Anonymous
03/18/2018 13:39
Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.
Yuck.
Only here, with such arrogant, empty people, would this comment draw a yuck.
No. This appalling sentimentality would draw a “yuck” anywhere in the world where right-thinking people gather.
Exactly. It's absurd, as if you are not a person by yourself. It reads like some treacly nonsense you found on a Hallmark card. It's cringe-inducing.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 13:33
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:"Soulmate" has to be one of the most immature and irresponsible terms ever bestowed upon the English language and western lexicon.
I agree. What exactly is a soul mate anyway? How do you know when you've found one? It puts too much pressure on relationships to be "perfect."
Anonymous
03/18/2018 13:24
Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.
Yuck.
Only here, with such arrogant, empty people, would this comment draw a yuck.
+1
Anonymous
03/18/2018 13:22
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
"Soulmate" has to be one of the most immature and irresponsible terms ever bestowed upon the English language and western lexicon.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 10:27
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:It makes me sad when I see a couple who clearly have what we don’t have
Well, if you can't be with the one you love, one the one you're with!
Anonymous
03/18/2018 10:15
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:You create a good marriage through hard work, mature communication and compromise. It doesn't just "happen" even though many couples make it look very easy. If you want a better marriage, you and your DH need to make a commitment to make it better and get to work.
I agree. Even with a 'soulmate', you're still living with a human being. That takes work to maintain a positive, healthy relationship over the long haul.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 10:12
Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.
While I'm happy you're happy, I feel sorry for you because you are not an independent person and require another to make you whole. I'm sorry you lack resiliency.
DH and I have been married for 23 years. Everything is more enjoyable for me when we're together. There's no one I'd rather be with. Yet, I know when he dies, after a period of grief, I will enjoy life. I'll certainly be able to breathe, laugh and enjoy life. I may even find love again - like my mother and grandmother who were twice widowed.
+100
Love is fantastic, but you never want someone else to be your "whole being", spouse or child. YOU are your whole being.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 10:07
Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.
While I'm happy you're happy, I feel sorry for you because you are not an independent person and require another to make you whole. I'm sorry you lack resiliency.
DH and I have been married for 23 years. Everything is more enjoyable for me when we're together. There's no one I'd rather be with. Yet, I know when he dies, after a period of grief, I will enjoy life. I'll certainly be able to breathe, laugh and enjoy life. I may even find love again - like my mother and grandmother who were twice widowed.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 09:01
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:I’ll be your soulmate babycakes.
For an hour, at least.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 08:59
Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.
Yuck.
Only here, with such arrogant, empty people, would this comment draw a yuck.
No. This appalling sentimentality would draw a “yuck” anywhere in the world where right-thinking people gather.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 08:56
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
That is too bad, because there is only one person for each of us to be our soulmate. It’s sad you may never actually find yours.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 08:42
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There’s no such thing as soulmates. You can be happy with anyone if you’re both in it to win it.
Yes, I assure you there is. That said, I agree you can be happy with many people.
The two of you in a couple make yourselves soulmates. There's a movie with Tim Hutton and Kelly McGillis where they are fated before birth to being happy only with each other. Yeah, the exact opposite of that.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 08:22
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
OP, i was in a 7.5 year relationship and finally broke up because I knew all along he wasn't my "soul mate." Why did you get married?
Anonymous
03/18/2018 07:47
Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
You create a good marriage through hard work, mature communication and compromise. It doesn't just "happen" even though many couples make it look very easy. If you want a better marriage, you and your DH need to make a commitment to make it better and get to work.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 07:07
Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Don't compare your insides to someone else's outsides.