Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 07:34     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Just leave, honestly. Some people can get over it and some can’t. Nothing wrong with you if you can’t. I understand you, I truly do. If you don’t have trust there’s no point. For me, the thought of them together was too much and would never leave my head. Plus I refuse to be disrespected in such a manner. She said she wanted to work it out, I couldn’t and wouldn’t. Once my trust with you is broken it’s very hard if not impossible to gain it back. I know this. I split. It was hard and she begged for another chance but there was no way in hell I would put up with the ultimate betrayal. No f*cking way.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 07:31     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:For clueless men, if your wife is a cheater, take a paternity test unless you rather not know if you're the father.

She knows who the father is.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 06:40     Subject: Re:Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
OP, I had a serious boyfriend who had thoughts like you do. We didn’t end up getting married and I married someone else. I never once cheated on him and his cheating concerns were unfounded.

I find that people often expect others to behave like they do. Maybe you’re dishonest and a cheater? These fears say something about you. When I was first married my husband took a photo of a number I’d dialed on my phone. It was my female coworker. At the time I thought it was so bizarre because of course I wouldn’t cheat on him. Years later I found out - he is a cheater. He thought I was behaving the same way he does. Except I’m not him. I’m not a cheater.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 06:23     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For clueless men, if your wife is a cheater, take a paternity test unless you rather not know if you're the father.


That won’t do you much good. If you start caring for the child after he’s born, courts generally rule that you need to keep caring for him since you already assumed responsibility. Paternity tests are only good before birth.


False.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 06:01     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:For clueless men, if your wife is a cheater, take a paternity test unless you rather not know if you're the father.


That won’t do you much good. If you start caring for the child after he’s born, courts generally rule that you need to keep caring for him since you already assumed responsibility. Paternity tests are only good before birth.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2018 04:02     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Women are SOOO much better at lying and cheating than men. And all her friends will cover for her. You may never find anything on her if she is cheating.

She was lying to me about working late, visiting family, etc., for a few years. I suspected but did not have any proof.
When I finally found out, I played with her, tormenting her about some different things for a while just to witness her lie when I now knew it was a lie. I wanted to hear and see what it looked like. I got her to lie aBOUT 20 TIMES


She looked me right in the face and lied to me several times. No "tell" except maybe her anger and indignation at my questions. I finally told her exactly what I knew and how I knew it and...she STILL lied. She just couldn't stop.

Good luck my friend. That's a tough way to live. BTDT.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 23:04     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:Learn your DW’s tells. All women have them. Mine was body language, lack of eye contact and streaky intimacy


Yes. Mine was a tilt of the head down preceding a lie.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 23:02     Subject: Re:Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wife of 17 years with whom I have three kids cheated on me with a work colleague. Key clues were her constantly babbling about this guy at her work in glowing terms and not having as much sex with me as she typically did. There were other hints — the late night work events that became more common and overall decreasing lack of interest in me. I approached this carefully and quietly but it was tormenting me inside so I asked her outright. Laughed me off, said I was nuts, insecure, weird, etc., and only outright denied three days later. eventually she admitted a three time affair and asked for forgiveness. I granted it but after so many months I still just can’t get this out of my head and I will be divorcing her. That will surprise her as she thinks everything is ok. But I just can’t move on in the marriage. I really do want to find another woman.


Why do you need another woman? Can’t you be by yourself? Maybe that’s a Hint about why your wife is cheating.


Meaning that after divorce I’d like to marry again. To a non cheater.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 20:03     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Learn your DW’s tells. All women have them. Mine was body language, lack of eye contact and streaky intimacy
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 19:35     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
For clueless men, if your wife is a cheater, take a paternity test unless you rather not know if you're the father.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 19:32     Subject: Re:Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:Wife of 17 years with whom I have three kids cheated on me with a work colleague. Key clues were her constantly babbling about this guy at her work in glowing terms and not having as much sex with me as she typically did. There were other hints — the late night work events that became more common and overall decreasing lack of interest in me. I approached this carefully and quietly but it was tormenting me inside so I asked her outright. Laughed me off, said I was nuts, insecure, weird, etc., and only outright denied three days later. eventually she admitted a three time affair and asked for forgiveness. I granted it but after so many months I still just can’t get this out of my head and I will be divorcing her. That will surprise her as she thinks everything is ok. But I just can’t move on in the marriage. I really do want to find another woman.


Why do you need another woman? Can’t you be by yourself? Maybe that’s a Hint about why your wife is cheating.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 19:24     Subject: Re:Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:Wife of 17 years with whom I have three kids cheated on me with a work colleague. Key clues were her constantly babbling about this guy at her work in glowing terms and not having as much sex with me as she typically did. There were other hints — the late night work events that became more common and overall decreasing lack of interest in me. I approached this carefully and quietly but it was tormenting me inside so I asked her outright. Laughed me off, said I was nuts, insecure, weird, etc., and only outright denied three days later. eventually she admitted a three time affair and asked for forgiveness. I granted it but after so many months I still just can’t get this out of my head and I will be divorcing her. That will surprise her as she thinks everything is ok. But I just can’t move on in the marriage. I really do want to find another woman.


Been there. She's still manipulating you. She knows it's not okay. She might start making you feel horrible for not being able to handle it. Don't fall for it.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 19:01     Subject: Re:Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Wife of 17 years with whom I have three kids cheated on me with a work colleague. Key clues were her constantly babbling about this guy at her work in glowing terms and not having as much sex with me as she typically did. There were other hints — the late night work events that became more common and overall decreasing lack of interest in me. I approached this carefully and quietly but it was tormenting me inside so I asked her outright. Laughed me off, said I was nuts, insecure, weird, etc., and only outright denied three days later. eventually she admitted a three time affair and asked for forgiveness. I granted it but after so many months I still just can’t get this out of my head and I will be divorcing her. That will surprise her as she thinks everything is ok. But I just can’t move on in the marriage. I really do want to find another woman.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 17:40     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Get a black light in your bedroom... tell her its so that you can "be retro"... you know 70s (maybe get a lava lamp too). Maybe get one of those black light posters so it looks cool and justifyable.

If you've watched enough CSI you already know... semen shows up bright with the blacklight. Look it up, its true.


But then she'll see it when she's doing the deed. Instead, get a hand-held one and hide it.


Ahh.... yes, if she is doing the deed at home.

I was thinking that she would come home "late and tired" ... maybe as she undressed in the bedroom, there would be evidence.


With the handheld one... you can "audit" the laundry basket every few days.


FYI, urine shows up under blacklight too, so don't get too excited and go screaming AH-HAH! at her, when it may just be a little pee leakage, not unheard of for women.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 16:03     Subject: Tips to catch cheating wives and how to recover afterwards.
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Anonymous wrote:What an exhausting way to live. Just MOVE on. You are not doing your little kids any favors. Find a partner you like and trust and work on a respectful coparenting relationship


It's not exhausting. Everyone ought to keep their eyes open. You may know someone for fifteen years and not know what they are capable of. It's best not to be naive.


You check up on your accountant, home repair guy etc. Of course you should know what your partner is doing.

EVERYONE should spot check their partner.


This is a really abusive mindset.


Says a cheater, lol.


Says an idiot. Lol!


If I felt this way I would leave.