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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

41 year old here. My upper age limit is 48 - and I have my pick of men within those age parameters. No way would I date a 61 year old. Gross.

Anonymous wrote:An in-shape woman in her 50s is more attractive than a fat woman in her 20s. And since a large percentage of people are fat, that means that even an older women is probably reasonably attractive by default.

Do you know what else isn't attractive? Judging someone by their looks rather than who they are. You take the physically attractive over the moral or decent person because of superficial reasons? I'm not talking people who are super obese. Than you are the unattractive person.

Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

Yes, but how well have you held up? Compared to someone in their 40s of course! Love the double standards you are showing. Of course you are going to say you are attractive and fit and everyone wants to jump you. But, I don't believe you so don't try.

Anonymous wrote:Assuming they are in decent shape etc? I mean: do you still find women your own age sexually attractive if they generally take care of themselves, or do you only find yourself attracted to younger women?

What is the point of this thread? Some do, some don't. We shouldn't look to men for confirmation. You only need to find one man who finds you attractive. Who cares what the majority of men say here about a personal choice?

An in-shape woman in her 50s is more attractive than a fat woman in her 20s. And since a large percentage of people are fat, that means that even an older women is probably reasonably attractive by default.

Anonymous wrote:Don't find Katie or Gillian exceptionally attractive. Well-maintained but no more.

One nice thing about the aging process is that ugly people get to have the last laugh. Whatever natural beauty existed when you were young is irrelevant when you are in your 50s. After a certain age, looks are mostly about being "well-maintained." In fact, "rugged" faces tend to age better than "pretty" faces. Someone who was plain when they were young can be the Belle of the Ball when they are older (the over 50s ball) simply because their better-looking peers have mostly hit the wall by then.

Part of the difficulty is the post-menopausal (non) sex drive.

Yes, definitely. But a smaller percentage of them than women in their 40s.

Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

My guess is fewer women remarry as their financial ability to live alone increases. So today, years later, your mother might not remarry. And in this area, women's expectations run high, they run into a prince shortage, and they stay single.

Anonymous wrote:Why do people always post pictures of celebrities when discussing aging? These pictures are taken by professionals, in ideal lighting and then retouched. I feel sorry for you women who try to compare yourselves with these photos. You'll always lose.

I've seen many celebrities in person (media job) and believe me, they don't look anything close to their public photos.

+1 so tiresome and ridiculous.

Yes.

But I work hard at looking halfway decent. Both diet and daily training. The women who look good tend to do the same.

Anonymous wrote:Do you really not know anyone who has married/remarried at an older age? My mother and grandmother remarried at 50+ (they outlived all their DHs). Most of their friends who divorced or were widowed remarried. Of course, there's always more women than men but it's far less common to have a significant age gap between spouses - unless, of course, you're looking for a wealthy man who may see a much younger woman as a status symbol.

Statistically true but not in the dating pool. Alot of women give up on guys and are not available.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people always post pictures of celebrities when discussing aging? These pictures are taken by professionals, in ideal lighting and then retouched. I feel sorry for you women who try to compare yourselves with these photos. You'll always lose.

I've seen many celebrities in person (media job) and believe me, they don't look anything close to their public photos.

I had a client who was a news anchor and it was amazing how different she looked on tv vs in real life. On tv she was easily a 9, in person she was maybe a 6.

I once saw Cheryl Tiegs in real life. She is a good looking woman but nothing like you see in photo shoots. Like the news anchor, they have lighting, makeup, and certain profiles they use. Also, some people are naturally photogenic.