Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I wonder if the older you get the harder it gets. I’m so independent and settled at 30 that it will be challenging to merge finances and lives. Sometimes I wish I had been young and naive.

It absolutely does. I know older women who could easily find partners to marry but refuse to upend their current lives.

I'm married, but at 40+ I realize I will never remarry if I happen to outlive or divorce DH. It's just too much hassle to get used to a brand new person!

25-ish, I think. Then again, life doesn't always happen on a "perfect" schedule. I married at 28 which I thought was good.

I knew a woman back in the 80’s who got married at the age of thirteen. She was from a poor family and her husband, who was 19 and in the army, took care of her. She finished her education and turned out to be a pretty normal person.

Late 20s, early 30s

29

I would not have wanted to get married before 27 - I feel like 5 years after college is a good time to get the craziness out of your system, get your career started, get some experience living alone and getting by on your own. 27 gives you plenty of time to be married and then have kids without freaking out about AMA nonsense.

as it turns out, I am still single at 45. So 47 would be a good age to get married too!

For us it was 23... we are now 44. we did wait 7 years prior to having kids, as we were both in grad school, but we traveled a lot and would hang out with our mostly single friends a lot.

However, if you don't find the right person, don't marry the wrong person simply because of your age. And when you find the right person, don't opt out and think you're too young because you're only 25.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: What is the best age to get married in your eyes?

Never

+1000

I am an earlier poster who agreed with not before age 30. But you know what? I have repeatedly said that I will not encourage my daughters to marry. I think it is an outdated institution that does not need to exist with the way things are today.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: What is the best age to get married in your eyes?

Never

+1000

I don’t know. I wonder if the older you get the harder it gets. I’m so independent and settled at 30 that it will be challenging to merge finances and lives. Sometimes I wish I had been young and naive.

Mid to late 20s

Anonymous wrote:Not a minute before 30.

*1

Probably between 28-33.

Maturity level should be high and careers established.

Plus prime time to start thinking about a family.

I think it's an entirely individual question, although of course societal standards have an effect.

We got married at 23/24 fresh out of graduate school. I'm glad we got married when we did, it allowed us to have kids earlier. Did we have a lot of immature fights especially early in the marriage? Yes. Did we both do a lot of changing that we hadn't planned for? Yes. But we came out stronger on the other side for some of those struggles and I ultimately feel closer to my husband because we "grew up" together.