Anonymous wrote:I know what flights he's on and hotel he's staying at. I don't know his daily schedule but we'll talk at least once a day and text more often. Same for him when I travel -- we need to know whether the other person landed safely and where to find them, but I don't have the slightest interest in the topic of a morning meeting or names of lunch companions.

I wouldn't think that a spouse failing to volunteer this information (flights/hotels) would be too strange -- a lot of us compartmentalize work and home life and might not think to forward on details from an admin vis a vis flight numbers. I would think that a spouse refusing to provide these details when asked was beyond bizarre.

This exactly. When I travel, I tell my wife where I'm going, generally when I'm leaving (from home in the morning, at some point during the work day, or heading to the airport at night after work), how long I'll be, and when I'll be home. I'd never think to tell her my flight numbers, hotel address, etc., but if she asks, I'd of course tell her. She never does, unless I'm going to a city the she knows or we've been. We generally talk twice a day, and text throughout the day, just as we would if I were home.

I always send this info to both DH and my mom (who helps with the kids).

— a DW who travels

Both my DH and I travel for work, but my trips are usually overseas while his are domestic. Because I'm overseas I usually send him my itinerary so he will know how/where to contact me if I don't have access to wi-fi or cell service. He typically never shared his itinerary info with and I never asked, but we made a new family rule last year because he was in Vegas during the shooting at Mandalay and I couldn't get in touch with him. Luckily I knew what hotel he was staying at but it took me ages to get through to him and I was freaking out. Now our rule is that whenever one of us travels we share where we are staying and we always keep our phones charged and ringers on. The sheer terror I felt for the half hour I couldn't get in touch with him was hell and made me realize we need to be more diligent about knowing where we are during travel.

My DH will tell me where he's going but he never gives me his itinerary. He always calls me in the evening and we might text once or twice a day. On the day he is returning he will let me know what time I should expect him and he will almost always update me on the status of his flight.

Yes n fact he repeats it to me over and over again before duringa d after his trip. Meeting with x then driving to y then dinner with z.

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Anonymous wrote:DH travels almost exclusively internationally and most of the time I have no way to contact him. He's a fed and doesn't get an international cell. When I was 9 months pregnant I got the contact numbers for about 5 people who would try to get a hold of him, but that was it.

Why would you need the itinerary? I've been hospitalized 2x when DH was gone and I relied once on a friend and once on my parents to watch my kids/stay with me. DH didn't know until he returned.

You do know that if you are in wifi you can use text, email and facetime audio/video from your phone without needing international cell service right? I don't always turn on international roaming because I can often get by with just wifi access. While I don't feel the need to tell my DH everything I am doing when he or I are traveling, I would let him know if I was hospitalized.

Most carriers also have a pay per use plan for international roaming. It’s $10/day for AT&T. I turn it in for my travels days so I can access things to help me get from the hotel to the airport, but use the hotel WiFi for the days in between.

To answer OPs question, I usually screenshot my flight info and text it to DH while I’m at the airport. I don’t usually tell him which hotel I’m at unless there’s something different about it (I usually stay at Hilton properties in the US so nothing exciting there). I did leave the country last week and he didn’t even realize, so I don’t think he’s too worried. He just needs to know I’ll be gone on Monday and home on Wednesday and to feed the dog.

Yup. I don't think I've ever used it, but it's nice to have.

Yep- I get it all

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Anonymous wrote:DH travels almost exclusively internationally and most of the time I have no way to contact him. He's a fed and doesn't get an international cell. When I was 9 months pregnant I got the contact numbers for about 5 people who would try to get a hold of him, but that was it.

Why would you need the itinerary? I've been hospitalized 2x when DH was gone and I relied once on a friend and once on my parents to watch my kids/stay with me. DH didn't know until he returned.

You do know that if you are in wifi you can use text, email and facetime audio/video from your phone without needing international cell service right? I don't always turn on international roaming because I can often get by with just wifi access. While I don't feel the need to tell my DH everything I am doing when he or I are traveling, I would let him know if I was hospitalized.

He's often in countries with no wifi. Or Asia where the time difference is so great that he can't get me when I'm not working and he's in his hotel. He obviously made sure to text daily when I was super pregnant in case of emergency.

Which countries have no wifi in hotels or offices? Or is he in the military and in war zones with limited infrastructure? I actually find the time difference in Asia easier than Europe for communicating because my morning is DHs evening and vice versa, while in Europe my morning is DHs middle of the night, and my evening is DHs work day.

Yes, he always gives me his flight and hotel info and regularly keeps in touch.

I always just forward my itinerary to my wife.

I'm the one who travels more often and I just realized I never provide details to my DH. But it got me thinking, not for trust purposes but for safety/emergency reasons, I might start sharing more. What if there was a plane crash on a similar flight but he couldn't reach me because my phone was still off? Incident at the hotel/city/etc. It would be potentially easier to verify my safety if he had my actual itinerary.

This hits close to home for me because DH was in Las Vegas, staying at the Mandalay Bay, when the October shooting happened. He texted me that he was safe right away (before I'd even heard of the shooting), but if he'd been asleep/didn't hear/didn't think of it, I would have been FRANTIC the next morning. Obviously this is bit of a different scenario in that knowing his location wouldn't have helped, but it has got me thinking.

He always puts it in our joint calendar, including hotel and fight info.

Nope, and I don't provide him with mine when I travel either. We'll tell each other when we're leaving and coming back, and where we're traveling to. Usually I'll end up texting him at some point when he's gone to ask him to remind me when he's coming home again. We don't have kids which factors into a lot of not keeping close tabs on when he's coming and going (i.e., I don't have to arrange childcare pickups differently when he's gone), but I can't see a reason for ever wanting to know what hotel he's in since I'd only ever contact him on his cell phone. I could see maybe wanting to know flight numbers for the return flight so I could track if that flight was delayed, but can't see needing know the information for his flight out, other than knowing what time he's leaving the house.

What if something happens to them ... you have no idea what flight they are on or where they are staying. That seems dangerous.