Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 22:17     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another mom of two boys here. Tribe tribe tribe tribe tribe.

I love my tribe!


What makes it a tribe?


I'm curious too. I don't think 2 kids is enough to make a tribe. If you have 4 or 5 kids and start referring to them as your tribe, I will at least understand what you're going for
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 22:17     Subject: Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people experience this - you are just saying it out loud. Sorry you are feeling this way.

Someone explained this "disappointment" to me in a way that might be helpful to you. Before you know the sex of the baby, you have two imaginary babies - a potential son and a potential daughter. Once you find out, one of those imaginary babies will no longer be. For you, since you say this is probably your last child, this situation is especially true since you likely will not have a chance to have another son at all. To some people, that is a loss that they want to mourn. That's your choice, and it's fine.

Let yourself feel your feelings now and then try to let it go. Sisters will be such a great gift to each other and really, the sex is one of the least important things about a baby. But I think you already know that. Hope you feel better soon, OP, and don't beat yourself up in the meantime.


+10000. I know my sister had gender disappointment both times (opposite sex). And I think it was something about it being real. Okay, this is not a boy not going to be the picture I imagined of having a son first. And then okay this is not a girl. Not the picture I imagined of sisters.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 21:43     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:Another mom of two boys here. Tribe tribe tribe tribe tribe.

I love my tribe!


What makes it a tribe?
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 21:35     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:Another mom of two boys here. Tribe tribe tribe tribe tribe.

I love my tribe!


Not everyone feels this way.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 21:34     Subject: Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:Wait, I thought that according to dcum gender no longer exists. Just raise her as a boy.


Ha! Was going to post something similar, but maybe a little less snarky. It does make me wonder, though, how we as a society got to a moment that simultaneously over-hypes "Gender Reveal" parties (gag!) and yet insists that gender is merely a social construct. I'm pretty LGBTQ friendly, in terms of how people should be treated and be free to live their lives. Dude...you "feel like" a woman, cool. Live as a woman. But don't try to make me swallow that nonsense that you've *always been* a woman. You be you...but let's not pretend gender dysphoria is everyone else's issue because they know the difference between a boy and a girl.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 19:56     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Another mom of two boys here. Tribe tribe tribe tribe tribe.

I love my tribe!
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 19:53     Subject: Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:You’ll be fine once she is here. Or hopefully before. I’m a mom of two boys and people tell me how horrific it must be to not have a girl but I absolutely love my little tribe. I agree with earlier posters that a same-sex siblings are a preferred dynamic at least when they’re young.


Stop saying tribe.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 18:35     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
I only have 1 sibling (a sister), and we've always been super close since she was born. I can't even imagine my life without her. Perhaps, your daughter's will have a similar experience, and amazing bond, too. *hugs*
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 18:28     Subject: Gender disappointment on second one
When you see her and hold her in your arm, you will be over it. Trust me. Baby is that powerful .
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 17:56     Subject: Gender disappointment on second one
Same sex siblings are wonderful. I have three boys, and absolutely love it and adore them. Really, any combo of sex is fine because they are yours--you love them for who they are.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 15:57     Subject: Gender disappointment on second one
You’ll be fine once she is here. Or hopefully before. I’m a mom of two boys and people tell me how horrific it must be to not have a girl but I absolutely love my little tribe. I agree with earlier posters that a same-sex siblings are a preferred dynamic at least when they’re young.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 15:41     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:Sorry you feel disappointed. I have a girl and am having a second girl and am SO EXCITED. Sisters are such a gift.


Unless they're not and you don't get along, which happens with regularity.

Stop with the drivel people.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 15:36     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:Sorry you feel disappointed. I have a girl and am having a second girl and am SO EXCITED. Sisters are such a gift.
this is so dumb. I have a sister and we aren’t close. Being same sex doesn’t mean your kids will be close. I have one of each close in age and I fully understand they will be close or not and that gender won’t make the difference.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 14:58     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
Anonymous wrote:Sorry you feel disappointed. I have a girl and am having a second girl and am SO EXCITED. Sisters are such a gift.


Not OP but I am super jealous. Just found out I'm due with a boy and I'm seriously sad about it...I was SO picturing another sweet little girl and a sister for DD. Enjoy!
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2018 14:55     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment on second one
I am the opposite of you, OP. I wanted a second girl but having a boy instead. I got over that initial disappointment quickly. I’m excited to meet our little guy now. You will be excited about your second girl as well. Just give it some time.