Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 10:15     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have two. I wish that I was the type of parent that could handle more because I think down the road, lots of kids is a huge gift. But I recognize my limits. So two it is. No regrets.


This is exactly how I feel


Me too.


Same
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 10:11     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:have 1 right now. We are young but have had many health issues since having our DC.

Always thought we'd have 2 or may be even 3 but health has been really really really hard. Not sure what to do, actually.

Any suggestions? ha


What are the health issues? Hard giving you advice without more details.


DH has has 2 hip reconstructions and 1 back surgery in 6 months. We're both young, young 30's. All surgeries unexpected. I am exhausted. He hasn't physically been able to do much of anything for the entire time we've had our DC but we both thought we'd have more kids. I just don't know if I'm being a 'baby' about all of this or if it's normal for me to think may be this is it.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 09:46     Subject: Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:We have one. She's the most amazing gift. I know my DH wants to have another but I'm not sure. I plan to give it a few years and decide then.

I'm an only child. My mom says she wishes she had more but my parent's marriage fell apart and it never happened. She loves spending time with my DH, me and her granddaughter. She told me she feels like she has 3 children now. It made me think that sometimes life gives you want you want, just not in the package you imagined.


That is very sweet! Your mom must be wonderful
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 09:45     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:have 1 right now. We are young but have had many health issues since having our DC.

Always thought we'd have 2 or may be even 3 but health has been really really really hard. Not sure what to do, actually.

Any suggestions? ha


What are the health issues? Hard giving you advice without more details.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 09:43     Subject: Do you regret your family size?
We have one. She's the most amazing gift. I know my DH wants to have another but I'm not sure. I plan to give it a few years and decide then.

I'm an only child. My mom says she wishes she had more but my parent's marriage fell apart and it never happened. She loves spending time with my DH, me and her granddaughter. She told me she feels like she has 3 children now. It made me think that sometimes life gives you want you want, just not in the package you imagined.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 09:34     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
have 1 right now. We are young but have had many health issues since having our DC.

Always thought we'd have 2 or may be even 3 but health has been really really really hard. Not sure what to do, actually.

Any suggestions? ha
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 09:25     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have two. I wish that I was the type of parent that could handle more because I think down the road, lots of kids is a huge gift. But I recognize my limits. So two it is. No regrets.


This is exactly how I feel


Me too.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 09:00     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have two. I wish that I was the type of parent that could handle more because I think down the road, lots of kids is a huge gift. But I recognize my limits. So two it is. No regrets.


This is exactly how I feel


Me, too! I don’t do well with loud noise and chaos, I’m too wound up to deal with more kids and even more years of lack of sleep. But I love kids and wish I could have relaxed enough to have more. But then we go on vacation as a family of 4 and it feels just right.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 08:52     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:I have one and feel our family is complete. But, I also think that if I'd planned differently (started younger, different career, different family support, probably different spouse) I would be happy with more. Not regret, but "Imagine if?"

Same here. I had a really serious relationship that was headed towards marriage in my early 20s, that didn't work out. In that alternate reality, I'd have at least two kids. But...that's not the life I have, and in this life, we have one and feel like it was the right thing for us.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 08:03     Subject: Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:My DH and I never had a family plan. We thought two might be nice, but then also were fine not having kids. When our DS was born it felt like I space I didn’t know needed filling was filled. There’s no other little soul out there waiting to be in our family. We’re all accounted for.

I’ll let that guide me and have an only I think. That’s the only way so far I can sort out what to do next.


Thank you for sharing; this is a beautiful sentiment.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 07:49     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have two. I wish that I was the type of parent that could handle more because I think down the road, lots of kids is a huge gift. But I recognize my limits. So two it is. No regrets.


This is exactly how I feel


This is how I feel and I have one.


Me too.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 07:48     Subject: Do you regret your family size?
Anonymous wrote:I have one due to secondary infertility. I go back and forth between wishing we had a second and being so happy that we just have one. All of my friends with 2 are really frazzled and exhausted (ironically more than the ones with 3 for some reason). I find one child to be really manageable and enjoyable, but I know for the long run we would have preferred two since the difficult baby/toddler stages are so fleeting.


I have one and I probably will only have one, which makes me sad.

But you're right--the 2 kid moms are the most frazzled. For some reason, the moms who have 3 or 4 are WAY chill and "go with the flow."
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 07:45     Subject: Re:Do you regret your family size?
We hadn't really talked much about family size. We adopted our first and then I got pregnant with our second. I had just told my husband I was happy with one child when I found out I was pregnant. Two seems likes a good number for me!
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 07:12     Subject: Do you regret your family size?
Have three, sometimes wish we had four especially now that the youngest is out of his toddler years.. I wanted all my kids by age 35 though, and I just didn't start early enough for four.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2018 06:58     Subject: Do you regret your family size?
My DH and I never had a family plan. We thought two might be nice, but then also were fine not having kids. When our DS was born it felt like I space I didn’t know needed filling was filled. There’s no other little soul out there waiting to be in our family. We’re all accounted for.

I’ll let that guide me and have an only I think. That’s the only way so far I can sort out what to do next.