Anonymous
03/10/2018 15:02
Subject: Re:Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced
They don't "agree" it is one spouse (usually the wife) who decides she does not want sex. You are correct this rapidly leads to divorce. If not divorced, it means they are in a de-facto open marriage: the other spouse is most certainly continuing to have sex.
It is not always the wife (maybe not even "usually") and it does not always "rapidly leads to divorce".
As some others have said, sometimes when there is no sex an adult makes the hard decision to tough it out in the relationship so as not to implode the life of a child, to put their own sexual desires on a long-term back burner until the child is grown and then prioritize your own needs. Many will say that if the parents aren't happy the kids aren't happy so you might as well split up, but as in my case the marriage was fine otherwise, the partner was a good parent and mostly a good spouse, so if it's just a sex thing, kid's needs come first.
Right, I covered that, it’s the de-facto open marriage.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 14:58
Subject: Re:Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced
They don't "agree" it is one spouse (usually the wife) who decides she does not want sex. You are correct this rapidly leads to divorce. If not divorced, it means they are in a de-facto open marriage: the other spouse is most certainly continuing to have sex.
It is not always the wife (maybe not even "usually") and it does not always "rapidly leads to divorce".
As some others have said, sometimes when there is no sex an adult makes the hard decision to tough it out in the relationship so as not to implode the life of a child, to put their own sexual desires on a long-term back burner until the child is grown and then prioritize your own needs. Many will say that if the parents aren't happy the kids aren't happy so you might as well split up, but as in my case the marriage was fine otherwise, the partner was a good parent and mostly a good spouse, so if it's just a sex thing, kid's needs come first.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 14:52
Subject: Re:Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote: I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced
They don't "agree" it is one spouse (usually the wife) who decides she does not want sex. You are correct this rapidly leads to divorce. If not divorced, it means they are in a de-facto open marriage: the other spouse is most certainly continuing to have sex.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 14:32
Subject: Re:Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced
Anonymous
03/10/2018 14:16
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Married, about 18 months and still going.
Thanks for your input.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 14:12
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Married, about 18 months and still going.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 12:45
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing
I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.
if you had done that to begin with, you probably wouldn't be divorced.
That pp here. My husband was abusive. I left my marriage to save my life. The idea of trusting someone enough to get to the point of having the option of regularmorning sex is a fairytale to me now. I like to daydream about it, though.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 12:43
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing
Interesting. Lots of studies and lots of frustrated men suggest most women DON’T want sex in a LTR.
They want it for a few months. Maybe a year. But not after a decade.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 12:39
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Married and closing in on 144 months, so 3.5 doesn’t seem so bad.
What? Why?
Seriously.
None of your business.
Oh, we thought it was OK to ask. Are you aware you made the statement on a public forum on the internet?
Anonymous
03/10/2018 12:27
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
4 months. I had. Had a FWB for a while, but it ran its course after 2 years and got in the way of either of us having a meaningful relationship with someone else. We were good friends. With good benefits. It got complicated - so we mutually ended it on good terms. I miss it, but I’m okay. Not interested in random hookups. I have invested in good toys, that works fine for me right now.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 12:25
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Married and closing in on 144 months, so 3.5 doesn’t seem so bad.
What? Why?
Seriously.
None of your business.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 11:54
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing
Interesting. Lots of studies and lots of frustrated men suggest most women DON’T want sex in a LTR.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 11:40
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing
I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.
if you had done that to begin with, you probably wouldn't be divorced.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 11:28
Subject: Re:Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
After a year I joined OKC and found a fun, reliable guy. Not a match as in I can have this relationship forever, but it was great for having fun nights out and sex.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 11:03
Subject: Haven't had sex in 3.5 months
Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing
I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.