2 1st borns, we are bossy as hell, and both want to lead the big decisions....but honestly we're both responsible, and 11 years and 2 kids later we are fine.
I don't know if it's birth order.

Kind of a weird thing to keep track of for a minister, but to each his own.

Um, birth order matters less than the # of children. Generally, if you are an only child, then you are much more likely to be selfish, controlling, and entitled. Adults who were raised with siblings are generally better at taking turns, sharing things/space, and are accustomed to not always getting their way...

Anonymous wrote:this is the CRAZIEST story that I ever heard. I don't even believe it. DH and I are firstborns -- both very stubborn/leader-types -- that's exactly why I love him.

Been married 15 years.

I couldn't not marry a second-born, follower, wuss.

So, in theory, you would rule out marrying someone simply because of their birth order?

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the posts everyone. I googled the best birth order for a successful marriage and it is an oldest girl with younger siblings, married to a youngest boy with older sisters. I know there are exceptions though.

wonder why that is

It says the girl is used to taking the lead and bossing siblings around. The boy is used to being bossed around.

Lmao but that’s how I interpreted it too. The boy is used to being bossed around by older sisters.

this is the CRAZIEST story that I ever heard. I don't even believe it. DH and I are firstborns -- both very stubborn/leader-types -- that's exactly why I love him.

Been married 15 years.

I couldn't not marry a second-born, follower, wuss.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both the oldest. He has a younger brother and I have two brothers. Been together for 30 yrs. He likes to be in charge and I let him think he is in charge. We get along fine

Oh wow, I don't know how to let my husband think he is in charge without him being in charge.

My DH IS in charge but it also happens that we agree on how things should be done. We are a team and partnership that work well together.

I have two younger brothers and they usually did what I wanted them to do with little argument too.

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both the oldest. He has a younger brother and I have two brothers. Been together for 30 yrs. He likes to be in charge and I let him think he is in charge. We get along fine

Oh wow, I don't know how to let my husband think he is in charge without him being in charge.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the posts everyone. I googled the best birth order for a successful marriage and it is an oldest girl with younger siblings, married to a youngest boy with older sisters. I know there are exceptions though.

wonder why that is

It says the girl is used to taking the lead and bossing siblings around. The boy is used to being bossed around.

My husband and I are both the oldest. He has a younger brother and I have two brothers. Been together for 30 yrs. He likes to be in charge and I let him think he is in charge. We get along fine

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the posts everyone. I googled the best birth order for a successful marriage and it is an oldest girl with younger siblings, married to a youngest boy with older sisters. I know there are exceptions though.

Ha! That was my parents. They were happy and had a pretty well-working marriage.