Anonymous wrote:My ass it ended at "long hugs"

They were having long hugs while fully unclothed and otherwise engaged.

Let him know she is still at it (if she is) but he obviously doesn't want to know the details.

No, he already said he didn’t want to know the details. Is his DW still coming after your husband? That would be the only reason to alert him. If this woman has left your DH alone and they are no longer in contact, I’d let it go. Focus on your own marriage, not theirs.

I get it - you’re furious and want the other woman punished for her behavior. You’re way of out line in contacting her husband, sounds like he handled that well. What exactly do you think you’ll accomplish by harassing him further? He knows because you told him already, leave him out of it. This is between you and your husband, not anybody else on the periphery. Sounds like you’re spending too much time and energy mulling this over again and again. That is only going to make you behave badly, won’t help. Go to counseling with your husband, or make up your mind to leave him, or let it go. Otherwise you’re just destroying lives with no good outcome.

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Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

you love trotting that tired line out.
She went to the man's house AND she emailed him. He's all set on the being informed front.

This and it seems that op is ruminating on ap's marriage to distract herself from the trouble in her own marriage.

This. Meanwhile she's trying to make herself believe the OW tried to kiss him but he rejected it. COME ON!

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Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

you love trotting that tired line out.
She went to the man's house AND she emailed him. He's all set on the being informed front.

This and it seems that op is ruminating on ap's marriage to distract herself from the trouble in her own marriage.

Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

you love trotting that tired line out.
She went to the man's house AND she emailed him. He's all set on the being informed front.

I'm not a cheater and I suggested that OP not contact him AGAIN. She has already contacted him once. He knows what happened. He doesn't want to know more.


Why not? The OP has additional details. Fill him in.

He already said he wasn't interested in the details. Leave the man alone. He's just going to think OP is crazy for continuing to contact him.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I remember your old post.
Ok so I’m *always* in the “tell them” camp when people come in here and ask if they should tell the AP’s spouse. I’ve been burned twice by cheaters, and hands down would prefer someone to tell me than to MYOB. I’ll never understand that mindset. You want a cheater to get away with it? I don’t get it.

But anyways - A) i think you’re unraveling. You already told the husband and it sounds as if he honestly just doesn’t care, or already knew. Wouldn’t be my response, but everyone’s different.
B) I’m sorry, but it was more than “long hugs”.

People don't tell from experience. They know the spouses/girlfriends will choose to stay in the relationship. They are saying MYOB more to protect the person exposing the deed than protect the guilty party. Eventually, the affair will be found out.

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Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

I'm not a cheater and I suggested that OP not contact him AGAIN. She has already contacted him once. He knows what happened. He doesn't want to know more.

Why not? The OP has additional details. Fill him in.

OP, I remember your old post.
Ok so I’m *always* in the “tell them” camp when people come in here and ask if they should tell the AP’s spouse. I’ve been burned twice by cheaters, and hands down would prefer someone to tell me than to MYOB. I’ll never understand that mindset. You want a cheater to get away with it? I don’t get it.

But anyways - A) i think you’re unraveling. You already told the husband and it sounds as if he honestly just doesn’t care, or already knew. Wouldn’t be my response, but everyone’s different.
B) I’m sorry, but it was more than “long hugs”.

If the OW was cheating, it's highly possible that her husband was too. Or that they have an agreement. Calling him will only make you look like a fool.

Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

I'm not a cheater and I suggested that OP not contact him AGAIN. She has already contacted him once. He knows what happened. He doesn't want to know more.

Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

The husband already knows and does not care. Read the thread, dummy.

Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

She already did. The husband didn’t engage.