Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the comments. This is OP. I would not go to great pains to do this-no miscarriages followed by trying again, no IVF, etc. Will keep thinking it over for the moment...
I support you in your decision to go for #3. However once you start trying you don't really know how you will if you face failure.
I thought if I suffered mosxsriage when trying for #3 I would abandon the plan because it would be a sign that I was too old. But in fact it made me all the more determined to make it happen. I would have never predicted that. Just something you should be aware of.
Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the comments. This is OP. I would not go to great pains to do this-no miscarriages followed by trying again, no IVF, etc. Will keep thinking it over for the moment...
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know whether I am just feeling like this is my last chance (I’m 40) or what, but I have baby fever lately. My daughters say they would love a baby sibling, but I’m not sure that would be the case once someone had to share a room... my husband isn’t so hot on the idea, but he could be convinced. He’s 47 and feels like it may be a little late. I am from a big family (number 2 of 5) and I loved taking care of the younger kids. It made having a baby undaunting and I truly loved having newborns. But, there are factors like the fact that I work full-time, the toddler years, the bigger car, and the difficulty traveling that can’t be ignored. Still, I’m panicking that I might only have a decade left with kids at home. Anyone else have a big break and then have a baby?
Anonymous wrote:You are the type who needs to care for babies to fulfil your existence.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My third pregnancy kicked my ass. And he was a terrible sleeper. He wpuld only sleep on my chest on his stomach for months!
Just because you had easy pregnancies and easy babies doesn't mean you will be guaranteed that!
Not to mention that you are an older mother with a geriatric pregnancy. Everything is older... I had no trouble getting pregnant with my son at 40 but the rest of my body started falling apart! I pulled out my back lowering him into his crib and got carpel tunnel from carrying him wrong.
You are putting off time with your husband for another ten to thirteen years, OP. And what if there are issues with the new baby?
you sound like one of those women who had kids on her early twenties and can't wait to get rid of them. but people who started later often don't feel like they because they had all the fun they wanted in their twenties. I lived with my husband for many years before having children and while I don't mind having an empty nest I am certainly not counting the days to it, either.