Life is what you make it. I am an early thirties mom and have a great circle of friends locally and many long-term far-flung friends. My life is simple but that doesn't make it boring. Maybe you need to get out more, both literally and in terms of your comfort zone.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

Any tips for finding these people?

Put yourself out there. Ask parents to hang out. Invite them over, even if for play dates at first. Play music, talk about your wild youth, offer them a drink even if it's 2pm, crack a joke when the clock strikes 4:20...

Be patient. Most parents of little kids are in ruts, but a lot want help getting out.

Wow, so edgy!

You have a suggestion, bitch?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

I do think OP is just surrounding herself with the wrong people.

But I have no interest in going to concerts and getting high. Is that what fun is to some people?

We still travel with and without kids, go to happy hours at least once per week, play in rec leagues, and skip out to wineries when our kids are occupied. Look for people without kids. They're usually still up for going out, and the conversations about kids will be minimal because they just don't care much about your spawn.

Yes. People like concerts. This is news to you?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

Any tips for finding these people?

Put yourself out there. Ask parents to hang out. Invite them over, even if for play dates at first. Play music, talk about your wild youth, offer them a drink even if it's 2pm, crack a joke when the clock strikes 4:20...

Be patient. Most parents of little kids are in ruts, but a lot want help getting out.

Wow, so edgy!

I've been realizing recently that it's taken me about 8 years to really readjust to being a mom and make changes in my life that make me happy in a different way, without the partying, like in my 20s.

You need to give it time and also be open to change, find new ways of having fun and being social. And you will find other women like you. But if you keep moping for the good old days, you will never get them back. That ship has sailed. The sorriest moms I know are the ones who still try to go out and party like they are in their 20s.

Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

I do think OP is just surrounding herself with the wrong people.

But I have no interest in going to concerts and getting high. Is that what fun is to some people?

We still travel with and without kids, go to happy hours at least once per week, play in rec leagues, and skip out to wineries when our kids are occupied. Look for people without kids. They're usually still up for going out, and the conversations about kids will be minimal because they just don't care much about your spawn.

Most people say their 30s were the best years of their life.

I didn't consider my 30s boring. It was definitely a more stable time--we moved into our forever house, decided to settle down in a particular suburb, just got more settled overall. My social life blossomed after motherhood like never before--I made tons of friends, entertained a lot. I wanted to have 2 kids but after 5 years of TTC/infertility treatments we gave up on that dream, and only were able to have one. One has its advantages though, and we were able to travel a lot to interesting places. Now I'm 41 and considering going back for a second career/second grad degree. I don't think the 30s are boring at all.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not the age, it's the stage of life. I had my kids at 39, so my forties have been "boring", although I was never a partier. Now that my youngest is almost 10, I feel like i have my life back somewhat. But little kids means you are going to be son get little kid things for a while.

But also, if you are this antsy and you SAH, go back to work. People who need to work and have small children get their adult-self time at the office, so the non-office time is kid-centric.

+1. Except I had mine at 42. 40ties were boring and “different” compared to my 20ties and 30ties - then I was a jet setting socialite. I don’t mine though. BTDT when I was young. No desire to relive it now that I am in my 50ties.

Another poster here who had a very interesting decade in my 30s because I was in grad school for my PhD, got married, wrote a book. Had my first kid at 40. Take heart OP. You'll get some more fun in your 50s when your kids are big while we'll still be in the trenches.

Anonymous wrote:My 20s were a great time. I was starting an interesting career, was meeting new exciting friends, and went out all the times. As a mom in my 30s life is boring as fuck!!!!! I enjoy motherhood, but socializing outside of my kid seriously is lacking. Why are people with families so fucking boring?!?! I know it won't be like my 20s again, with late night drinking escapades, but isn't there some fun 30s equivalent that doesn't involve kid s or mommy talk. It also seems like everyone in this stage in life is wearing a mask. I'm so over the boring fake ness. Where are the fun people hiding?????

Try stop foul mouthing for a change.

You can absolutely be cool as a cool clear minded person, in any age.

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 30's and soooo glad I don't have kids yet. What you are describing is exactly what I dread.

I mean...if you DO want kids, you'll go through a period of this regardless. The little kid years are a slog. I guess you're thinking it better to go through that in your 40s but...debatable. You'll be a heck of a lot more tired, I can tell you that. As someone who dealt with unexpected infertility, I'd caution you not to wait too long

Anonymous wrote:It isn't your age, it is motherhood. Yes, you are both bored and boring. When your kids are older it is easier to regain your interests and life.

This.

Anonymous wrote:You are hanging around the wrong people.

+1
There are fun yet responsible moms out there who won't tell you to "grow up" because you don't want life to be boring. Keep looking, you'll find them!

Threads like this remind me that there are two sides to every coin. Sometimes I envy SAHMs, but ultimately I am grateful for having a great job downtown where I can continue to partake in the occasional Michelin Star dinner, concert at the 930 Club, or gallery opening.

Anonymous wrote:My 20s were a great time. I was starting an interesting career, was meeting new exciting friends, and went out all the times. As a mom in my 30s life is boring as fuck!!!!! I enjoy motherhood, but socializing outside of my kid seriously is lacking. Why are people with families so fucking boring?!?! I know it won't be like my 20s again, with late night drinking escapades, but isn't there some fun 30s equivalent that doesn't involve kid s or mommy talk. It also seems like everyone in this stage in life is wearing a mask. I'm so over the boring fake ness. Where are the fun people hiding?????

Just be glad that you didn't have babies in your 20's. At least you had some years of 'me time'. Time to move on Momma. That ship has sailed.