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Anonymous wrote:In my circle.... we've gotten to the point where friends assume the expectant mom wants it, so they'll offer to throw a sprinkle out of obligation. Expectant mom feels like she can't say no so it gets planned.

I already declined an offer for a sprinkle in my honor, and I'm not even halfway through. Once I find out the gender, I think a few more friends will offer. I will continue to decline graciously.

There's also the surprise sprinkle, lol. Been to a few of those.

Fml. DH's family threw me a surprise bridal shower and a surprise baby shower. I cried and ran out of the room for the baby shower. I didn't feel well and wasn't dressed that great. Just felt pregnant and fat. The bridal shower was the only shower I had and I was disappointed my mom or friends weren't invited.

Sounds like you opposition to the surprise parties wasn't because you didn't want the party, but because you didn't like either your clothes or the guest list. Not exactly the same as we're discussing.

Anonymous wrote:This person has a 2 year old girl and is pregnant with a boy this time. Is a baby sprinkle like a Lite Baby Shower? First I’ve ever heard of one.

The evite was vague and more of a save the date really. More details forthcoming.

I’m waiting for the day when someone has the guts to send an evite that’s just “we don’t want to buy our own shit, so buy us something off this list and come get rewarded with cake at blah on blah date!”

OP, don't go. Do them a favor.

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Anonymous wrote:In my circle.... we've gotten to the point where friends assume the expectant mom wants it, so they'll offer to throw a sprinkle out of obligation. Expectant mom feels like she can't say no so it gets planned.

I already declined an offer for a sprinkle in my honor, and I'm not even halfway through. Once I find out the gender, I think a few more friends will offer. I will continue to decline graciously.

There's also the surprise sprinkle, lol. Been to a few of those.

Fml. DH's family threw me a surprise bridal shower and a surprise baby shower. I cried and ran out of the room for the baby shower. I didn't feel well and wasn't dressed that great. Just felt pregnant and fat. The bridal shower was the only shower I had and I was disappointed my mom or friends weren't invited.

It takes energy to "loathe" so many things. Who has that energy? Why worry about such small things in life? Celebrate.

I don't think I had a sprinkle. I think maybe I just went to lunch with some friends. But, I had same gender kids. It seems be more of a different gender second kid thing.

Anonymous wrote:In my circle.... we've gotten to the point where friends assume the expectant mom wants it, so they'll offer to throw a sprinkle out of obligation. Expectant mom feels like she can't say no so it gets planned.

I already declined an offer for a sprinkle in my honor, and I'm not even halfway through. Once I find out the gender, I think a few more friends will offer. I will continue to decline graciously.

There's also the surprise sprinkle, lol. Been to a few of those.

In my circle.... we've gotten to the point where friends assume the expectant mom wants it, so they'll offer to throw a sprinkle out of obligation. Expectant mom feels like she can't say no so it gets planned.

I already declined an offer for a sprinkle in my honor, and I'm not even halfway through. Once I find out the gender, I think a few more friends will offer. I will continue to decline graciously.

I would have a similar reaction, but wouldn't be public about it. Don't save the date and respond no when you get the actual invite.

Anonymous wrote:I loathe "sprinkles" and "sip n sees" and gender-reveal parties. Just too much. I never attend.

I always bring a gift for a new baby and a gift for the older sibling when I first see the baby. That is enough. Way too much "I am so special" crap from our generation of mothers (and brides, for that matter).

Usually it's not the mom throwing these things (other than the gender reveal). Usually it's the grandmother or friend.

I don't understand the hate toward these. The name is a little weird, but the thought is nice. Couple is having a second baby ... maybe it's a different gender from their first, maybe they could use some help with diapers, maybe their stuff from kid #1 is worn out. Whatever the reason, a few friends want to get together and give a few things to help welcome Baby #2 into the world. Why is that a problem? It's not a gift grab unless the pregnant woman is throwing it for herself.

(FWIW I have 2 kids and did not have one of these for the second, but it never bothers me when someone else does)

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Anonymous wrote:I loathe "sprinkles" and "sip n sees" and gender-reveal parties. Just too much. I never attend.

I always bring a gift for a new baby and a gift for the older sibling when I first see the baby. That is enough. Way too much "I am so special" crap from our generation of mothers (and brides, for that matter).

Agree. The "look at me" generation. Please let this be over soon.

Of the few sprinkles I’ve been to, I’m pretty sure none were the expectant mom’s idea. My mom’s friends are all into throwing sprinkles for their daughters or DILs. I put the brakes on my mom, although that didn’t stop her from asking five more times.

Correct. All the sprinkles or second baby events I got invited to were thrown by family.

Some were more of a casual lunch type thing at a restaurant or home for close friends. People gave small gifts or they were told no gifts and just to contribute somehow to the party by bringing food or paying for their lunch and mom's lunch at a restaurant. I don't mind that kind of thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Old school here. Only showers for first babies—-unless a significany large gap between kids—like 10 years.

But didn't you have luncheons with friends to celebrate #2? Even my grandma did that in the 1950s

Yes, but it's a luncheon. It's not a gift grab and no gift is expected. It's a party thrown by a host where the guests just attend and ooh and ahh over the baby. If someone wants to bring a gift, fine. It's not a shower or sprinkle where the main event is opening and showing presents.

That's what sprinkles are supposed to be though. Lunch with close friends and small, trinket level gifts.

The luncheon is not before the baby comes but after. That's what's different. Well, that and a gift expectation (even trinket level). We call it a luncheon or a "sip and see".

Lol. Those are some pretty specific rules you have. Are you this rigid about everything?

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Anonymous wrote:I loathe "sprinkles" and "sip n sees" and gender-reveal parties. Just too much. I never attend.

I always bring a gift for a new baby and a gift for the older sibling when I first see the baby. That is enough. Way too much "I am so special" crap from our generation of mothers (and brides, for that matter).

Agree. The "look at me" generation. Please let this be over soon.

Of the few sprinkles I’ve been to, I’m pretty sure none were the expectant mom’s idea. My mom’s friends are all into throwing sprinkles for their daughters or DILs. I put the brakes on my mom, although that didn’t stop her from asking five more times.

Jesus Christ, just don't go. No need to get so angsty over it.

Anonymous wrote:"Baby Sprinkle" is an awful name. I can't get the image of a baby peeing all over someone out of my mind.

I agree. I hadn't heard of this. I feel so deliciously sheltered. I learn so much here.

Not a fan of these things, but if you don't support it, just politely decline, wish them the best, and stop thinking about it.