I dragged myself through 4 months of totally unnecessary pain hoping that my xBF would want to get back together. He was so good at giving me false hope but I allowed it to happen. I had an opportunity with my job to take a 2 month assignment in another state. I did not even tell him I was leaving town and I vowed to myself I would no longer contact him. It was the best thing I could have done for myself. He texted me after a month and asked to hang out. I was not even tempted to respond. No contact is truly the way to go.

OP and PP -- I am in the same boat. Let's start fresh and delete any evidence of these a-h*les from our hearts and minds.

OP here. I've really turned a corner. I was feeling like a loser, thinking "why would anyone want me"? His comment about not wanting to date me because he deserves more for his life, in hindsight, is a really, really f***ed up thing to say. Making me feel less then, or like a liability, because I have children? Please.

I've started embracing my role as single mom and valuing myself. Working out more. Reading new books. Enjoying my kids more. Branching out.

I've also started reflecting more on his sh**ty qualities and behaviors, rather than keeping him on a pedestal. It helps put everything in perspective.

Thanks for the support all.