Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 20:23     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:I call troll. Somebody posts this exact thing every couple months- friend married rich, has the perfect life, OP doesn't want to work but DH doesn't make enough.

If this is real- I have your friend's life and it's not that great. Boring as hell and your self-esteem takes a huge hit since you contribute absolutely nothing. So you stress yourself out going overboard in making sure you're the perfect mother, as hot as possible, and then freaking out when you hit your 30s and suddenly aren't conventionally attractive anymore and your kids don't need you as much.

I finally took a job that pays a very small fraction of what my DH makes and while it has improved my own happiness by leaps and bounds, DH is resentful because I get to have a "fun" job while he has a job he hates. Sucks, but it's better than being depressed. Human beings are meant to work and contribute to society, not sit at home living a life of luxury. That just leads to depression.

If you want money live within your means and look into investments. You don't need a high salary to make money. We have lots of friends who make much more from investing than from their jobs.



Instead of lecturing maybe you should work on getting a job that pays more so dh can leave the jobs he hates.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 20:18     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:She has everything. She met and dated this super ambitious guy in grad school. They’re now married and have one adorable kid. Her husband is mega successful and has built a multimillion dollar business. She quit working upon marriage. And now lives the dream life. Living in a mansion, working out, has live in help, picking out the best preschool for her kid, owns multiple properties. All because of whom she married. She’s not even 30 yet.

And here’s me, struggling in a low paid job, living in a one bedroom in the suburbs, long commute, student loans, husband and I have useless degrees so none of us have good jobs. HHI $150 combined. I don’t want to work but I have to.


Stop whining and go make more money. Why are you jealous a man is providing her things? Funny how most women seem to think they should have a guy like the one in this made up story.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 20:05     Subject: Jealous of friend
OP, when I was a bit younger I admittedly felt envy at women who married wealthy men. My DH is cute and smart but will never be a big earner and there were times in my 30's that I shallowly wished I had married a guy with money so I could stay home with the kids and wouldn't have to work. Now that I'm middle aged I'm really glad that I have a career and married for love. Not that it always happens obviously, but you often see and hear stories of wealthy guys trading in their same age wives for younger women. I think about these ladies who haven't worked in 10-20 years, are used to a high end lifestyle and are totally dependent on their husband's income and would not want to be in their shoes-I'd feel very vulnerable.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 17:16     Subject: Re:Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you define success by money and comforts, you will always be jealous of someone. There is so much more to life and things money can't buy (health, love, faith, hope, true friendship, respect).


I know - I mean, you could have been Melania and that would have been great, right?


Melania - you know, attached to the orange one...



Go back to the Political forum and stop denigrating our president and First Lady. Very immature.

OP I will guarantee they don't have a ideal life. However it's what you make of it. If you can't make it on $150k you're probably bad at money management. Stop whining and make changes to pay down loans and save money. We've had friends that pretended to have a lot, but in reality they were loaned out. You would be surprised at how many people live way above their heads.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 16:56     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:Stop wasting your time posting about this and seek therapy.

Also seek therapy if you're someone who wants to feel better about someone else's "perfect" life by imagining there are awful things lurking beneath the surface and skeletons in the closet. Some people truly have wonderful lives, why do we need to knock them down to feel better about it?


Very much a DCUM/online thing -- anytime it's mentioned that someone is wealthy with a great house, a successful business, lots of investments, and a cute family -- cue the barrage of -- well they can't POSSIBLY be happy. Maybe they're on the brink of divorce. Maybe they're loaded with debt. Maybe the business is teetering on the edge of failure. I don't get it. Sometimes/often times you CAN have a great family life and work life without anything being horribly wrong. IDK why people can't accept that AND focus on improving whatever part of their life they don't like.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 15:16     Subject: Jealous of friend
Stop wasting your time posting about this and seek therapy.

Also seek therapy if you're someone who wants to feel better about someone else's "perfect" life by imagining there are awful things lurking beneath the surface and skeletons in the closet. Some people truly have wonderful lives, why do we need to knock them down to feel better about it?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 15:12     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:IDK if this is the same person posting or if this theme comes up often but OP -- there is literally nothing you can do about this. You can't make it so that her DH doesn't have a multimillion dollar business or so that they sell their mansion, move to a 2 bedroom townhome and sell all their investment properties.

So next best thing -- if and you Dh aren't happy on 150k, why not find ways to improve your situation? Why not look for better jobs? Why not consider taking a risk like your friend's DH did and starting a business? Sure he's a multimillionaire now but I imagine a decent amount of work and a whole lot of risk taking when into getting him there -- so instead of being jealous, why don't you do the same??


+1

Nailed it. You can't take away from them OP, no matter how hard you try. Why not spend your energy on YOU, and improving YOUR life, OP? Don't you know how to be happy? If not, that is not their problem, it is your problem. Grow up and stop posting this sh*t.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 15:05     Subject: Jealous of friend
IDK if this is the same person posting or if this theme comes up often but OP -- there is literally nothing you can do about this. You can't make it so that her DH doesn't have a multimillion dollar business or so that they sell their mansion, move to a 2 bedroom townhome and sell all their investment properties.

So next best thing -- if and you Dh aren't happy on 150k, why not find ways to improve your situation? Why not look for better jobs? Why not consider taking a risk like your friend's DH did and starting a business? Sure he's a multimillionaire now but I imagine a decent amount of work and a whole lot of risk taking when into getting him there -- so instead of being jealous, why don't you do the same??
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 14:44     Subject: Re:Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:
I don’t want to work but I have to.


My God! This poor woman. No one else feels like that.



Seriously? Plenty of WOHMs like to work.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 14:43     Subject: Re:Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you define success by money and comforts, you will always be jealous of someone. There is so much more to life and things money can't buy (health, love, faith, hope, true friendship, respect).


I know - I mean, you could have been Melania and that would have been great, right?


Melania - you know, attached to the orange one...
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 14:42     Subject: Re:Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:If you define success by money and comforts, you will always be jealous of someone. There is so much more to life and things money can't buy (health, love, faith, hope, true friendship, respect).


I know - I mean, you could have been Melanie and that would have been great, right?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 13:42     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:You lost me at HHI of 150k in your 20s.

No sympathy here, just stop.


+1000
Comparison is the thief of joy
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 13:25     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:She has everything. She met and dated this super ambitious guy in grad school. They’re now married and have one adorable kid. Her husband is mega successful and has built a multimillion dollar business. She quit working upon marriage. And now lives the dream life. Living in a mansion, working out, has live in help, picking out the best preschool for her kid, owns multiple properties. All because of whom she married. She’s not even 30 yet.

And here’s me, struggling in a low paid job, living in a one bedroom in the suburbs, long commute, student loans, husband and I have useless degrees so none of us have good jobs. HHI $150 combined. I don’t want to work but I have to.


I'll call you a waaambulance! Do you really hear yourself? I feel bad for your poor, suffering husband.

BTW, if all you can afford on $150k is a one bedroom apartment, you've made more dumb choices in life than taking out student loans for useless degrees.

Sorry, I'm just not feeling your pain.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 12:30     Subject: Jealous of friend
Anonymous wrote:You post about this all the time, OP. Doesn’t matter what we say, you’re determined to fixate on this to the detriment of your own well-bring. So f-ing annoying!


Well-being ^
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2018 12:29     Subject: Jealous of friend
You post about this all the time, OP. Doesn’t matter what we say, you’re determined to fixate on this to the detriment of your own well-bring. So f-ing annoying!