Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 10:30     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What weight is listed on your profile? How much do you really weigh?


OP here. My weight isn't listed. I'm listed as 'athletic and toned' under body type because it's true. I'm 5' 6" and 135 pounds. I run three times a week and do a bunch of stretching each day.


So you're both the same height?

Was he nice? Is it just the height that's the problem? You'll find out soon enough that unless they're well over 6', all of them are lying about their height. Or are just deluded. My ex SWEARS he's 5'10". He's not, we're the same height, and I'm just slightly under 5'8". Just deluded. (Him, not me. )
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 10:27     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Pretty much every man I ever met on a dating website lied about their height unless they were over 6'2". Those that were that tall gave their real height. Just shave at least 2" off everyone's profile. Apparently almost every woman over 40 lies about height/weight, judging by the comments I got from the men I did meet.

Them: You look EXACTLY like your profile picture!
Me: (thinking...because it's a photograph, not an artistic rendering?)

Add an inch to your height if you want to cut back on the men who are too short for you. The only time that ever backfired a bit was when I met a guy who was 6'8", and he told me I was the shortest woman he'd ever gone out with. I did apologize to him, even though I was wearing high heels--but that's still a LOT of difference. (His preference was 5'10" and up)
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 10:26     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Men are typically so impressed with themselves I’ll bet he believed everything he said.
Many men seem to think that they are an Elon Musk , Don Draper, ageless NFL Quarterback all rolled into one ‘gift to the world’.
I guess because mommy told them so?


Good God. You encounter arrogant men _by definition_ when you're dating. The less arrogant ones put themselves out there less often, particularly when the reception is as hostile as it is.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 10:20     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:Just don't go out with him again. Say you don't feel a spark and leave it at that.

+1
I'm 5'10" so if he showed up and was 5'6" that would be completely unacceptable to me. I don't know your height but the lie is bad enough. If he has to try to use subterfuge to get dates you don't need him!
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 10:19     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:What weight is listed on your profile? How much do you really weigh?


OP here. My weight isn't listed. I'm listed as 'athletic and toned' under body type because it's true. I'm 5' 6" and 135 pounds. I run three times a week and do a bunch of stretching each day.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 10:11     Subject: Match Date Lied
What weight is listed on your profile? How much do you really weigh?
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:58     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least he wasn't wearing heels.


I went out with a guy who wore lifts in his shoes.

I wouldn’t have ever cared about his height but he was insecure and overcompensated, liking talking about much money he made and h how beautiful his ex-gfs were. That was a turn-off.


+1

Height doesn't matter if you are a nice normal guy without issues.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:56     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:It's weird he lied about something so obvious. Was he extremely good looking or very rich? How was he expecting that to be overlooked/outweighed?


He's still a liar. Nothing good looking or rich about being a liar. Even if he was (either of those things) - the lying will not stop - trust me.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:51     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:Just don't go out with him again. Say you don't feel a spark and leave it at that.


+1

Poor guy!
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:39     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was one date and you don’t owe him anything. Do you think guys are sitting around trying to convince themselves not to be so shallow if they meet a girl that lied about her age by a lot or weight by a lot? I think the choice would be between ghosting, a nice “there wasn’t chemistry”, or a more blunt, not my type/wasted my time lying. Yes, there is a range of fudge factor like 20 pounds, 1 or 2 inches of height, a few years for age - it was beyond that.


The thing is though, society says it's fair game to ask a guy his height but asking a woman about her weight is taboo or even down right rude. Double standards galore.



And the guys pays for it.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:32     Subject: Match Date Lied
I get the "lying" thing but if he's still taller than you and you liked him otherwise, I'd give him a shot. So many short women are looking for tall guys, and the tall women are looking for tall guys, and the medium women are looking for tall guys. It really puts the short guys in a bind - they probably assume all the women will filter them out and they won't even have a chance.
MikeL
Post 02/05/2018 09:28     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.


If this is true, best worst online dating story ever.

+1. That is a doozy!
"a large elderly man with a pot of tea"
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:16     Subject: Re:Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:At least he wasn't wearing heels.


I went out with a guy who wore lifts in his shoes.

I wouldn’t have ever cared about his height but he was insecure and overcompensated, liking talking about much money he made and h how beautiful his ex-gfs were. That was a turn-off.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:13     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.


Men are typically so impressed with themselves I’ll bet he believed everything he said.
Many men seem to think that they are an Elon Musk , Don Draper, ageless NFL Quarterback all rolled into one ‘gift to the world’.
I guess because mommy told them so?


You miss every shot you don't take.


This.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2018 09:12     Subject: Match Date Lied
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.


If this is true, best worst online dating story ever.


This is a hoot! The added touch of the pot of tea made me snort my coffee, lol. Laugh of the day.