I didn’t get any cup of tea, not even a glass of water. Instead, DH modeled how to get fussed by a simple request.

Anonymous wrote:Was waiting for people to start complaining. Typical ungrateful complainers. It's only 7am for pete's sake!

Well, if you haven't been showered with gifts and adoration by 7 AM, the day is ruined !!

I intend to spend the day reading, possibly will bake some cookies. DH is actually home so he will handle supper. My kids are older and both working.

I won't see my own Mom but an hour long phone conversation is very possible.

FUN FACT: The woman who created mothers day ended up hating the day.

I'm sick today and my twelve year old DS told me to "stop whining and bitching about it."

A lot of people think it's terrible that he would speak to me like that- but because I'm his mom, I know his ADHD makes him impulsive but not mean.

It hurt my feelings and of course I talked with him about being respectful. He balances out some nastiness with some exceptionally nice behavior- he used my phone to text back and forth with his elderly grandmother quite bit this morning (she loved it) and he paid attention to our needy, affectionate dog.

DH is on work travel- and family lives far away, so no fancy brunches, but that's okay.

Being a parent is kind of hard and complicated sometimes- especially when kids are in some rough patches of tween and teen. I love my DS and I think he's a blessing (even on bad days).

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Anonymous wrote:Was waiting for people to start complaining. Typical ungrateful complainers. It's only 7am for pete's sake!

It’s the annual DCUM “My Husband is a Jackass Because He Didn’t Meet My Secret Expectations For Mother’s Day Even Though I am Not His Mother” thread.
Drink up, bitchez!

I'm of the camp that just because a spouse isn't your parent doesn't mean you don't celebrate them.

Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

OP, with my daughter, once she got to a certain age, she was aware of Mother’s Day and really wanted to make me a card. Every year she makes me a card and delights in doing it. It’s much more fun and special to her than buying me a card. And she makes a production out of keeping it secret from me. She also drives everything else about Mother’s Day, even though I know my DH just views it as a Hallmark holiday. It’s possible your daughter is the one who wants to make you a card. Maybe, if she’s in preschool or whatever, they are discussing it then, or somehow she knows it’s coming. Your ex is a jerk, but it’s good for your daughter to be encouraged to think of you and do something special for you. Don’t associate it with your @sshole ex, if you can help it. Even though she was with him, she was thinking of you.

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Anonymous wrote:Three years ago I was enjoying a lovely Mother’s Day working on our teeny tiny front “yard” of our rowhouse with teen ds. I was weeding under the Japanese maple oak, went to stand up and cut my head on a stub on a branch.

“Mom, I think something’s wrong. You have blood dripping down your face.”

I guess freaking your kid out and getting stitches in your head on Mother’s Day makes it the worst for me.

Ha! Last year, my DH stabbed himself in the hand while opening up my gift. He got blood all over my mom's new house, and because my family is a family of very loud, very nosy busy-bodies, everyone freaked out and all went to the hospital with him. While there I ran into an ex-boyfriend. It was fun.

Now we joke about how only a blood sacrifice will satisfy me on Mother's Day

Ha, thanks for sharing!

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Anonymous wrote:How about this year I’ll be thinking about my daughter who committed suicide last month. Late dinner reservations? A handmade card? These are your complaints? Be grateful for what you have while you have it. Happy Mother’s Day!

I am so, so sorry.....sending you a virtual hug. You are right, we should all be grateful for the good things in our lives.

I am so sorry. This must all seem incredibly petty to you.

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Anonymous wrote:How about this year I’ll be thinking about my daughter who committed suicide last month. Late dinner reservations? A handmade card? These are your complaints? Be grateful for what you have while you have it. Happy Mother’s Day!

I am so, so sorry.....sending you a virtual hug. You are right, we should all be grateful for the good things in our lives.

+1 How tragic, I can't imagine your pain. I have several friends who've lost young children. I always try to keep that in mind and not sweat the small stuff today.

Anonymous wrote:That’s why you never, ever go out on holidays. Restaurants suck and are over crowded.

Yeah, but I don't want to clean the house or host Mother's Day Brunch on Mother's Day, either. So out it is!

Normally it isn't too bad out at the restaurants.

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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

I think Op is bitter because when they were married her ex never did a thing for her for Mother's Day. Now that they are divorced he is suddenly doing something thoughtful for Op which also gives her daughter the impression that Daddy has always been a nice and thoughtful guy to Op. In reality, he's "nice" to Op to make HIMSELF look good in the eyes of his daughter. Op knows this and it truly grates on her.

Op needs to let go of the bitterness. I see nothing wrong with the card

Op should focus on the fact that her DAUGHTER is doing something sweet for her on Mother's Day. That's the important thing. Forget the ex.

I totally understand how Op does not want to be put in the position of doing something equally thoughtful for her ex on Father's Day. But I think that Op should provide her daughter with construction paper, markers, etc and give her daughter the opportunity to do something thoughtful for her dad on Father's Day.

Only if her daughter asks for it.

That’s no way to live your life. Surely OP already owns markers or crayons and some kind of paper, if she has a child who can write. The card is for her dd’s sake, not her ex’s.

Sorry, no. I don't like it for the kid "sake" either.

Anonymous wrote:How about this year I’ll be thinking about my daughter who committed suicide last month. Late dinner reservations? A handmade card? These are your complaints? Be grateful for what you have while you have it. Happy Mother’s Day!

I am so, so sorry.....sending you a virtual hug. You are right, we should all be grateful for the good things in our lives.

Anonymous wrote:10 years ago I was 38 weeks pregnant with our first child and my husband (now ex husband) said he wouldn’t do anything for me for mother’s day because I wasn’t a mother yet.

I flipped the script today and brought a card to my very pregnant neighbor.

nice! love it

This year my mom's yahrzeit (anniversary of her death) is today (mothers day 2018; she passed away May 13, 2004).

I feel like I should make her brisket recipe, but I bought scallops for dinner (on sale at Whole Foods), so I will make that for my wife. Mom never really cooked Sea Food (she did not keep kosher, but only cooked what her mom made).

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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

I think Op is bitter because when they were married her ex never did a thing for her for Mother's Day. Now that they are divorced he is suddenly doing something thoughtful for Op which also gives her daughter the impression that Daddy has always been a nice and thoughtful guy to Op. In reality, he's "nice" to Op to make HIMSELF look good in the eyes of his daughter. Op knows this and it truly grates on her.

Op needs to let go of the bitterness. I see nothing wrong with the card

Op should focus on the fact that her DAUGHTER is doing something sweet for her on Mother's Day. That's the important thing. Forget the ex.

I totally understand how Op does not want to be put in the position of doing something equally thoughtful for her ex on Father's Day. But I think that Op should provide her daughter with construction paper, markers, etc and give her daughter the opportunity to do something thoughtful for her dad on Father's Day.

Only if her daughter asks for it.

That’s no way to live your life. Surely OP already owns markers or crayons and some kind of paper, if she has a child who can write. The card is for her dd’s sake, not her ex’s.