Anonymous wrote:I finally got up the nerve last year. Hardest year of my life but I'm so much happier. My kids are doing well and co-parenting is going good.

My too. Telling our DD was the hardest. She was 13 but there is never a good age. But, life is short and everyone deserves to be happy. Really, you can't live your life just for your kids. Good luck to you!

Anonymous wrote:I know I should, yet I can’t muster the courage. It’s not financial - I work and make enough money.
It’s the kids. I’m afraid they will never recover.
I’m also a little sad about our life - our friends and community and that aspect.
But mostly I can’t imagine telling this to the kids. They are 13, 12 and 6.

You alone know if you really must, or if you "ought to." My marriage survived through infidelity so I know it's possible. I think that meanness and cruelty in the house is a better reason to divorce than infidelity.

If you are uncertain if you really SHOULD divorce, you can always take a break. Live separately for a few weeks or months. Sometimes you need distance to sort out thoughts in your head. Life is long. Sometimes things loom at you out of proportion.