Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 14:00     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, stop being lazy and go inside.


I don't think I'm being lazy when I send my DD into stores on her own. I'm teaching her independence, problem-solving, and helping her gain confidence. If I'm going to send her in someplace alone, I start planning that way in advance. I go in with her at least twice, I make sure we make a connection with someone who works there, I point things out to DD. As we're walking out I casually say "I bet you could have done all that on your own." Then next time, she does. But go ahead and keep thinking I'm lazy.


You can teach your child to be independent, problem solve and gain confidence without sending her somewhere alone. You can be there and let her do it but most people don't want to be bothered dealing with an 8-10 year old who is trying to figure it out with a long line of people. Yes, you are lazy and selfish. You can justify it with what you are teaching her but you are also teaching her she is on her own and that she cannot count on you as well as many other things. Parent your kid and do your own errands.


NP. Melodramatic much?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:53     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, stop being lazy and go inside.


I don't think I'm being lazy when I send my DD into stores on her own. I'm teaching her independence, problem-solving, and helping her gain confidence. If I'm going to send her in someplace alone, I start planning that way in advance. I go in with her at least twice, I make sure we make a connection with someone who works there, I point things out to DD. As we're walking out I casually say "I bet you could have done all that on your own." Then next time, she does. But go ahead and keep thinking I'm lazy.


You can teach your child to be independent, problem solve and gain confidence without sending her somewhere alone. You can be there and let her do it but most people don't want to be bothered dealing with an 8-10 year old who is trying to figure it out with a long line of people. Yes, you are lazy and selfish. You can justify it with what you are teaching her but you are also teaching her she is on her own and that she cannot count on you as well as many other things. Parent your kid and do your own errands.


This is just so so wrong. I parent my child BY teaching her to do things on her own. If you could see how proud she is when she finally conquers a new independent activity you would know how important that is. As far as relying on me. Of course she can rely on me!! She knows I won’t push her to do something she is not comfortable with. She knows we can practice various scenarios before she try’s them out.


PP and others- STOP CRIPPLING YOUR CHILDREN!
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:38     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up. We walked home from school. Stopped at the local market, hung out at the library, rode our bikes to the town pool, etc.



Seriously. How far have we gone that this is so imaginable to some people?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:37     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up. We walked home from school. Stopped at the local market, hung out at the library, rode our bikes to the town pool, etc.


Same here. There were just as many creeps back then too. We just live in a time where all the snowflakes grew up and had kids of their own.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:33     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
When I was growing up. We walked home from school. Stopped at the local market, hung out at the library, rode our bikes to the town pool, etc.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:27     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, stop being lazy and go inside.


I don't think I'm being lazy when I send my DD into stores on her own. I'm teaching her independence, problem-solving, and helping her gain confidence. If I'm going to send her in someplace alone, I start planning that way in advance. I go in with her at least twice, I make sure we make a connection with someone who works there, I point things out to DD. As we're walking out I casually say "I bet you could have done all that on your own." Then next time, she does. But go ahead and keep thinking I'm lazy.


You can teach your child to be independent, problem solve and gain confidence without sending her somewhere alone. You can be there and let her do it but most people don't want to be bothered dealing with an 8-10 year old who is trying to figure it out with a long line of people. Yes, you are lazy and selfish. You can justify it with what you are teaching her but you are also teaching her she is on her own and that she cannot count on you as well as many other things. Parent your kid and do your own errands.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:20     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
I'm not familiar with mobile ordering, but if it meant queuing, asking for the order receiving the order, saying thank you and coming back out, it eould be excellent practice!

My kids would be at a loss because we don't go to Starbucks. If your child knows how it works, then great!

No safety concerns at all.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:11     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you send your 8 year old into Starbucks to get a mobile order - you would be parked near Starbucks and could see her go in and come out but not see them while they are inside. I let my DD go in and crap the munchies she wanted that I mobile ordered. My sis in law was horrified and said she would never let her kid at that age go alone. The Starbucks is in a strip area not on a busy street.


Of course I would. This is about the age I started sending them into places like Starbucks and 7-11 alone with instructions on how to pay for things, etc. It's a good way to teach them some independence.

Now, I send my 10 yo to the store about 10 blocks away to pick up my smokes. She's well-trained.


What? Pick up your smokes??? I sure hope that means half-smokes cuz children are not legally allowed to buy cigarettes.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:11     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:No, stop being lazy and go inside.


I don't think I'm being lazy when I send my DD into stores on her own. I'm teaching her independence, problem-solving, and helping her gain confidence. If I'm going to send her in someplace alone, I start planning that way in advance. I go in with her at least twice, I make sure we make a connection with someone who works there, I point things out to DD. As we're walking out I casually say "I bet you could have done all that on your own." Then next time, she does. But go ahead and keep thinking I'm lazy.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:07     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
No, stop being lazy and go inside.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:06     Subject: Re:Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Probably safer than sending him to school.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:01     Subject: Re:Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Of course. I can't believe this is even a question.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:59     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Yes
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:50     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Of course! But I would be concerned my 8 yo would be confused about the moblie ordering since we don't ever do it, heck I would be - who do you tell? how does it not look like stealing?

So yes, almost definitely. But my 8 yo is very at home at Starbucks. I suppose if it was very crowded I would not though.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:44     Subject: Sending an 8 year old into Starbucks alone
Anonymous wrote:There are many things I would like to let my kids do but I hesitate not because of fear of creeps but fear of all the helicopter parents out there that might try to intervene and call the cops or something.


Ugh. Me too!!!