Give her a chance, but not commitment. Keep an eve open for other ladies. Then see what happens if you are concerned about her.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares if she slept with your acquaintance before she met you. You all need to be adults and if you like her, I would not let this detail ruin it.

Yes, I'm wondering why it bothers OP. You might want to take a look at that, OP. Even though I don't think it's worth worrying about, maybe it's a deal-breaker for you.

Uh, I think OP is more worried about being seen as dating a friend's ex than the fact that his love interest has a sexual history.

IMO, you should continue to date her and see where it goes. Whatever was between your friend and the woman you're dating was over before you even met AND you didn't meet through him or other friends. NBD.

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I had overlapping friend groups from high school throughout college and we all had some sort of intimacy with each other. Sometimes there was lots of drama but in the end we stayed really good life long friends. You don’t ever forget having sex with someone but over time it means less and less; I see these women at least 10 times a year.

I had sex with 3 out of 6 bridesmaids and she had sex with two of my groomsmen. (Not at the wedding but in the 12 years before) We’ve been married 21 years.

I suggest you get over your insecurities because that’s all this is really about.

No, insecurities has nothing to do with it. Apparently sex is just a handshake to both of you.
TO OP- deep down it's probably her morality that is bothering you- I'm sure you are wondering if this situation will happen again, maybe even several times, MANY other women out there, Move along

Has she washed her pussy since banging your friend? If so, you're probably OK to bang her.

PP is correct, with good character and the right match, this will be a wash in the long run. Best of luck

If her character is good and she is a good match for your future. Things will likely turn out fine in the long run. Begin with the end in mind as one book put it.

I did not see myself as mature and secure. But I though I knew a good catch and realized that no one is perfect. My buddy focused on the negatives and we heard about his hookups. He did marry twice but neither lasted long.

My DW has gotten better with age IMO. I feel lucky. However, if she was not hooking up with him - we could have gone out sooner.

Anonymous wrote:Tough position. I was there after college. Really liked this girl and took her to a party. She and a friend instantly recognized each other. Turns out she hooked up a dozen times. Worst part was his big mouth. I got over it. Eventually I married her and things are great.

+1

Wow, you sound like a really mature and secure guy - a great catch. Glad you found somebody nice.

Tough position. I was there after college. Really liked this girl and took her to a party. She and a friend instantly recognized each other. Turns out she hooked up a dozen times. Worst part was his big mouth. I got over it. Eventually I married her and things are great.

My wife and I had overlapping friend groups from high school throughout college and we all had some sort of intimacy with each other. Sometimes there was lots of drama but in the end we stayed really good life long friends. You don’t ever forget having sex with someone but over time it means less and less; I see these women at least 10 times a year.

I had sex with 3 out of 6 bridesmaids and she had sex with two of my groomsmen. (Not at the wedding but in the 12 years before) We’ve been married 21 years.

I suggest you get over your insecurities because that’s all this is really about.

Nah.