Anonymous
Post 03/19/2023 20:50     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:So I don’t know how to say this. But I’m really embarrassed by my association with my in laws. They’re rowdy drunks; MIL has been thrown out of restaurants for being too drunk; husbands uncle was a porn photographer; MIL and FIL do not have college degrees; they’re so narrow minded and uneducated; they read conspiracy theories and think climate change is fake and education is for elitist snobs.

How the f*ck did I end up there?



Don't people care about their gene pools anymore?
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2018 16:36     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t have kids OP! They will be your kids grandparents. You didn’t think this through very well did you?


No I didn;t.

My kids and I will have nothing to learn from them. I am so disappointed in myself.


I am disappointed in you if think you can't learn anything from these people. They produced your husband. They must have something to offer. It says more about you than it does about them.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2018 17:12     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Thanksgiving dinner must be interesting with your in laws.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2018 12:50     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
This whole climate change thing is too annoying. Yes, climate on Earth has been changing since time immemorial. It's real. Trust me, I have two useless degrees.

OP, people like should not exist. You suck. I'm sure your in-laws suck even harder, but you're POS. Own it.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2018 13:38     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:So I don’t know how to say this. But I’m really embarrassed by my association with my in laws. They’re rowdy drunks; MIL has been thrown out of restaurants for being too drunk; husbands uncle was a porn photographer; MIL and FIL do not have college degrees; they’re so narrow minded and uneducated; they read conspiracy theories and think climate change is fake and education is for elitist snobs.

How the f*ck did I end up there?



Sounds like you may be a bit narrow-minded as well.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2018 10:41     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You love your spouse? How did s/he not wind up the same as their parents?


Yeah I love my spouse. I’m realizing he’s not that different from them. He gets too drunk too and gets wobbly; thinks climate change is real and liberal arts degrees are useless.



Climate change is real and liberal arts degrees are useless. He may be trashy but he smarter than you.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 22:59     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
My in laws are embarrassed by my family and I cry almost every night about it. I wish we were different.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 08:52     Subject: Re:Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Physically unappealing women have a.narrow range of romantic choices. Trailer trash in laws might be.better than cats.


I’m not that ugly though. I just picked poorly.


You’re ugly on the inside, and that’s ugly enough.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 08:38     Subject: Re:Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:Physically unappealing women have a.narrow range of romantic choices. Trailer trash in laws might be.better than cats.


I’m not that ugly though. I just picked poorly.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2018 23:22     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
They don’t have a college degree? Like 70% of Americans? Gasp!!! You don’t say!
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2018 23:09     Subject: Re:Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Physically unappealing women have a.narrow range of romantic choices. Trailer trash in laws might be.better than cats.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2018 23:01     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:It was a rude awakening for me when I met the extended relatives on my MIL’s side. FIL’s side also basically blue collar with all the stereotypes fitting right in. I came from highly educated parents with professional careers, and both sets of grandparents were also highly educated, wealthy, cultured, etc. I’m not saying blue collar workers can’t be cultured or that advanced degrees from stellar institutions automatically trumps someone without a college degree. But I had a culture shock once I joined my husband’s family. I underestimated how much time I would end up having to interact with them (weekly) and how miserable those visits would be. We meet up for every single holiday plus Fathers Day Mothers Day extended families’ birthdays, 12 birthdays. My first year of marriage, I thought, how did I end up here?


You must be physically not.much to look at and.had to settle, that's how you ended up here.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2018 20:33     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
I've broken up with girls because their families were white trash.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2018 13:34     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Anonymous wrote:Don’t have kids OP! They will be your kids grandparents. You didn’t think this through very well did you?


No I didn;t.

My kids and I will have nothing to learn from them. I am so disappointed in myself.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 21:49     Subject: Embarrassed by trashy in laws
Look, you fell love with your spouse and wanted to marry him. Nothing has changed, and your in-laws were like this when you met them. It's fine not to like them and to distance yourself, but it is what it is. It's not going to change.

Maybe try being a bit more open-minded toward them. People without college degrees can be very smart and accomplished. Perhaps they feel you're judging them. My mom is one of the smartest people I know and doesn't have a college degree. It hasn't stopped her from teaching herself to be an IT professional all on her own and being an elected official. You need to look at your own biases here a bit, too.