Anonymous wrote:What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.

Uh huh. And what happens if you have the character trait called integrity and your spouse hands you one called celibacy? And never takes it back?

Until you have lived in a celibate marriage for, oh, let's say 5+ years, don't go casting stones. Sexual starvation can make.people.do things they never thought they would do.

Anonymous wrote:What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.

Agreed. Unfortunately a rare quality.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Lack of opportunities.

2. I'm squeamish. I wouldn't to stick my dick in some skank's diseased pussy just for the "thrill" of some strange.

3. Then of course there's my wife. I'd probably feel guilty if I cheated and obviously it would hurt her feelings.

Haha. The wife being third. Nice

And that says it all. The first sentence.

Anonymous wrote:1. Lack of opportunities.

2. I'm squeamish. I wouldn't to stick my dick in some skank's diseased pussy just for the "thrill" of some strange.

3. Then of course there's my wife. I'd probably feel guilty if I cheated and obviously it would hurt her feelings.

Haha. The wife being third. Nice

1. Lack of opportunities.

2. I'm squeamish. I wouldn't to stick my dick in some skank's diseased pussy just for the "thrill" of some strange.

3. Then of course there's my wife. I'd probably feel guilty if I cheated and obviously it would hurt her feelings.

I know I couldn't get away with it and have much to lose when caught. That's the rational, practical reason to not cheat and I like to think that there is more than that between maintaining fidelity and cheating.

I liken it to robbing banks. What if I applied my smarts and figured out how to rob banks without getting caught? Would you do then? I don't think I would. There is more than rational decision making at work here.

I have not cheated after 19 years of marriage because I am too uptight by nature, am too mentally/emotionally invested in continuing the marriage and am (mostly) a rule follower.

There seems to be something else going on with people who seem to have it all, are so brazen that they are certain to be caught and cheat anyway. What are they thinking? Not sure what drives someone to do that. Of course, I also do not rob banks.

My husband was a cheating shit of a person. I never cheated because I couldn't live with lies and deceit. I think some people find it easier than others to do awful things. I know I would hate myself if I hurt someone like that.

I'm very happy with my marriage and simply don't have the desire or the need to cheat either emotionally or physically. My DH is my best friend and he's a very good listener....most of the time! He's not a hand holder but he's pretty affectionate and very sweet to me. Our sex life is very good and we are both pretty adventuresome so we always look forward to the next time.

I wouldn't cheat because it would take so long to teach some other man all of the fun things my DH is able to do to me.

No need! I adore my DW of 29 years she still really loves sex. Plus I've worked my butt off and I'd hate to see my net worth cut in half!

I couldn't do it to my DH but also he satisfies me fine. I'm probably more likely to end up in an emotional affair, but not really around random hot guys much, anyway.

A bunch of reasons. First, I love my DH of 30+ years and he takes care of all of my emotional and physical needs. Second, my DH and my adult children would lose all respect for me. Third, I would lose all respect for myself. Fourth, why screw up what has been and is a wonderful life? I've never been tempted to cheat and the one time a guy wanted me to cheat (yes, at a conference) I told him to f---- off and immediately called my DH to tell him. DH said that at least the a--hole has outstanding taste in women!

Anonymous wrote:Because I could never hurt my husband like that. It's not that I haven't been attracted to other men. It's not that I am always completely and in every possibly way satisfied by my husband every second of every day. It's not even because I'm morally or ethically that good of a person. It's because it would destroy him if I cheated on him (and vice versa), and I could never do that to a person I love so much.

I feel the same way. I just respect him, and myself, and our children, and our life too much. Is everything constantly rosy? Nope.

Anonymous wrote:Because I don't need to cheat. In my marriage, we have a decent enough sex life at home. If/when that changes, I reserve the right to change my mind about monogamy.

Lots of people with you same circumstances still cheat.

Because I don't need to cheat. In my marriage, we have a decent enough sex life at home. If/when that changes, I reserve the right to change my mind about monogamy.