Are all these offended 50 somethings confusing flirting with an attempted/actual kiss?

The kissing part is worrisome. But I am a little baffled by the emotional affair language to describe every work friendship. I go to lunch/drinks all the time alone with men from work. Sometimes they are friends and sometimes they are the C-level execs (who I also consider friends but are way senior to me). We talk about work, family, laugh and blow off steam. Surely I am not having multiple EAs. I’m glad our spouses are not nutcases. But back to OP-the kissing thing is not ok.

Anonymous wrote:Why would a late thirties guy hit on a 50 yo woman???? Unless she was really youthful looking.

Mommy issues.

Anonymous wrote:Why would a late thirties guy hit on a 50 yo woman???? Unless she was really youthful looking.

Oh, come on...it happens all the time. I am 51, 5'11, size 8 and I try to keep up my appearance. Younger guys hit on me all the time and I'm sure they hit on other 50+ year olds. 50 is not 80.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Never heard the term tickle truth before. Context clues helped me figure it out - but man, is this a common phrase?

It's common on infidelity forums.

Why would a late thirties guy hit on a 50 yo woman???? Unless she was really youthful looking.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to where they were and ask the servers or bartenders what they saw? As a last resort call the woman. A kiss is terrible but definitely not grounds for divorce.

Yeah, geez, forget about it. She’s 50 and he was drunk - forget about it. He must be embarrassed. Ask him how he’s going to show his face at work again though.

"She's 50, funny and outgoing". These posters make it sound like this woman is 90. [b]I am 52 and definitely have had younger men hit on me. Geez.[b]

That’s embarrassing! And I’m 50 too. Time for a grip on reality.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to where they were and ask the servers or bartenders what they saw? As a last resort call the woman. A kiss is terrible but definitely not grounds for divorce.

Yeah, geez, forget about it. She’s 50 and he was drunk - forget about it. He must be embarrassed. Ask him how he’s going to show his face at work again though.

"She's 50, funny and outgoing". These posters make it sound like this woman is 90. I am 52 and definitely have had younger men hit on me. Geez.

Wasn't this a Friday Night Lights episode?

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Anonymous wrote:Go to where they were and ask the servers or bartenders what they saw? As a last resort call the woman. A kiss is terrible but definitely not grounds for divorce.

Yeah, geez, forget about it. She’s 50 and he was drunk - forget about it. He must be embarrassed. Ask him how he’s going to show his face at work again though.

I lean toward this. I mean you know your DH best and know if he's one of those guys that does dumb shit when he's drunk. I cant agree with the "forget about it" part, however. I think you need to find time to have a calm, sober discussion. He needs to answer some tough questions, like, why would he ever have the urge to kiss another woman. I wouldn't be jealous of this woman, unless you know another reason to feel that but I'd be concerned about the behavior. What if next time its the new 30 yr old hot sales associate? And what if she's willing and interested?

Mistakes happen and you sound like you are handling it pretty well but tough conversations can solve underlying issues. Ignoring it will likely lead to another incident.

Anonymous wrote:Red flags everywhere for this. Could be emotional. Could be two drunk sales people acting inappropriately. My ex was in sales, and sadly, their culture is completely different. Way too casual, much more social interaction and bonding "out of the office" since no one truly reports into cube land. Texting on cells with each other, dinners with clients, etc.

Sorry OP. I would forgive him, but I would tell him to shape it up before shit hits the fan. If there are specific things he can do to redraw the professional lines, he can do it. No more lunches/dinners where it is only two. There must be 3+ in the party as a buffer.

The Mike Pence rule.

Seriously.

Your husband sees something in this women he does not see in you. Either a behavior trait, personality, etc.

Inappropriate, but likely not an emotional affair. Also, your DH is too much of a goody two shoes to have a real affair. Men who affair would be so dumb as to tell their wives they almost got to first base.

You can scare him straight now. Also, a good time to remember men need sex to feel appreciated, so take stock in what your bedroom looks like and cut this off before he finds twu wuv in the arms of another.

NP here. Never heard the term tickle truth before. Context clues helped me figure it out - but man, is this a common phrase?

Not an emotional affair, it’s a “failed” affair.