short not to be happy.

You conveniently omitted the rest of your sentence: "at the expense of others." Of course, I get that some people don't really have a conscience.

My long term sporadic AP told me he loved me randomly one of the first times we met. I chalked it up to the heat of the pursuit. I also caught feelings eventually and decided to distance myself from the heat of the flame.

Perspective. It’s fantasy land. Infatuation. Quit while you’re both ahead. Yes, there’s a line with an AP. Don’t get too close.

Anonymous wrote:Ug, I just had the urge (post sex) to say I love you to my AP. I restrained myself, thank goodness. I'm sure I wouldn't get one in return.
Is it time to break up?

I'm a guy. I had a ONS a few weeks ago. The second time we hooked up I blurted out "OMG I love you.........OMG did I really say that."

Fortunately she was nice and said "It's ok, it happens."

Anonymous wrote:OP - tell him. I told my long term AP and she felt the same. It made the intimacy that much better. Had she not felt the same way maybe I would have been a little hurt, or embarrassed, but I knew it was far from casual. We were 1000 miles apart so leaving for each other was not in the cards.

I'm a little scared. Little? Simple scared.

OP - tell him. I told my long term AP and she felt the same. It made the intimacy that much better. Had she not felt the same way maybe I would have been a little hurt, or embarrassed, but I knew it was far from casual. We were 1000 miles apart so leaving for each other was not in the cards.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ug, I just had the urge (post sex) to say I love you to my AP. I restrained myself, thank goodness. I'm sure I wouldn't get one in return.
Is it time to break up?

Why would a man say I love you to his side piece?

Mine said it to me first. We were both feeling it. He left his wife and we are still together many years later. I’m going to get insanely flamed for this but judge away. Life is too short not to be happy.

Ever wonder if he says it to his new AP?

He does.

Anonymous wrote:Op- how badly do you want to know if he does love you?
Just ask him. He does? You’re thrilled. He doesn’t? You can end it or continue with the affair knowing that it’s just been a hookup for him.

Good question. I'm a little scared to know either way. I don't think he loves me, but we are considerably more than hook up sex.

Op- how badly do you want to know if he does love you?

Just ask him. He does? You’re thrilled. He doesn’t? You can end it or continue with the affair knowing that it’s just been a hookup for him.

Anonymous wrote:Of course he loves you. The sex is comfortable now. It’s been 2 years. He doesn’t want to complicate things or spoil the routine so he won’t say the words. But he loves you. You got trouble.

I agree with this. What makes you think he hasn't resisted the urge to say the same thing?

Of course he loves you. The sex is comfortable now. It’s been 2 years. He doesn’t want to complicate things or spoil the routine so he won’t say the words. But he loves you. You got trouble.