Anonymous wrote:Being attractive is helpful in ones career except for when it comes to other women at work. I have had so many knives in my back from women at work its made me discouraged. So many women are just aged HS mean girls. Being friendly and nice hasn't helped. Why are women like this at work? I am not after their men or jobs.

Not my experience at all. YMMV

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Anonymous wrote:Women cannot stand a hott woman. When it comes down to it women have no unshakable friendships like many men have. Women can turn their backs on each other with much more ease than men in general. I've found very many very attractive women to be extremely beautiful on the inside too and other women often shun them. Thier beauty still ends up getting them ahead but the obvious screwed up female culture is demented.

It's sadly true. Women are jealous and threatened by attractive women, even if they are not taking anything from them, they have the need to take them down.

This is true. I was like this before. Now instead of hating anothrr woman because she has a better wardrobe than me, I compliment her. Too much bitchiness and hate going on.

The best manager at my company everyone including older women and women of the same age want to work under is naturally good looking, looked great pregnant, and smart...but she works harder than anyone else and is good to others.

Op, what do you do? And are you good at your job?

Op I get it and it's frustrating. I work in academia so it's not as much of an issue for me but socially, it can be difficult. Despite the fact that I am a friendly, caring person, some women are insecure and dislike me before getting to know me.

It's like there is a requirement for attractive people to be over the top friendly and kind just so we will be liked by insecure people. Crazy.

Women can be petty and jealous. Hopefully you'll be able to find one or two who will not be threatened by your appearance.

OP this is clearly a YOU problem. I know plenty of attractive women who get along just fine at work and in their social lives.

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Anonymous wrote:No it is not. What rubbish. You must be insecure and not actually good looking. If people are not nice to you, it is because you are not a nice person yourself.

There is another (unattractive) mean girl .

Not pp but I agree. Being attractive and friendly is always a plus. It’s not the looks - the idea that pretty women who are kind / funny / friendly are disliked is totally false.

Anonymous wrote:No it is not. What rubbish. You must be insecure and not actually good looking. If people are not nice to you, it is because you are not a nice person yourself.

There is another (unattractive) mean girl .

I am a woman who enjoys being around other attractive women (people). The world seems like a nicer place when we all look good. Thanks for your contribution, op.

No it is not. What rubbish. You must be insecure and not actually good looking. If people are not nice to you, it is because you are not a nice person yourself.

It cuts both ways. Out of a team of 20 attorneys, all the senior leaders know who I am and thus hand me high profile projects. They never seem to be able to remember the names of the guys or plain women and therefore, never call on them. Then again, my colleagues all say I’m the favorite bc of my looks. A former colleague even suggested to others I must be sleeping with the GC. She didn’t consider that I might be looked upon more favorably because she turned down a big project “because it was too much work” and I took it on despite already being overloaded.

Anonymous wrote:Being attractive is helpful in ones career except for when it comes to other women at work. I have had so many knives in my back from women at work its made me discouraged. So many women are just aged HS mean girls. Being friendly and nice hasn't helped. Why are women like this at work? I am not after their men or jobs.

Not only at work.
I always chose a man boss and men team - so much friendlier and nicer crowd.
Don't worry, it will get better when yo get older. After 45 -47 you will be OK lol.

Women are very competitive and attractive women make them feel less attractive even if the pretty one is nice. People like or dislike people based on how that person makes them feel.

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Anonymous wrote:Hasn't been my experience despite being one and working with other beautiful women.

This. It’s your personality, OP. Maybe you act like you are better than unattractive women.

See how women are? Mean girl ^

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Anonymous wrote:So how HOT are you OP?

I don't think of myself being hot, but I am naturally beautiful from good genes. I don't wear a lot of makeup and spend about 2 minutes on my hair in the morning. I don't wear short skirts to work or tight clothing. Other than gaining 100 lbs or shaving my head I can't change my appearance.

Hilarious