Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:28     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:If he worked in factory farming/agribusiness legal torture would be a deal breaker.


Oh, you mean an abortion clinic? Yes, I agree with you.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:27     Subject: Re:New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.


+1000


This is such a typical DCUM bubble thread. And why Trump won.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:26     Subject: Re:New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?


I know you're being facetious, but I'll play along for a moment. Sure, feel free to treat it as a deal-breaker for friendship if it so violates your values. Be polite and kind, but you don't have to be friends.


Actually, I'm not.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:26     Subject: Re:New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.


Exactly.



OP here, sorry to burst your bubble but my significant other doesn't work at a law firm.


Way to miss the point, op
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:25     Subject: Re:New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.


+1000
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:25     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:So I guess I see why our election results looked like they did, and why those of us in bubbles like the DMV missed it...


Well said
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:21     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NRA would cause me think we may not be very compatible


I would be polite and pleasant to a neighbor who worked for the NRA, but I could never befriend such a person. The NRA is responsible for the deaths of thousands of children in the US because of their relentless lobbying in opposition to gun control legislation, which would prevent gun ownership by people who shoot and kill children.

Every single employee of the NRA has blood on his or her hands. The choice to work there is just that, a choice. Gun ownership is not my choice, but if people want to hunt with guns, well, that's OK with me as long as the guns are used responsibly. Any other gun ownership is immoral and unconscionable. The NRA is a horrible, horrible organization, made worse by the revelation of its recent infiltration by Russians.

If your neighbor works for a tobacco company or an oil company, well, I'd keep my distance too, but I'm less horrified by either of those organizations, even though they kill people and ruin our environment with their products.


This is what makes America great. I'm not a huge fan of the NRA but I do believe the organization has done and still does some good, and I could be friends with someone who works there. However, I would not ever be able to be friends with anyone who works at or for Planned Parenthood, or who works at or for an office that performs abortions. It is a complete deal-breaker for me.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:14     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
So I guess I see why our election results looked like they did, and why those of us in bubbles like the DMV missed it...
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:11     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:If he worked in factory farming/agribusiness legal torture would be a deal breaker.


Yeah, if someone worked in a business that fed most of the world's population, they should definitely be shunned. Much better to let people starve.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:05     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:NRA would cause me think we may not be very compatible


I would be polite and pleasant to a neighbor who worked for the NRA, but I could never befriend such a person. The NRA is responsible for the deaths of thousands of children in the US because of their relentless lobbying in opposition to gun control legislation, which would prevent gun ownership by people who shoot and kill children.

Every single employee of the NRA has blood on his or her hands. The choice to work there is just that, a choice. Gun ownership is not my choice, but if people want to hunt with guns, well, that's OK with me as long as the guns are used responsibly. Any other gun ownership is immoral and unconscionable. The NRA is a horrible, horrible organization, made worse by the revelation of its recent infiltration by Russians.

If your neighbor works for a tobacco company or an oil company, well, I'd keep my distance too, but I'm less horrified by either of those organizations, even though they kill people and ruin our environment with their products.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:01     Subject: Re:New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?


I know you're being facetious, but I'll play along for a moment. Sure, feel free to treat it as a deal-breaker for friendship if it so violates your values. Be polite and kind, but you don't have to be friends.


No one is saying OP has to be friends with this person. People are simply saying that is a stupid reason not to be friends.


If OP can't figure this out on her own, she must be extremely immature. People have jobs so that they can feed their families, and pay their mortgages, and support their elderly parents, and pay for college, and put money away for their own retirement. How dare anyone judge a person's character based on where they "work". It's their JOB, not their hobby or passion. Get a life OP.


In this town, this really isn’t true of a lot of people. I have a friend who works for Planned Parenthood because she strongly believes in the mission. I work for an environmental org, and earn less than I would elsewhere, because it’s important to me. I also have a friendly acquaintance who is chief of staff for a GOP lawmaker. We all have these jobs because we believe in what we’re doing. If my neighbor believes that environmentalists are anti-capitalists who use fake science to kill coal jobs, well, I’m ok with him not wanting to be my friend.

It’sdifferent from being, say, an insurance salesman or a CPA or a mail carrier.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:01     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
If he worked in factory farming/agribusiness legal torture would be a deal breaker.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:00     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Eh, I worked for some Fox news talking heads at one point in my media career. And dh has considered jobs with industries like tobacco. Not ideal, but the money and resume building were tempting. We kept a sense of humor about it and eventually moved on to sectors we were more passionate about.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 19:54     Subject: New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Unless they founded the company or are puppet masters behind the scenes, no. I worked for a company that was basically the enemy of the state where I used to live. We had a lot of armed security due to the number of threats we received on a daily basis. I was an easily replaceable mid level manager in customer service. I can't imagine people cutting me off because of that.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 19:23     Subject: Re:New Friend - Morally Questionable Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?


I know you're being facetious, but I'll play along for a moment. Sure, feel free to treat it as a deal-breaker for friendship if it so violates your values. Be polite and kind, but you don't have to be friends.


No one is saying OP has to be friends with this person. People are simply saying that is a stupid reason not to be friends.


If OP can't figure this out on her own, she must be extremely immature. People have jobs so that they can feed their families, and pay their mortgages, and support their elderly parents, and pay for college, and put money away for their own retirement. How dare anyone judge a person's character based on where they "work". It's their JOB, not their hobby or passion. Get a life OP.