Anonymous wrote:I always only dated super intelligent and intellectual guys. Some are also humble and have common sense, like my DH. Many have a pretty ugly chip on their shoulder from growing up "nerdy" and it comes out in arrogance, pretension, and crappy views about women.
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These highly undesirable traits are very common, and do not come out for a long while after you know men like this. Also, men like this can be very image prone, even/especially if you would not expect them to be, so they are very different behind closed doors, than their "outside" persona (of charming, intellectual, funny, kind, whatever) - bank on him being the opposite when you know him. The nerdy past is real, and leaves enormous scars that can't be undone.