It sounds like he can be easily manipulated/controlled. You better use that to your benefit before his mother gets involved.

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

He's going to get some x for us to do this weekend after the kids go to bed on Friday night. He thinks it's the only thing that will make him "feel" something for me again.

I don't want a guy to have to do drugs to like me and I have lost a lot of respect for him in these recent weeks. On the other hand, if we each take one pill and it's going to solve all our marriage problems and keep a family together, it seems stupid otherwise.

There is real risk as we both have clearances and need them for work.

I want him out of my life but he says that with X, we will both love each other. He says it's a drug used in couples therapy.

Are you a troll? If not, re-read this post as if it was a friend saying it to you - or even get a friend to read it and opine on it. This is insane. Please don't drink this Kool-aid.

Op here.

He's going to get some x for us to do this weekend after the kids go to bed on Friday night. He thinks it's the only thing that will make him "feel" something for me again.

I don't want a guy to have to do drugs to like me and I have lost a lot of respect for him in these recent weeks. On the other hand, if we each take one pill and it's going to solve all our marriage problems and keep a family together, it seems stupid otherwise.

There is real risk as we both have clearances and need them for work.

I want him out of my life but he says that with X, we will both love each other. He says it's a drug used in couples therapy.

MDMA isn’t particularly addictive, and doesn’t make him a druggie. :eye roll: red herring.

You deserve better, OP. Get out.

Sorry for all the auto-incorrect typos.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By the way, ecstasy makes you love a barking dog. I highly doubt it indicated anything real he perceived. Your husband sounds like he is going through some sort of crisis. How old is he? We’re there other problems or things going on before this? Is there a major decision coming up, job change, move, did anyone die recently?

He's 40. Is this a midlife crisis? I despise him for putting me through this.

No changes, no deaths, nothing.

He agrees that the ecstasy was a "chemical" love but he says that it is highly addictive and because he did it with her, he's addicted to her even though she had so many issues. He never felt that way with me.

Of course he didn’t - he wasn’t high.

You are his safe space. Something had him freaking out. Maybe it’s turning 40 and feeling like he doesn’t have control of his life. I’d you love him, and want it to work, remind him that you are willing to change together. That if he wants space, you respect it, but isn’t things need to change in how you two live your married life for the next 40 years, that’s fine too. You might have to save him from himself again if he is coping with feelings that he has surprised forever around her, his mom, you. She is an illusion. She is married right? Did they recently see each other? Do you think he is telling you everything? You didn’t know about the ecstasy before, but he is bringing up something from many years ago now... for what reason?

It didn’t “just hit him”. Something happened. Maybe he got high? Saw her? Something else?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put some ecstasy in his pancakes.

Lol. I wouldn't do it myself but this is a really good idea. How do you get something like that. I have no idea.

This actually may be the solution to all DCUM Relationship Discussions. There are worse things someone could do to address their relationship issues.