Anonymous
04/16/2018 10:16
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
Civilized people aren’t abusive. Civilized people aren’t emotionally manipulative at every turn. Civilized people don’t expose their children to people, even people they share dna with, who will hurt or abuse them, even if it’s not sexual abuse (which app said is the only reasonable excuse for cutting grandparents off).
What is this abuse you are talking about? In America when parents abuse their children they go to jail.
Not true.
Many children are too intimidated or scared to report. When they do it rarely results in a jail sentence unless it's very severe
You were intimidated or scared growing up.
Try growing up with fear of being shot in school. Try growing up with Trump as your president. Try growing up with parents who everything is about them.
What happened to YOU that YOU were so traumatized. It’s really all about YOU if you had the guts to admit that.
There is a new expression I heard, “Is your ego bigger than your love for your family?” Here’s another one, “Love is the absence of ego”.
YOUR kids need some serious selfless parenting. YOU should start shopping around now for YOUR kids shrink because YOU don’t get it.
Anonymous
04/16/2018 01:23
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
Civilized people aren’t abusive. Civilized people aren’t emotionally manipulative at every turn. Civilized people don’t expose their children to people, even people they share dna with, who will hurt or abuse them, even if it’s not sexual abuse (which app said is the only reasonable excuse for cutting grandparents off).
What is this abuse you are talking about? In America when parents abuse their children they go to jail.
Not true.
Many children are too intimidated or scared to report. When they do it rarely results in a jail sentence unless it's very severe
Anonymous
04/16/2018 00:53
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
It’s not always this big dramatic cutting off from specific people. My mother did something unforgivably cruel to me and she will not acknowledge it or apologize. I spoke to her a couple times and explained that she would have to acknowledge what she did and apologize. I didn’t make any threats towards her about no contact. But she never apologized and also hasn’t reached out again in 4 years. The phone works both ways.
Oftentimes it’s not this big dramatic ceremony of cutting someone off, it’s simply laying down a boundary and the other party not liking that and deciding to pretend their child doesn’t exist.
I’m not going to chase her down. If she wants to make it right it’s up to her to figure out how to do that.
I think SNL should do a skit on this. It could be a young American mother in a diaper schooling a young woman from another culture about....how it is. The woman from another culture who fled her homeland and came to America not even speaking the language.
American: It’s like not obviously dramatic. I mean not as big as something like a gender reveal. It’s like boundaries
Other woman: Is it like building a wall? Americans like to do that.
American: So like my mom was mean to me. I will not allow that. I explained what she had to do and she didn’t do it. You know, I got like upset. When my mom upsets me she needs to learn.
Other woman: I understand about phones working both ways. America has wonderful technology. Maybe this is all too much for your mother. You appear to be very self aware. Maybe your mother is making it right by staying away from you.
American: How dare you say that! You know nothing! You live in your own little bubble. You upset me and I soiled myself.
You are very weird.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 23:19
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
I think some of the people on this thread work in my office.
My husband and I are doubled over laughing.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Sz0o9clVQu8
My husband and I are doubled over laughing.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Sz0o9clVQu8
Anonymous
04/15/2018 23:03
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
It’s not always this big dramatic cutting off from specific people. My mother did something unforgivably cruel to me and she will not acknowledge it or apologize. I spoke to her a couple times and explained that she would have to acknowledge what she did and apologize. I didn’t make any threats towards her about no contact. But she never apologized and also hasn’t reached out again in 4 years. The phone works both ways.
Oftentimes it’s not this big dramatic ceremony of cutting someone off, it’s simply laying down a boundary and the other party not liking that and deciding to pretend their child doesn’t exist.
I’m not going to chase her down. If she wants to make it right it’s up to her to figure out how to do that.
I think SNL should do a skit on this. It could be a young American mother in a diaper schooling a young woman from another culture about....how it is. The woman from another culture who fled her homeland and came to America not even speaking the language.
American: It’s like not obviously dramatic. I mean not as big as something like a gender reveal. It’s like boundaries
Other woman: Is it like building a wall? Americans like to do that.
American: So like my mom was mean to me. I will not allow that. I explained what she had to do and she didn’t do it. You know, I got like upset. When my mom upsets me she needs to learn.
Other woman: I understand about phones working both ways. America has wonderful technology. Maybe this is all too much for your mother. You appear to be very self aware. Maybe your mother is making it right by staying away from you.
American: How dare you say that! You know nothing! You live in your own little bubble. You upset me and I soiled myself.
American: ....and I’m not inviting you kid to my daughter/sons birthday party.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 22:59
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
It’s not always this big dramatic cutting off from specific people. My mother did something unforgivably cruel to me and she will not acknowledge it or apologize. I spoke to her a couple times and explained that she would have to acknowledge what she did and apologize. I didn’t make any threats towards her about no contact. But she never apologized and also hasn’t reached out again in 4 years. The phone works both ways.
Oftentimes it’s not this big dramatic ceremony of cutting someone off, it’s simply laying down a boundary and the other party not liking that and deciding to pretend their child doesn’t exist.
I’m not going to chase her down. If she wants to make it right it’s up to her to figure out how to do that.
I think SNL should do a skit on this. It could be a young American mother in a diaper schooling a young woman from another culture about....how it is. The woman from another culture who fled her homeland and came to America not even speaking the language.
American: It’s like not obviously dramatic. I mean not as big as something like a gender reveal. It’s like boundaries
Other woman: Is it like building a wall? Americans like to do that.
American: So like my mom was mean to me. I will not allow that. I explained what she had to do and she didn’t do it. You know, I got like upset. When my mom upsets me she needs to learn.
Other woman: I understand about phones working both ways. America has wonderful technology. Maybe this is all too much for your mother. You appear to be very self aware. Maybe your mother is making it right by staying away from you.
American: How dare you say that! You know nothing! You live in your own little bubble. You upset me and I soiled myself.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 21:01
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Your mother did or said something not nice. You learned from her. In my culture we would as you say “chase her down”.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 20:59
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
Civilized people aren’t abusive. Civilized people aren’t emotionally manipulative at every turn. Civilized people don’t expose their children to people, even people they share dna with, who will hurt or abuse them, even if it’s not sexual abuse (which app said is the only reasonable excuse for cutting grandparents off).
What is this abuse you are talking about? In America when parents abuse their children they go to jail.
Oh you mean how those two moms in Oregon who just killed their 6 kids went to jail?
Anonymous
04/15/2018 20:59
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
Civilized people aren’t abusive. Civilized people aren’t emotionally manipulative at every turn. Civilized people don’t expose their children to people, even people they share dna with, who will hurt or abuse them, even if it’s not sexual abuse (which app said is the only reasonable excuse for cutting grandparents off).
What is this abuse you are talking about? In America when parents abuse their children they go to jail.
It must be nice living in your bubble. When you join the rest of us in the real world, you’ll learn that’s simply not true. Especially when you consider emotional abuse. CPS is overworked and underfunded. They do well to handle the worst cases. Emotional abuse is swept under the rug, because they need to take care of the kids who are in physical danger first. Also, if you do ever come over to the real world, look up some stats on how often sexual abuse is successfully prosecuted. It’s often unreported, and when it is reported, it can be extremely difficult to prove.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 20:58
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
It’s not always this big dramatic cutting off from specific people. My mother did something unforgivably cruel to me and she will not acknowledge it or apologize. I spoke to her a couple times and explained that she would have to acknowledge what she did and apologize. I didn’t make any threats towards her about no contact. But she never apologized and also hasn’t reached out again in 4 years. The phone works both ways.
Oftentimes it’s not this big dramatic ceremony of cutting someone off, it’s simply laying down a boundary and the other party not liking that and deciding to pretend their child doesn’t exist.
I’m not going to chase her down. If she wants to make it right it’s up to her to figure out how to do that.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 20:54
Subject: Re:the kids are watching....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question: For those that cut their own family out of their children’s lives. Is it cultural? It certainly seems to go against the laws of nature. Civilized societies don’t do this. There is no reason to behave in such a selfish manner as to deny family relationships.
Civilized people aren’t abusive. Civilized people aren’t emotionally manipulative at every turn. Civilized people don’t expose their children to people, even people they share dna with, who will hurt or abuse them, even if it’s not sexual abuse (which app said is the only reasonable excuse for cutting grandparents off).
What is this abuse you are talking about? In America when parents abuse their children they go to jail.
Surely you jest.