Anonymous wrote:There is a heaven and there is a hell. The only way to heaven is through Jesus. If people didn't fear death they wouldn't freak out and call 911 so frantically during a heart attack.

You evangelicals are so weird

I’m afraid of dying when my kids need me or my kids dying. My brother died when he was 12 and after that my dad abruptly ran off so leaving my kids to fend for themselves terrifies me.

I have stage IV breast cancer, which means terminal. I'm in my e early 40's. I watched my mom,die of this disease 2 years before I was diagnosed. I think her death process scared me, but also gave me a a strange comfort that we are not alone when we cross over. I'm absolutely terrified of leaving my kids behind, especially with mom gone as well.
I had a very vivid dream of my uncle coming to get my mom. I have never had that dream before or since. He hugged me in the dream and never spoke but gave me the sense someone was waiting for me too. And not to be afraid. I read a quote by the actor Rainn Wilson once "We don't know what is after death just like a baby doesn't know what is after birth. Why do we always asume it's a horrible thing?"

Anonymous wrote:Scared of dying and leaving my kids without a mom. But if I die old and I'm just tired and want it over with, I guess not.

This. I never feared death til I had kids. Let me raise them first. Then I will again no longer fear death.

There is a heaven and there is a hell. The only way to heaven is through Jesus. If people didn't fear death they wouldn't freak out and call 911 so frantically during a heart attack.

Anonymous wrote:I'm tired of living so no, death will be welcomed. It's the how I'm afraid of.

The second scary part for me is being alone and or having to be taken care of by my kids. They hate me.

Why?

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I wish I had faith that there is a heaven because, even if I were wrong, I still wouldn't have to fear death like I do.

Exactly this. I don’t think I’d fear it if I believed I’d go somewhere nice & eventually be reunited with loved ones. I’m terrified of leaving my kids & don’t want them to experience the pain of losing me.

I nearly died twice already, so no. I processed mortality in my 20s the first time I dealt with my medical issue. Second time was different as I had children.

Like others, it's not about you and a life cut short. It's about those left behind. I worry sometimes and don't expect to live to see grandchildren. When I start thinking morose, I focus on the present moment and humor.

My condition is the kind of thing that just strikes without notice. You're dead quick.

I think it is one of the odd blessings of depression that I don’t fear death.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I wish I had faith that there is a heaven because, even if I were wrong, I still wouldn't have to fear death like I do.

^I could also remind myself that the people I love who have died are in heaven & that I will see them again whenever I am hit with a wave of seemingly unbearable grief (which is often...) & I'm sure that would bring me the kind of comfort & closure that I currently lack.

Yes. I wish I had faith that there is a heaven because, even if I were wrong, I still wouldn't have to fear death like I do.

No, I am not, but I would feel horribly if it happened any time soon. I would not want to leave my teenage daughter at this point.

The first time in 40 years that you have been intimately affected by death? Count yourself lucky. I have lost so many people in 45 years.....three infant nephews from SIDS, my younger brother, my dad from suicide when I was 11, all of my grandparents, my great-grandfather, my step-grandfather, aunts, uncles and cousins.....how does death not touch you until you are 40? I am dying from a life-threatening illness. No, death does not scare me for myself. I only ask that I outlive my children.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I am scared and very angry about the idea of missing out on all the rest of the world after I die, it seems so unfair that we only get one life time. I don't understand why that isn't something we talk about all the time. I appreciated it on "The Good Place" when a non - human character got a sense of mortality for the first time, said "how do humans live like this?!" And was told that we're all a little sad, all the time, because of it. And then it struck me as bizarre that I don't think I've ever seen a comedy, and little other pop culture, that acknowledges we're all going to die. It's not part of American culture like it was in the Puritan era.

I am so sorry for your loss, OP.

I also want to know what happens! Like how will my kids and grandkids and great grandkids do, what will technology become, will we ever have world peace, etc.

No. I don’t want it to be painful, but I’m not really afraid of t actually happening.

I think part of this is because I’m religious and partly because I spend a lot of time walking and running in cemeteries (hey, it’s quiet, has little traffic, and tombstones are interesting to read) and I’ve come to think it will be quite peaceful.